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Subject: Re: Always my fault


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trish mc (Contact me PLEASE!)
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Date Posted: 12:22:21 06/18/08 Wed
In reply to: Lynn 's message, "Always my fault" on 15:28:55 06/07/08 Sat

>I have been married for 4 years together for 7 years
>and I am getting really weary.I married out of my
>culture(I am American and my husband is Latino)...I
>feel like ever since we have been together that I lost
>myself.I gained weight and Im fatigued and I am
>stressed and angry.I used to be a very calm person.
>I am a stay at home Mom and Im older(in my 40's)My
>question is I guess if Im in an emtional abusive
>situation.
>My husband does not beat me physically...in the start
>of our relationship though,he would drive in the car
>errratically to scare me and he smacked me a few times.
>He has an explosive temper...he doesn't get along with
>anyone wherever he works.He has tried to calm his
>temper over the years...however,little things set him
>off.
>Right now I became overdrawn at the bank(rarely
>happens)&
>he always tells me that everything I do is a mistake
>etc...
>I feel so depressed because he never gives me any
>emotional support.He is very cold and without empathy.
>I have three kids & one is from a previous
>marriage...many times he verbally abuses my son and I
>feel guilty for staying with him.I sometimes want a
>way out of this relationship but don't know where to
>start.I don't have my own car and Im stuck at home all
>the time with the kids.
>I feel sorry for my kids because they never have
>anything to do in this house.It just gets me so
>depressed.
>One thing he does is he makes so much out of little
>things...things that normal people wouldnt get upset
>over...everything is a big deal with him.He also keeps
>a tight rein on our money since Im a stay at home
>Mom...Im expected to pay all the bills but Im lucky if
>he gives me
>a little bit out of the paycheck.He seems to always be
>complaining about money.
>Does any of this sound familiar?
>Thanks for listening...

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Hi Lyn, to answer your question, yes, it sounds like you are in an abusive relationship. Abuse comes in various forms: physical, emotional / psychological, spiritual, financial and sexual. It is easy to see you are in pain. My question to you would be, "what would you like to do with this pain?" I just wrote an article that I will post on line now teaching us about why we have bad emotions.Dr. Tracy Kemble13:24:19 06/29/08 Sun


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