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Subject: Re: Confused and waiting Author: Trill [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 07:28:50 11/07/07 Wed In reply to: Mary 's message, "Confused and waiting" on 09:39:55 11/04/07 Sun Hello Mary I understand your feelings, having been through this myself. I think that the best thing to do is to take some time to sort through this. You mention that you were grossed out by what you saw, and I gather also, that you stopped even kissing him. But you also state that you want to be with him. So there is this conflict of interests going on with your brain right now... totally understandable given what you have discovered. But how can you move forward as wife with him if you are grossed out? And do you want to? Now as it happens, when I went through these same discoveries, I was at first grossed out. But in thinking about my husband, I realize he is still the same handsome guy I fell in love with 25plus years ago. I just know more about him now. So I wanted to reconnect with this guy... and by doing so I would then be able to see if I really truly wanted to stay with him for the rest of my life. So... I looked at his personality.. and his positive traits and our life together thus far. It was all good. He treats me well. He is sweet and loving, kind and considerate. And I am still attracted to him physically. So I looked a bit deeper into the whole "Yuk" factor.. why this repulsion to seeing him seeking out cyber sex with men? For me what it boiled down to was that if he was attracted to men, or gay... it would mean he didnt go for me, since I am all woman. But the fact is that he is still attracted to me. He does still want to be with me romantically. This revelation went a long way towards removing the yuk factor. But thats me... this is you and your feelings we are talking about so I need more input hon. Feel free to write me at my email address provided. hugs trill [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]