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Date Posted: 16:28:19 04/01/07 Sun
Author: doc
Subject: Actually HPW, I have to disagree with you about your comments on statutory rape. Inside…
In reply to: highplainswoman 's message, "followup on previous comments (inside)" on 05:32:42 04/01/07 Sun

I live with this issue on a regular basis, or rather I deal with the consequences of statutory rape on a daily basis. Statutory rape is RARELY ever prosecuted when the sex occurs between consenting individuals. I might also add that the issue is rarely even raised when the male is 18 & the female 17. The issue most often comes up when Daddy is 20, 22, 24, etc, & Mommy is 14 or 15. I’m sorry but it is absolutely wrong when an ADULT male becomes involved with a young teenage girl. A young girl is simply not prepared to make difficult decisions in this regards & is easily manipulated…hence my involvement in taking care of the sick baby. Daddy can’t be bothered to think about birth control & teenager Mommy does know enough to ask or seek precautions.

Even taking all that into account, I personally have never seen a statutory rape case pursued, unless the sex was nonconsensual or the girl was very young, 12 maybe 13. In most case, the “relationship” is given a pass unless the parents of the girl choose to take issue.

As for the case shown on CTH…Rape is Rape. Just like murder is murder. At least, there may be extenuating circumstances in a murder (i.e. protecting yourself or another individual, who is too weak to protect themselves). As far as I’m concerned, there are NO extenuating circumstances for rape. NO MEANS NO! I can’t think of any circumstance where raping another individual can be dismissed, condoned or argued to be appropriate. Feeling sorry doesn’t undo the crime…doesn’t give a girl/woman back her ‘sense of control,’ self-esteem or virginity. Just like feeling sorry for a murder doesn’t give the victim back their life. Maybe the victim, in this case (the CTH case), was finally able to regain some sense of self-control by standing up for herself…by seeking justice. Maybe the fact, that someone FINALLY listened to her & believed her, will in itself help her start to heal.

This case was based on a real life event. In the real case, the victim repeated went to the university administration & asked for help, for an investigation into the allegations, & for some sort of retribution from the perpetrator. The administration didn’t listen and didn’t take action, except to bring both students before a peer review board. It’s no wonder, years later when the victim had real proof in the form of a letter, that she chose to pursue the case in criminal court. It was her first real chance to regain some self-control & bring her attacker to justice. Being able to regain self-control & self-esteem is part of the healing process for any victim. And until that happens (whenever, however), the victim can never really begin to move on.

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[> [> [> Its interesting to see everyones POV. Highplainswoman, I have to disagree with your opinion that the man who raped "once" isn't a sexual offender. If commiting a rape and then allowing the next guy outside the door to also rape the victim isn't a sexual offence then maybe you should explain what is? I'm certainly confused. Rape is offensive and its sexual. That man with all the character has both points of the term covered. -- sj...with my black and white glasses firmly in place., 22:26:31 04/01/07 Sun [1]


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