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Date Posted: 06:23:29 03/27/15 Fri
Author: Christia (Happy)
Subject: Re: Welcome Back Moms!
In reply to: Nancy 's message, "Welcome Back Moms!" on 13:09:16 03/26/15 Thu

I guess I will get the ball rolling on the intros!

I'm a single mother of one, my precious daughter, who will turn four years old this August. She was born male, and for the first about two years and a half years of her life I raised her as best I knew how, which I guess I'm still doing, but that first period of her life was spent as a boy simply due to her anatomy.

She started displaying behavioral problems about that time, and I thought more severe than just the old stereotype of the "terrible two's." A friend, who is m2f transgender, suggested that I give her more feminine options in her clothing and play times. I figured what do I have to lose? Nothing else I had tried was working.

My daughter took to it like a fish to water, and her behavior in the past months has been steadily improving. Oh she still has her moments, asserting her will, testing my resolve to deny her what she wants at the moment. I will be in trouble when she is a teenager I fear! However, the big difference is that she listens to me, even if it's not what she wants me to say. Before, she would tune me out as if I didn't exist and just do what she wanted.

Now of course I'm not saying that introducing girly things are the solution to the behavior problems of every male child, nor that every male child will take to girlhood as quickly and willingly as mine did. However, I would say this to other mothers who are in similar situations with male children who will not listen: what do you have to lose? If it has no effect, then you've successfully identified another strategy that won't work with your child. At the worst, you will give your son an appreciation for the girls around him and teach him that they are his equals in society. You just might be surprised like I was and find out that you've not had a son but a daughter all along and be thankful that you discovered that fact.

I'm looking forward to reading all the other intros that are posted here!

Christia

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Re: Welcome Back Moms! -- Joanie b, 03:19:26 03/30/15 Mon
Re: Welcome Back Moms! (Hello Christia) -- April_Case, 15:17:59 08/17/15 Mon