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INXS
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Date Posted: 07:25:19 09/02/13 Mon
In reply to:
Master Mike
's message, "Re: Spankings will continue" on 06:45:20 09/02/13 Mon
Confused,
I think some of us kind of missed the gist of your actual question...it wasn't why she chose spanking over grounding, it was why did she (seemingly) work so hard to get into trouble at all...yes?
I think it's good that you draw a distinction between A) Getting herself into trouble; and B) Choosing spanking over grounding. It seems we've addressed B - or what we thought may be B, but not A.
I don't want to be rude of offensive in any way, but are we all avoiding the elephant in the room? Perhaps she just likes to be spanked. As a 12 y/o, would any of us on this board really be so shocked and appalled that that could be the answer? And honestly, it doesn't necessarily imply she derives any kind of sexual pleasure from the experience, it may be - strange as it may sound - that it gives her a sense of security and love, maybe something she only responds to at subconscious level herself, not recognizing it makes her feel safe. I'm no clinical psychologist, but I do know that some kids actually equate being spanked with being loved...just sort of an affirmation of that love.
OTOH, maybe she really does derive sexual pleasure from being spanked; is that so far out of the realm of possibility? I know this seems like a touchy conversation since it involves your own 12 y/o daughter, but she is human just like the rest of us, made up with a lot of inexplicable feelings and desires.
Hypothetically speaking, MAYBE she was intentionally trying to get into trouble, angling for a spanking; when the verdict came down that instead of a spanking she was going to be grounded, she found herself in a lose/lose situation...she didn't get the spanking she was hoping for, but yet she was still in trouble and the consequences were something she most certainly did NOT want.
Perhaps with her, the ends justifies the means; she doesn't really want to be in trouble with you or necessarily have you mad at her, but the result is the spanking she wants. And then once it is delivered, she is no longer in trouble...so it's a small, temporary price to pay having you mad at her, to get what she wants.
This is all just a theory Confused, and please forgive me if my pointing out what COULD be the obvious is offensive to you; I don't mean for that. At 12 she is becoming a young woman, no longer a little girl...things change. And who among us who have a "spanking thing" didn't realize it by age 12? Even though I'm more on the "giving" than the "receiving" side of the equation, I think that the moment the doctor first smacked by bare behind to take my first breath of life, I was forevermore, hopelessly hooked! :)
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