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Date Posted: 21:51:29 12/11/17 Mon
In reply to: Sneakfish 's message, "Re: I'm slipping" on 15:11:19 12/04/17 Mon
Thank you for your reply. I apologize for taking so long to reply. You deserve more attention than you have received.
Yes, that does make things more clear. I can be much the same way myself. I don't actually feel that I have a voice in the back of my head, but that I can lose track of how I want to think and behave.
I do the same type of thing: avoid condescension (What reason could there possibly be to act that way?), empathize first, ask if people want suggestions, and so on.
Sexually, I'm a switch, so the kind of role-play you describe is pretty easy for me when it happens. But I'd hate to feel it was taking control.
Perhaps if there is a woman keeping you in line a men's group might be helpful. I attended a anger management group for well over two years and it made a huge difference in how I interact with everybody I meet.
As another suggestion, if you're going to go into a situation where you think you might be tested, do some mental preparation to keep yourself in line.
These are new ways of acting that run contrary to the prevailing view in our culture, so it's to be expected that we would be somewhat conflicted and have advances and retreats in our progress.
Your fellow striver,
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