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Date Posted: 18:45:46 12/15/14 Mon
In reply to: Alicia 's message, "Effect of punishing boys by spanking?" on 11:23:09 10/16/14 Thu
>I came across this post on another board from someone
>called Leda S. which I found fascinating. It reminded
>me of a woman I knew several years ago who was a
>karate instructor and a single mother. She was a small
>woman, but she told me, laughing, that when she
>punished her 15-year old son by spanking, she
>sometimes grabbed him by his penis to hold him down.
>Just like the woman in this story, she maintained
>control when she needed to by holding onto the boy's
>genitals. I asked her if it made him get an erection
>and she replied "What do you think?". That made me
>think and frankly set me back a little, but the more I
>thought about her situation, the more sense it all
>Leda S. is responding to another post by someone named
>Dave. Here is what he said:
>"I think the thing we all have admit to ourselves is
>that we are all sexual beings. Certain things turn us
>on and trigger things in us-that is just the way we
>are wired-its doesn't mean we are bad people or
>An erect man whether on an adult male or a teenage boy
>can be a very stimulating sight to behold to a femal
>of any age. As such, I don't doubt there are women out
>there that do take advantage of every situation they
>can do get young men excited-to induce erections and
>possibly even ejaculations when possible. It can be as
>overt as nude punishment to as suble as low-cut
>clothing and a touch her or there. Knowing young men
>are quick to react and have hair triggers-it doesn't
>take much to get their homones raging.
>The ones thing we have to understand is all this stuff
>could have an impact on some of the boy's future
>sexual inclinations. If a boy's first sexual
>experience with a female is activity which results in
>him getting erect and ejaculating primarily for her
>enjoyment, how is he going to ever be able to have
>normal sexual relation with a female."
>And here is her response to Dave:
>"Dave, there is more truth in what you say than I bet
>you know. My oldest sister was in charge of my two
>older twin brothers and me when my mother was working.
>She had carte blanche from my mother. She was, and is,
>seven years older than me and five years older than my
>brothers. She spanked us all, bare bottom and hard,
>sometimes with a wood handled hairbrush that really
>stung whenever we needed it. My brothers got it many
>times more often than I did, and I got to see most of
>them. I noticed that the boys did not squirm and twist
>as much as I did when she spanked them. It took me a
>while to realize that she held them by their testicles
>when she used the brush on them. They cried and cried
>but did not move a lot when she held them that way.
>For me the interesting part was when she let them up
>then they starting squirming about and rubbing their
>bottoms. Because their penises were usually hard and
>sticking up as they wiggled, something that I found
>both fascinating and even sexually exciting, although
>I did not identify the feeling very well at first. No
>doubt her holding their testicles contributed a lot to
>why they got and stayed erect even after a serious
>spanking. I remember seeing their penises like that a
>few years later when I was 12 and had just about
>finished puberty. Suddenly I realized they got hard
>like that so they could be put into a vagina. That
>made sense, but why it happened when they got spanked
>I am pretty sure she enjoyed seeing them like that
>too. When I was older I asked her about holding them
>like that and she laughed and said our mother had told
>her to do it if she needed to. She said it worked like
>a charm on them, too, and she liked doing it.
>Neither of my brothers is very big, and both are on
>the skinny side, too. And each married bossy women --
>one of them is bigger than her husband. I have never
>asked, but more than once I have wondered if either of
>them is still spanked, and if so, in what way. It
>would not surprise me if they were. Really. All that
>spanking and excitement had to have some effect on
>them later on. I know seeing them get it that way did
>have an effect on me."
>When I compared the two posts, I realized I did not
>agree with Dave's last sentence where he seems to
>complain that such experiences hurt the grown boy's
>chances at a "normal" sexual relation with a female.
>What is "normal", I mean. And even more importantly,
>what is best? It seems to me that Leda hinted at her
>reactions to and suspicions about her older brothers'
>punishments. She seems to admit she got turned on by
>witnessing them, and suspects her brothers did too and
>thereafter sought out female dominant relationships
>with their wives.
>What do you think?
While growing up in South rural region, it was not unheard of to be spanked during the 70's by not just your folks, but other family and friends of the family and who ever else the parents deemed appropriate to spank you when the need came around. My mom had no problem telling who ever that if I got out of line that they should not spare the rod and spank me how ever they may see fit and other parents in our neighborhood did the same. Its not that I was a very naughty boy, it was the fact that mom wanted others to also take matters in their own hands. It was a community that would not stand for naughty behavior or let a child/teen get out of line. At that time period it was sort of unwritten law that if someone's child got out of line, they got it and the other parents accepted that would happen.
So, it was no wonder that kids/teens would get spanked by other parents. One example would be if I was at a friends house and he got in trouble, then I got in trouble through the same experience and was spanked right along with them. My folks would actually thank the parents for stepping up and doing so. Folks that did't even have kids would step up and take matter in their own hands and would be welcome to do so and my parents also thanked them. It did't seem to matter what age the adult was, it was just expected that was the solution to any problems.
These problems could be anything from braking a window, talking back, playing in their yard when you should't, hitting a car with a kickball, etc. There were just socialized things adults knew to use as means to spank. In my case, I felt that I was a good kid, but because my mom gave them permission, they felt obligated to make sure they did their part to spank me to reinforce it would happen where, when, and how it needed to be dealt with.
For example, my mom usually would spank me with her taking my all clothes off, spanked by hand or belt, what ever seemed to be appropriate as needed, in what ever position and then it was over. But, she encouraged her friends and others to spank me how ever they felt like. So, her one friend heard how I was spanked and took it upon herself to use her method. Her method was to take me to the garage/tool shed. She would undress me naked, pull out a saw horse, tie me bent over it, and use a leather strap that was hanging on the wall. She would spank longer then my mom, which I guess was to show my mom that she did't spank me hard or long enough, to make sure my mom knew she had done so. Then tell my mom I was a good boy, but then say except for one thing and make me show my mom what she did to me.
I was very naive, not street smart and not worldly, but my body was that of a man as I was shaving in 14 years of age. I ran 5 miles a day and was in lean shape with what was considered a spank-able backside. I would get comments from my mom's friends and other how I have such a spank-able butt. I am not sure how much a factor that played into me getting spanked, but I am sure it helped them in deciding too. Men and woman had no problem just taking matter into their own hands, thanks to mom giving anyone permission to do so.
And yes! My mom did spank me in front of her friends and their children also. Again, naked, into what ever position, hand or belt and for how ever long it would take. No limits on time or strokes were necessary. It was all dependent on what they felt was needed to straighten me out. I will say I would not replace that ever. I turned out very well and am very well behaved. The worst thing I have ever done as an adult was to be caught speeding and even then it was down hill with the cruise control on and went over the limit. I do the right thing and I have my folks and their friends to thank for that.
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