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Subject: Re: How can I approach my wife about spanking me?

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Date Posted: 21:19:22 02/07/18 Wed
In reply to: Old guy 's message, "Re: How can I approach my wife about spanking me?" on 19:50:34 02/07/18 Wed

This old guy (67) agrees with the other Old Guy. There's a lot to think about.

First, be very clear what you want before you open a discussion with her. To me, based on your post, since I know nothing else, it seems you want a fetish relationship but not a lifestyle submission. Either of those is of course good and perfectly okay. I may be wrong, since I'm speculating on one brief post.

Doesn't matter what I think. What you feel is important.

If you want to role-play and get spanked and provide oral sex and maybe get fucked, then talk about it that way. You know your wife better than I, obviously. How open do you think she would be if you asked her to incorporate this into bedroom play?

On the other hand, if what you really want is a female led relationship, or some other aspect of submission, there may be another approach.
If you are truly submissive, you'll realize submission is a choice, a way of living. In many ways, you can be submissive to your wife without ever having a discussion and without being deceptive at all.

Look for ways to defer to her in small matters. Which movie shall we go to tonight? You decide, dear. I want to please you. Volunteer to do household tasks that normally are hers. Anticipate her needs. Buy her flowers. In bed, focus on providing her pleasure and taking yours as it comes.Train yourself not to ejaculate until she is obviously satisfied.

The only chance for an approach like this to work is if it is genuine. It must have nothing to do with your bedroom expectations or hopes or desires, but with your desire to love, cherish and serve your wife.

If heartfelt on your part, there's absolutely no manipulation in devoting yourself to your wife. If she notices a difference in your behavior, you can explain yourself and then discuss your need for discipline.

Please let me know if any of these ideas strike a chord in you.

Your obedient servant,


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