Subject: From what I just read you kind of know you are living in danger. Lynn I want to commend you for taking a huge step to finding a safe place in life. You are not the blame for everything in you husbands life. You can't FIX other people....YOU'RE NOT A GOD!! You are taking steps to reach out for help and that will help heal you. But the main reason I had to respond to this is I was you once. Finding every reason for my companions anger. Trying to make reason out of the unreasonable. It almost killed me. You can never know how anger someone is going to get. I hope hope you find the strength to continue believing in yourself enough to move forward. For your kids and you ....you must continue to love life more then living with a soul killer. I wish you good luck and GOD'S BLESSINGS AND GRACE.
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Date Posted:21:35:19 06/11/08 Wed In reply to:
Lynn
's message, "Always my fault" on 15:28:55 06/07/08 Sat
>I have been married for 4 years together for 7 years
>and I am getting really weary.I married out of my
>culture(I am American and my husband is Latino)...I
>feel like ever since we have been together that I lost
>myself.I gained weight and Im fatigued and I am
>stressed and angry.I used to be a very calm person.
>I am a stay at home Mom and Im older(in my 40's)My
>question is I guess if Im in an emtional abusive
>situation.
>My husband does not beat me physically...in the start
>of our relationship though,he would drive in the car
>errratically to scare me and he smacked me a few times.
>He has an explosive temper...he doesn't get along with
>anyone wherever he works.He has tried to calm his
>temper over the years...however,little things set him
>off.
>Right now I became overdrawn at the bank(rarely
>happens)&
>he always tells me that everything I do is a mistake
>etc...
>I feel so depressed because he never gives me any
>emotional support.He is very cold and without empathy.
>I have three kids & one is from a previous
>marriage...many times he verbally abuses my son and I
>feel guilty for staying with him.I sometimes want a
>way out of this relationship but don't know where to
>start.I don't have my own car and Im stuck at home all
>the time with the kids.
>I feel sorry for my kids because they never have
>anything to do in this house.It just gets me so
>depressed.
>One thing he does is he makes so much out of little
>things...things that normal people wouldnt get upset
>over...everything is a big deal with him.He also keeps
>a tight rein on our money since Im a stay at home
>Mom...Im expected to pay all the bills but Im lucky if
>he gives me
>a little bit out of the paycheck.He seems to always be
>complaining about money.
>Does any of this sound familiar?
>Thanks for listening...
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From what I just read you kind of know you are living in danger. Lynn I want to commend you for taking a huge step to finding a safe place in life. You are not the blame for everything in you husbands life. You can't FIX other people....YOU'RE NOT A GOD!! You are taking steps to reach out for help and that will help heal you. But the main reason I had to respond to this is I was you once. Finding every reason for my companions anger. Trying to make reason out of the unreasonable. It almost killed me. You can never know how anger someone is going to get. I hope hope you find the strength to continue believing in yourself enough to move forward. For your kids and you ....you must continue to love life more then living with a soul killer. I wish you good luck and GOD'S BLESSINGS AND GRACE.