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Subject: Re: Disciplining Nephew.

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Date Posted: 09:58:17 12/05/15 Sat
In reply to: Alina 's message, "Disciplining Nephew." on 10:48:50 12/04/15 Fri


I wish you well in helping your nephew grow into a well behaved young man.

Our community here can help you better if you could give us more information. Does the boy live with you? If not, how often is he in your care? For what duration?

What kind of misbehaviors does he commit? What consequences or punishments have been tried? With what degree of success?

I'm probably of a minority view here. I think spankings punishment should be unused or rare. Instead, I think logical and natural consequences are superior. A boy carelessly breaks a window? Make him apologize and pay for the window and the time of whomever fixes it.

You can learn more about natural and logical consequences in books by Rudolph Dreikurs, especially Children, the Challenge.

I think spankings and petticoating should be reserved for offenses showing disrespect for women and girls and for remarkably immature behavior relating to women and girls. But I think such incidents are a good opportunity to teach the lads empathy. "How do you feel when someone insults you?" "If you spy on girls dressing, how would you like it if they spied on you?"

I'm uncertain how many of the stories on this board are true, but I hope the community here can be more subtle than to prescribe "nude spankings with female witnesses the boy's age or younger."

Your obedient servant,


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