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Subject: Re: Need some opinions.


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ej to Mikki
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Date Posted: 05:53:42 05/18/16 Wed
In reply to: Rutten 's message, "Re: Need some opinions." on 22:33:37 05/17/16 Tue

Hi Mikki,

I'll begin my response with this: You don't know Kathy. We are long time neighbors and we have never gotten along even with all I've done for her (prior to the incidents).

As for a sit-down? I don't know that they would favor the establishment of a fixed-ceiling. And I could never go for a limitless-ceiling because I know Kathy. I told them both from the beginning that "this could all end very quickly", and they knew what I meant. Still, this has not prevented them from slowly, step-by-step, trying to increase their control with the proof being the add-ons (penalties; service for Shirley; additional punishments).

I'd be more inclined to consider a sit-down if there were not as much friction as there is between Kathy and myself. There is no way I want to belong to her 24/7, 365. Years ago my marriage failed because I allowed things to get out of hand. I could never give full unchecked control to Kathy.

As things stand now I consider it all as a kind of game but I'm not certain how Kathy and Shirley look at it. I don't think they want to have to pay somebody to do their yard work, and I think they like the idea of not having to clean their own kitchens and bathrooms. That's not to say they won't continue to try to expand their control. That's fine, but only to a point.

While it may be a kind of game its also a serious game. I have to be on-guard constantly; one lapse could result in them having leverage. I had a lapse not long ago; nothing has been said, yet, but the day could come, and soon, when there is a knock on my door and I see Kathy and Shirley with smirks on their faces, saying, "we need to talk". So, yes, its a serious game.

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