| Subject: Re: YES SPANKING WORKS... |
Author:
Uwe
|
[
Next Thread |
Previous Thread |
Next Message |
Previous Message
]
Date Posted: 01:44:10 11/12/16 Sat
In reply to:
Nicole H
's message, "Re: YES SPANKING WORKS..." on 13:22:15 11/09/16 Wed
Hi Nicole,
you did not misunderstand me. I know, for 99% of all (even pro-spanking) parents the idea of regular spankings not depending on the behaviour of the children seems weird, bizarr and pervert. But if you really think about it, you will understand that it is nothing of that. Just the contrary: Done in the right way, with good explanations to the child, with constant rituals and a warm, understanding and loving atmosphere apart from the spankings, it is the silver bullet of discipline based parenting. Why? Because it is looking forward and not backward. Our christian tradition is based on guilt and expiation. From the old testament it is even based on the idea of revenge. But all this has nothing to do with a modern enlightened reasonable society and has nothing to do with good parenting. Good parenting is character and self-discipline training for the future, for life as a teenager, later as an adult, is training the ability of doing also very unpleasant things, of keeping attitude also in hard situations of life. What happened in the past had happened, it cannot be withdrawed. And a child (same as an adult) acts the way, he/she feels at that moment he/she acts. And because of the fact that we all are mammalians with a big brain but with underdevelloped social skills (still archaic from our life in caves and tribes), we have to be trained for modern social life, and this training has to be hard and is necessarily painful.
This only as a first short explanation. I know that it is not so easy to accept it and I understand if parents say, they cannot beat children who did not do anything wrong. But there are, or at least were (I know it definitely from the 1960's and 1970's in Germany) very few families who practised it and who are far away from being weirdos or perverts.
I wanted to write you an Email and installed the tor browser, but unfortunately it does not work (says me "the proxy server refuses connection"). Maybe I can fix it, but I am not sure because I am an computer idiot :-).
Best regards
Uwe
>>Nicole, a ritualised spanking typically refers to the
>>manner in which it is carried. The ritual can take
>>many forms but would typically have steps that are
>>followed to make the event memorable for the child and
>>bring home to the child that he can expect a similar
>>procedure next time as well. For example, scolding,
>>removing the child's bottoms, placing him/her otk,
>>spanking, and placing in the corner afterwards could
>>all be component parts of a ritual.
>
>Thanks WS ;-)
>But Euhhh I know what a ritual is...
>I just wanted to know what Uwe meant with the word
>"regular" (For instance : even if the child behaves it
>is good to spank them at least every two days and, in
>such a case, why is it good ?)
>and I cannot contact and ask him directly... :-(
[
Next Thread |
Previous Thread |
Next Message |
Previous Message
]
| |
