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Subject: Re: Training & advise

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Date Posted: 09:12:19 02/01/15 Sun
In reply to: Paul Goddard 's message, "Training & advise" on 07:40:02 01/31/15 Sat


With your current understanding of dominance and submission, I feel your search will be unsuccessful even if you met a woman looking for a lifestyle male sub. I say this because of the attitude evident in your post. Here’s what I mean: you wrote “enjoy waiting on a superior woman,” and “begging to serve and wait on there every need, to be kept controlled and passive is a huge turn on for me.”

Notice the focus — your pleasure.

Refocus your energy. Meet a woman’s needs without regard to yours or for your pleasure. For example, suppose a woman, on your first date, slips out of her high heels. Offer to rub her feet — without dreaming of how much you’d like to stroke her thighs, discover her panties and give her an orgasm orally. Simply offer the service without expectation. Focus on her need. You will enjoy your service to her, but more purely, without an ulterior motive.

Such an attitude is truly submissive, rather than how you describe yourself, which is, frankly, selfish. It’s not about you, it’s about her. She is the Superior. It’s disrespectful to a woman’s superiority to attempt to serve her in order to meet your needs. Serve first, and the joy of submission will follow.

Be vigilant with yourself. Males who recognize Female Superiority must examine ourselves to root out our ingrained sense of male privilege, of male entitlement. In daily life, look for small ways to provide services to women without expecting anything in return. Be verbally supportive of women’s rights, of their intellect, of their accomplishments. Do so unobtrusively, without attracting attention to yourself.

You mentioned that it’s difficult to express your desire to serve to women. Shyness and fear of rejection are powerful and understandable inhibitors. But if you act as I suggest, the right woman will perceive the proper humility and respond. Don’t expect most women to respond, be selective. Listen carefully to women before you approach them with this subject.

After your attitude adjustment, you may have some luck by participating on appropriate threads on www.fetlife.com, the kinky social media site.


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My response is Mistress-approvedmicheleFFS09:23:31 02/01/15 Sun

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