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Date Posted: 16:52:10 07/10/07 Tue
You are doing well to be separated from this guy. Perhaps it is judgemental of me, but if I caught my husband (who is gay by the way) giving a 16 yr old boy a blow job, out the door on his way to jail he would go!!
That is against the law, as it should be!
I do not care how confused this guy is. Wrong is wrong.. and this is child abuse. He stole that young man's innocence. This is something that sticks with a person.
I doubt that I could remain friends even under those conditions, but this is your call not mine. And unfortunately you are not alone hon. There are horror stories I have heard just like what you describe. I have zero tolerance when it comes to sexual abuse, especially of a minor.
But not all sexually confused men act this way. My husband cheated on me, but with men, not by sexually abusing minors. It still hurts. So you are going though the pain of losing him, and also of knowing what he did... sort of a double whammy. I am sorry you had to go through that.
One of the things that I insisted on when my husband and I recommitted to our relationship, was that we enjoy one another. I refuse to stay in a marriage that is not fulfilling for me or that is not enjoyable over all. We all go through our ups and downs, but generally, if you are up more than down then its a good sign. But if you are lonely in your own bed or marriage, then its time to rethink the relationship.