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Subject: Re: Cooperation

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Mark Athlete to Randy

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Date Posted: 06:54:12 02/25/13 Mon
In reply to: Randy 's message, "Re: Cooperation" on 12:09:29 02/23/13 Sat

Randy,

You gave some good advice to both dad and his l0 year
old son. I hope the boy reads your advice and takes
it or his dad could tell his son about the suggestions
you told his dad that he should take if he doesn't want
to get more of a severe spanking then what he will no
doubt get.

As you know, I told you earlier in the beginning of our
friendship that I learned at a youngd age that it would
be in my best interest, and my little butts best interest too, that both of us could "cooperate" and that we both wouldn't get spanked as severe if we didn't.

It took me only a couple of times to find this out, and those times saw me not cooperate, not believe, that if I didn't cooperate with my mom or dad who were going to spank me for punishment that I would get a worse spanking then I was about to get! I did! It happened! I got a promised worse spanking for not cooperating, and when my little butt was on "fire" and I was jumping around and trying to rub and see if I could stop the pain from being worse coming from my butt, I soon realized that my dad or mom told me the truth what cooperation was and that I should done it, had better do it next time and the next time and...

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Randy
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Date Posted: 03:38:14 02/27/13 Wed

Hi, Mark. I see it this way ...
In family it is essential to have a fundamental agreement on where things are going and a fundamental trust in each other: Children trust their parents that they won't do them harm and parents trust their children that they grow into their freedom and responsibility without needing constant supervision.
Finding such an agreement early on - on what is the right thing to do - is an essential task of parenting.
Any punishment situation is a moment of disagreement (parents disagree with something their child did) and ideally the end of it would be agreement again (the child sees what (s)he did wrong), but it is important to keep in mind there is a chance of more disagreement (children feeling parents have a personal grudge or see no other way of establishing power over them). This should be avoided, otherwise things will go very wrong!
Don't underestimate your children, they can feel certain things quite well. What I'm meaning to say here is - "cooperation" means not just a child accepting whatever punishment parents have for them, in the end it means both parents and their children working together towards a common goal. They're not on opposite sides, they should most of the time be at the same side. At times they end up on opposite times when something is not right but if things are going well otherwise, children will want to get back on the same side as their parents and say: "I have done wrong here, what could I do do make up for it?" Of course that's an ideal situation that will rarely occur, but it's a goal we could all work towards.
Randy

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