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Date Posted: 16:26:26 01/29/07 Mon
Author: Nanette
Subject: Truly socializing

I have to admit to some embarrassment when thinking about my social interactions with friends and family before while I was drinking. I'm not talking about the "dancing with a lamp shade on ones head" kind of stuff either. While that kind of stuff was embarrassing, I'm over that already. But, I don't think I gave anyone the real friend or family member status they deserved. I, of course, enjoyed my friends and family, but, it was better, or so I thought, with my best bottle buddy too. The bottle was always a part of the social situation, and if it wasn't I didn't care as much who I was with otherwise. It's such a self-absorbed outlook, in hindsight.
This may be the one thing that still tugs at my heart strings a bit. (I'm working on that too) I'm finding out I have some really great friends. Some I've had for years, but, I was impatient and distracted by the booze until I actually ingested some. And then, maybe there was an hour or so in my friends presence where I could actually concentrate on them before getting high. I'm still trying not to beat myself up about that. But, I do really enjoy my friends and family a lot more now, as I'm sure they enjoy me more. I'm getting to know them better, as I'm getting to know me better. It's really...wonderful.
The alcohol was never the "social lubricant" needed in any social situation. All parts needed to make up an enjoyable social experience were already there with the people there. I'm so very thankful that I was lucky enough to have the friends and family that I do. They help make my world go round and they deserve my undivided attention. It's so nice paying attention to them. Discovering lots of wonderful aspects to their lives too.

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Re: Truly socializing -- N, 16:39:12 01/29/07 Mon