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Subject: Dont know how to handle my feelings Author: Freda (confused and hurt) [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 20:30:28 07/08/07 Sun Hey I have been married for 3 years and have known my husband for 14 or 15 years As of last year we separated because of him not being happy always at the bowling alley or anywhere but home.After we separated I got a call from a girl he was messing with and to make a long story short she was the first of 3 all lesbians I later found out. well in sept of last year he came back home to try to work on thing and to of course have a place to lay his head at night.... One day on my way home from work a girl he was seeing before coming home called and told me her 16 year old son had been at the lake all weekend with alex and that alex had gave him a blow job I went home and confronted him and sure enuf he denied it but it was true he busted the window in his truck and finally went to the hospital and admitted to the 5th floor (psych) ward he came home 4 days later telling me was bi curious is what the doctor called it... I c him quite a bit because he moved down the road from me and it is hard not wanting to know where and what he is doing I know he is gay and I want to move on from him its just so hard... [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Dont know how to handle my feelings Author: Trill [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:52:10 07/10/07 Tue Freda You are doing well to be separated from this guy. Perhaps it is judgemental of me, but if I caught my husband (who is gay by the way) giving a 16 yr old boy a blow job, out the door on his way to jail he would go!! That is against the law, as it should be! I do not care how confused this guy is. Wrong is wrong.. and this is child abuse. He stole that young man's innocence. This is something that sticks with a person. I doubt that I could remain friends even under those conditions, but this is your call not mine. And unfortunately you are not alone hon. There are horror stories I have heard just like what you describe. I have zero tolerance when it comes to sexual abuse, especially of a minor. But not all sexually confused men act this way. My husband cheated on me, but with men, not by sexually abusing minors. It still hurts. So you are going though the pain of losing him, and also of knowing what he did... sort of a double whammy. I am sorry you had to go through that. One of the things that I insisted on when my husband and I recommitted to our relationship, was that we enjoy one another. I refuse to stay in a marriage that is not fulfilling for me or that is not enjoyable over all. We all go through our ups and downs, but generally, if you are up more than down then its a good sign. But if you are lonely in your own bed or marriage, then its time to rethink the relationship. Hugs trill