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Subject: Re: Talking about spankings


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Daniel
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Date Posted: 11:17:25 08/04/15 Tue
In reply to: Tanya 's message, "Re: Talking about spankings" on 07:14:37 07/30/15 Thu

" ... Whenever spanking was talked about mum was always open about the way she punished . ..."

I think that there is a reason for that.
Fortunately, we were spared that kind of Community Confession and the details that would have been disclosed or imagined.
However my mom, my aunts and others in our circle often would expand a comment like "Danny is standing today because his heiney is sore and red." into a detailed discussion and if it was earlier and I had been allowed to get dressed, might include letting slacks drop to the floor so undies could be tugged below the knees with nothing left to the imagination.
But, Why did that seem like a good idea, to my mom at least?
Well it implied that here was nothing wrong with the discipline that was exacted and there was nothing to hide.
The physical display also showed that while a heiney was red, it was not an excessive beating and was (sometimes) almost healed.
Otherwise if corporal punishment was concealed or a family secret, a person might wonder why?
Seeing some indication of a child messaging their heiney or avoiding taking a seat comfortably could mean that a mom or dad felt guilty about what had happened or even that something excessive had occurred.
I am sure my mom felt it was better to impose the added humiliation of a discussion or even being exposed again not as out of meanness, but to thus quell at the start any speculation about what happened behind closed doors.
My sister once explained that mom had often held off a spanking until our aunt or one of mom's friends happened to be present as a witness who could state that our spankings had been reasonable.
That tied in with some of the stories about sexual and physical abuse my mom had endured growing up, that were for so many years a shameful family skeleton carefully hidden in a dark basement closet.
I belieive that other parents might have felt the same way.
Does that not sound reasonable to you ?

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Re: Talking about spankingsTanya23:16:16 08/14/15 Fri


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