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Brittany (empathetic)
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Date Posted: 08:49:58 04/27/11 Wed
In reply to:
deremarc
's message, "Re: Struggling with the "guy" issue" on 12:54:54 10/12/06 Thu
When I read your blog, all I could think of was wow, that's my life! I am dealing with the same issue of trust, and I think that is the hardest one. My husband has lied to me for all these years, even when I first confronted him, he lied to my face with out even batting an eye. Thats what scared me the most that even as I watched his face looking for "tells" knowing fully that he was lying, I couldn't tell. I have allowed my husband to indulge on the side a couple of times with the agreement that he would tell me everything. I caught him with variances in his stories. He now doesn't get to indulge on the side and has to wear a condom with me for 7 months until he get's tested.He says he's telling me the truth now, but that's the problem with a lying, I never know what to believe.
Hang in there, and stay strong. I know it's hard, but you have to protect yourself first. Know that it's not your fault, that there is nothing wrong with you, you are beautiful the way you are. This is HIS problem.Make sure there are consequences for lying, and praise him for his honesty, no matter how much it hurts you, If he's honest with you, and you freak out on him, he'll never be truthful again. But that doesn't mean you have to condone his actions either. If he does something you don't like, but admits to it, gently say you appreciate him being honest, but you can't risk your own health so he will have to wear a condom for awhile until he can be tested.
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