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Subject: Forum Decorum (Please Read)


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Date Posted: 08:05:06 10/13/14 Mon

As this forum develops, I should make some things about the tone I want here.

Be respectful of others persons and opinions. Personal attacks won't be approved.

Cursing and crude words for body parts, bodily functions, and sexual acts always have more genteel alternatives. Use them.

I considered asking Andrew to modify his post and in future I shall in similar circumstances.

Here's a better way. Andrew doesn't like the rules he's under. He has that right and may express that on the forum.

However, he characterized the >rules< negatively. It's much better for him, let alone for the forum, to take ownership of his >feelings< and characterize them instead. For example, he could have said, "my behind can be spanked for their >hated< discipline. That way, he'd be expressing his true feelings, and taking ownership for his attitude. It's one essential, and early, step on the way to real change.

One of the ways women tend to be superior to men is in remaining in touch with their feelings and expressing them. Many men, however, avoid defining and owning their feelings but instead blame others. That is what Andrew did.

micheleFFS

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Re: Forum Decorum (Please Read)Andrew11:36:27 10/14/14 Tue


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