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Subject: Cooperation Author: from a Dad [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 10:29:00 02/10/13 Sun I have a question here for parents that spank or kids that have grown up with spankings. How much cooperation should a parent typically expect from a 10 year old, beyond the obvious fact that hes unhappy over the whole thing, when a spanking has to be given? Is it reasonable to expect some degree of cooperation over his punishment at that age, or not? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Cooperation Author: Fastolff [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 03:56:29 02/11/13 Mon At that age my co-operation could be leveraged with a series of unpalatable alternatives. If I was reluctant to cross from one side of the room where I was momentarily safe to the other side where my Mother was waiting with a hair brush, she might ask if I would rather she get the belt. If I hesitated to lay over her lap when directed, she might ask if I wanted her to pull my pants down first. If I was in my room and Dad told me to pull my pants down I might resist at first and be more co-operative after he threatened to spank me standing up naked in the living room. There was always some additional feature to the current scenario that would entice me to take the less unpleasant option. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Cooperation Author: Mark Athlete to Fastolff [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:53:06 02/11/13 Mon Hi Fastolff, Welcome to the forum! When your dad gave you spankings did he use a hairbrush like your Mom used on you or did he favor using something else? Up until age 10 my Mom used her hand to spank me, so did my dad. Since then my Mom "retired" from spanking me and only my Dad spanks me now, but he uses a wooden paddle! I, too, at a young age, learned that I needed to cooperate for spankings or my little butt would be more red and sore then what it was about to become I was told by my folks! Like you, I learned about options, too! -Mark Athlete [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooperation Author: Fastolff [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:27:21 02/14/13 Thu I don't think my Dad would have ever used a hairbrush to spank. If my bottom was bare, Dad used his hand. The only other thing he ever used to spank me was his belt and that was always with me bent over the bed with my pants on. Mom used whatever she had at hand, hairbrush, ruler, yardstick, slipper, flyswatter... Numerous threats to the contrary notwithstanding, bare bottom spankings always happened behind a closed door. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Cooperation Author: Mark Athlete [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:45:16 02/11/13 Mon I learned at a very young age when I was first getting hand spankings from my Mom and Dad that if I didn't cooperate in getting my little butt spanked, that my "little butt would be more sorry and more sore in what was to happen to it" which I was told both by my Mom and Dad. When getting spanked my little butt was bared, and then a trip over a lap would done and I had to cooperate. I first didn't do it in younger years, but soon realized I could save myself some "pain", although the spankings were going to hurt and were suppose to hurt, to teach me a lesson for doing something wrong! When I became age 10 my dad introduced a wooden paddle to me to be spanked with. I still had to get the spanking on my bare butt, still do nowadays if I do something wrong, and I was told I still "better cooperate if I knew what was best for me!" I did cooperate from that first day, and have still since. One nice thing about turning age 10, my mom felt she needed to "retire" from giving me spankings and that my dad could do the job for both of them really good. She was right. He did then, and still does today when a spanking/paddling has to be given to me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Cooperation Author: Jonathan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 21:59:55 02/15/13 Fri Yes if spanking is used 10 should be old enough to expect pretty much complete cooperation assuming you've talked and the child knows s/he's in the wrong. Certainly I cooperated (though not necessarily completely) from age 7 at least. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Cooperation Author: Drew [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:43:48 02/16/13 Sat I learned cooperation was needed before I became l0 years old when I was getting spankings. If I didn't, my butt would be hurting more then whatever number of licks my dad would be giving me with a paddle! Today, cooperation by me still is expected by my dad. I never fail, 'cause my butt doesn't need to be paddled more then whatever I'm getting of licks for a spanking. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Cooperation Author: Randy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:09:29 02/23/13 Sat At that age, making an agreement when he's not in trouble could help. Discuss with him what's acceptable and what's not, what will earn him a punishment and what would get him a reward. Get him to agree that he has to take responsibility. That way he could be reminded that he agreed, and that it will be easiest if he does as told. It could also help to speak with him in a friendly tone as long as he cooperates, after all he's taking the pain of the punishment which is bad enough, no need to add insults to that. If he doesn't you could remind him that he's acting like a little irresponsible child ... if he's eager to grow up that could help. Randy [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Cooperation Author: Mark Athlete to Randy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:54:12 02/25/13 Mon Randy, You gave some good advice to both dad and his l0 year old son. I hope the boy reads your advice and takes it or his dad could tell his son about the suggestions you told his dad that he should take if he doesn't want to get more of a severe spanking then what he will no doubt get. As you know, I told you earlier in the beginning of our friendship that I learned at a youngd age that it would be in my best interest, and my little butts best interest too, that both of us could "cooperate" and that we both wouldn't get spanked as severe if we didn't. It took me only a couple of times to find this out, and those times saw me not cooperate, not believe, that if I didn't cooperate with my mom or dad who were going to spank me for punishment that I would get a worse spanking then I was about to get! I did! It happened! I got a promised worse spanking for not cooperating, and when my little butt was on "fire" and I was jumping around and trying to rub and see if I could stop the pain from being worse coming from my butt, I soon realized that my dad or mom told me the truth what cooperation was and that I should done it, had better do it next time and the next time and... [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooperation Author: Randy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 03:38:14 02/27/13 Wed Hi, Mark. I see it this way ... In family it is essential to have a fundamental agreement on where things are going and a fundamental trust in each other: Children trust their parents that they won't do them harm and parents trust their children that they grow into their freedom and responsibility without needing constant supervision. Finding such an agreement early on - on what is the right thing to do - is an essential task of parenting. Any punishment situation is a moment of disagreement (parents disagree with something their child did) and ideally the end of it would be agreement again (the child sees what (s)he did wrong), but it is important to keep in mind there is a chance of more disagreement (children feeling parents have a personal grudge or see no other way of establishing power over them). This should be avoided, otherwise things will go very wrong! Don't underestimate your children, they can feel certain things quite well. What I'm meaning to say here is - "cooperation" means not just a child accepting whatever punishment parents have for them, in the end it means both parents and their children working together towards a common goal. They're not on opposite sides, they should most of the time be at the same side. At times they end up on opposite times when something is not right but if things are going well otherwise, children will want to get back on the same side as their parents and say: "I have done wrong here, what could I do do make up for it?" Of course that's an ideal situation that will rarely occur, but it's a goal we could all work towards. Randy [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Cooperation Author: Jimmy J. [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:46:46 05/11/13 Sat I don't think I ever tried to struggle or disobey, because I knew the spanking would be worse. My parents spanked harder the more angry they were, so I usually just wanted to get it over with. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]