Subject: Hi Alumni sorry for the delay in my response. When a person is abusive they rarely admit, "Wow, I suck at loving people." It sounds like you might be expecting your mom to own her abuse (which obviously she feels that she is doing a stellar job) before u expose ur kids. When a mother rejects a child it causes a pain that runs very deep. Is your mother aware of ur pain? And if she is, is she willing to establish a healthier relationship with you? When it comes to your kids, you have 2 choices in front of you: 1) keep them from her because she is not safe in your opinion. 2) give them limited supervised access to her. If you choose #1, you have that right as you are the kids protector. We don't choose our family and sometimes if they are not safe, it is our responsibility to keep them at arms distance. If you choose #2, then you have the right to establish what you will expect as far as behavior. Remember that u can ask, but she might not be able to perform. Hope this helps.
