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Subject: Re: RE: Wives in Charge

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Date Posted: 19:23:20 11/10/14 Mon
In reply to: e.j. 's message, "Re: RE: Wives in Charge" on 14:04:37 11/10/14 Mon

>>Of the 2 incidents - one you say was the woman's fault
>>though she blames you.
>>The second one both parties agree was your fault.
>>So you can tell us the details, but you clearly are at
>>fault son. Do you know what this woman is planning in
>>order to correct the situation? And can you accept
>>your punishment in order to resolve the situation in a
>>friendly neighborly manner?
>Ms. Gertrude, forgive me for pre-judging but you will
>probably take the side of my neighbor. So be it.
>First incident: took place a couple months ago towards
>the end of summer. In our neighborhood the parking of
>ones automobile is a premium. It was a day that was
>pouring rain and I had not brought an umbrella.
>Usually, if the parking spot in front of my house is
>taken I will park up the street, down the street, or
>around the corner. This particular day, because of
>the pouring rain, I parked in front of my neighbors
>house. I still got soaked going from my car to my
>house. I felt bad parking in front of my neighbors
>house, and I fully intended to apologize to her the
>next time I saw her.
>She saw me before I saw her. I heard someone yell,
>"How dare you!". My neighbor totally berated me right
>there on our front lawns. I told her, "Look, in
>thirty years this is the first time I parked in front
>of your house. Usually I park up or down the street or
>around the corner, but it was pouring rain. There have
>been hundreds of times, many hundreds of times, when
>your lady friends parked in front of my house during
>the past thirty years and I never complained". She
>said, "Don't you dare try to shift the blame to my
>friends, and I don't like your tone". I replied,
>"Tone? What tone? You know, I fully intended to
>apologize to you for taking your parking spot, but now
>you can forget it." Then she said, "Its a shame
>no-one taught you manners and respect".
>I was enraged as I went back to my house. But she was
>angry, too; I had never seen her like this. Sure, over
>the years she would say things which, in my opinion,
>were intended to berate me but I had never seen her
>like this. She had glared at me with her icy blue
>eyes, and then there was that sickening god-awful
>smirk. But there was something else; something had
>happened to me. She had looked down her long, thin,
>pointy nose at me and verbally humiliated me.
>I did not know what to do about this but it was
>constantly on my mind.
>Did I know what this woman was planning, if anything,
>to correct the situation? No. I think my thoughts, at
>the time, were was there anything I could do to help
>correct the situation.
>As days went by I found it even more astounding that
>she, Kathy, had accused me of "attitude" after all I
>had done for her. There were sleepless nights for me
>as I tried to process all this.
>And then, in a matter of weeks, incident-two took
>Ms. Gertrude, will all respect, how can you place
>blame on me without knowing the facts? I thought long
>and hard about asking that question; I thought I read
>somewhere at this site that "you" may decide to
>arrange punishments for people like me, with people in
>my area. If that's where this goes, then, so be it.
>I admit that incident #2 was totally my fault. Problem
>is, the person offended, in this case my neighbor,
>should get to pick the punishment, and, how much
>punishment. Up til a week ago that's exactly where we
The 2nd incident. I was preparing to cut the grass, mine and my neighbors, for the last time this season. I primed the lawn mower and pulled the cord but the mower would not start. Again and again and again and again it would not start. Totally frustrated, I started muttering filthy language each time the mower wouldn't start. Finally, after about 9 tries, I got the mower running. After cutting the grass I was putting the mower away when I was confronted by my neighbor. Apparently she had heard my muttering; she was disgusted. She made it clear that: that language is unacceptable; she will not tolerate it; she is old school and has an old school remedy for language like that; it was obvious to her that this language must be an on-going problem for me, and, that punishment is obviously long over-due.

She was right. I had no excuse....there is no excuse. I had to just stand there while she verbally put me in my place.

I know what the old school remedy is, and I know that she wants to do it. But this would be so much different than a mother washing out the mouth of her child. There is much bitterness here, on both sides. Its hard to grasp that over a period of 30 years there's an 18 year old on one end and a 77 year old on the other.

Anyway, at the end of her tirade she made it clear that I really did need someone to teach me manners and respect.

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