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Subject:  Apology, More detailed response and a link |
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Author: micheleFFS |
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Date Posted: 08:54:29 05/15/16 Sun In reply to: Jamie 's message, "Schoolgirl uniform and caning" on 04:20:56 05/14/16 Sat Jamie, I belatedly realized I’d stepped over the line for this forum with my photos, so I deleted that post and your original response to it. Voy doesn’t allow editing posts once up and deleting a post deletes all below it. This is my error, not yours. You’ve done nothing wrong and are very welcome here. I have more to say on caning, but I’ll put it on the other forum I moderate, Female Superiority: https://www.voy.com/242785/ More important than the caning, I’d like to address your relationship. You wrote, “I would love to have her 'make' me dress as a schoolgirl, but I don't think she'd be at all interested. In fact I think she may be horrified.” Your fear of offending your girlfriend and possibly losing her is a real, has happened to some people, and needs to be dealt with by you up front. This fear is so strong and the countervailing desire for a schoolgirl caning are so equally balanced that you’re willing to do something that she is extremely likely to regard as cheating on her or betraying her in some way. If she finds out, you’re very likely to lose the relationship in the first place. Even if you are guaranteed that she would never find out unless you told her, you’re still living a lie in your most important relationship. I’ve been there. It’s not fun. So I turn to the first part of the sentence I quoted. What makes you so certain she wouldn’t be interested or would feel revulsion? Is this based on a general feeling or specific actions or statements by her? Gender issues are all over the news even without the current controversy. Why not start a conversation with her about current events and work in that you don’t see anything wrong with men dressing as girls. See what she says. Ask her if she’s ever known any cross-dressers. And so on. You know her and can come up with an approach. How did you find out your potential caner was accepting or eager? Is she perhaps a professional? If not, perhaps you can adapt how you met her to a conversation with your girlfriend. I strongly recommend that before you’d visit the other woman to satisfy your long time and poignant desire you make an effort to sound out your girlfriend on the subject. I say this because there are many, many people who have these desires of various kinds which will not go away but they get involved in a vanilla relationship and either never dare to broach the subject or get caught secretly dressing or doing something the partner regards as cheating. Though it’s extremely risky, so is hiding part of your sexuality from your sexual partner. It’s easier to break up when you’re not living together then after years of an intimate relationship. Who knows? She may be intrigued by the idea. The risk of revealing yourself is rejection of you or of your desire. The potential gain? She might 'make' you dress as a schoolgirl and cane you before wild sex with the woman you love. Hmmmm…. Your obedient servant, micheleFFS [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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| Re: Apology, More detailed response and a link | Jamie | 15:29:19 05/19/16 Thu |