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GerPo
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Date Posted: 06:20:19 09/07/13 Sat
In reply to:
Confused
's message, "Re: Spankings will continue" on 05:11:37 09/04/13 Wed
Spanking has so many aspects (look at all those threads here!). In my personal experience, a spanking can be harsh and cold, or it can be a rather intimate act between mother and child (and I will leave apart the rather different sort of spanking between partners). It is easy to see why that is so - there is the element of pain, of embarrassment and shame, and the element of closeness, of bodily contact, of exposure and stimulation (of sorts) of intimate parts of the body. No wonder that even youngsters can be ambivalent about getting spanked (and as you point out, Confused, moms can be ambivalent about spanking too).
So, getting to the point, your daughter may have a slight (or not so slight) fascination with that "warm" aspect of spanking, and since she cannot ask you to spank her without giving you a good reason, she tries to behave in a way that leaves you no other choice. Most likely, your girl herself doesn't understand that mechanism, but the urge seems to be fairly strong. So, what to do? Give her what she wants (and needs, as Mandy says), and possibly add some small additional punishment. The spanking will calm her down and restore that peace within her. Certainly better than grounding the poor girl for 4 weeks!
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