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Subject: Is this normal? Author: Mom [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 06:35:58 10/10/21 Sun I caught my daughter spanking herself across her bed on her bare bottom with our bathbrush. She's 10. I do spank when necessary. I left her home while I had to run out for something. I heard a noise, checked in on her and saw that. I decided to just quietly back out and come back later. I understand about spanking fetish and I understand it can start very young. I'm really not very worried about that if that's the case. It was just quite a shock to see that and I think that may be quite young to be exploring such pleasures. Or perhaps she's feeling guilty about something and didn't want to come to me about it. I don't know. She has also not been particularly concerned about hygiene lately, as I've read on here. I think it best that I just let it go. I guess 10 is about when those things start, it just seems really early to me. Any thoughts or ideas? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Alicia [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:11:10 10/10/21 Sun I did that sometimes but didn’t start until around 11 or 12. I didn’t know what a fetish was at the time, but I would later come to understand that’s what it was. If I’m being honest, while I would never have wanted to get caught doing it, I did wish at the time I could get a real spanking instead. The self spankings were always ultimately unsatisfying. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: bodack [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:55:58 10/10/21 Sun I am a guy and I started doing that at ten. I wasn't spanked growing up though. Berryblue, who has been missing from the forum for quite some time was surfing spanking porn on the web I believe since she was 11. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:35:05 10/10/21 Sun Oh my! Well, I hope she's not doing that. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: bodack [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:13:58 10/10/21 Sun If she isn't she will be. There is ten year old girl who occasionally posts on here and her Mom popped in one day and said she was surprised to find this site in her History. My concern is computer virus's. A lot of spanking sites are just a place for malware. A general suggestion is never use the Administrator account for getting on the web. Make an user account with out Administrator privileges for browsing the web. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: patinbleu [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:39:06 10/22/22 Sat Are you for real? That's not at all how viruses work and not using a administrator account WILL NOT protect you. This is the worst advice I've seen in a long time and I've seen someone suggest using your home address and last name for a password. If you want to be 100% safe, buy a separate computer for kids, lock it with a program called Deep Freeze for example. Then when they reboot the PC, it is restored to the previous image. Ideally also set their PCs in a different workgroup so they are isolated from your real network incase a 0day network exploit comes around. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Lesley [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:39:36 10/10/21 Sun Hi Mom, I’m sure it’s not anything to worry about. How is she spanked when you spank her? Maybe a friend of hers is spanked with a brush? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:46:51 10/10/21 Sun I guess the usual. Spank her bare bottom and sometimes use a brush. I try not to be mad when I do and try not to yank her and spank her. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:44:15 10/10/21 Sun I'm wondering if I should stop spanking her. She doesn't seem to enjoy it when I do and tries to get out of them and behaves pretty well after I do spank her. Or maybe I should spank her harder or longer. I don't know. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:51:29 10/10/21 Sun I have also used grounding or taking things away, but that turns out miserably and just seems to lead to more and worse misbehavior. I don't mean to give the impression that she's the demon seed, she's not at all. She's generally a very good kid. Just sometimes, I guess like any kid she needs to be punished. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Lesley [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:51:38 10/10/21 Sun Hi Mom, I would hope that she isn’t enjoying them at her age. A spankin should sting big time. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:53:09 10/10/21 Sun I'm sure they do. I just don't understand why she would be spanking herself like that. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Lesley [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:55:58 10/10/21 Sun Hi Mom, Maybe she is curious and like I typed maybe a friend is spanked that way. If it bothers you, ask her. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:01:09 10/10/21 Sun I guess that could be. I guess it's nothing to worry about. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Lesley [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:12:18 10/10/21 Sun Hi Mom, I wouldn’t be worried but I’m also not a Mom. Are your spankins effective? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:39:11 10/12/21 Tue She behaves pretty good after words so I guess they are. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: bodack [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:16:21 10/10/21 Sun I would say that if they seem to be working then don't change. There is a big difference between a sensation you have control over one you don't. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Cliff [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:53:28 10/10/21 Sun Hi Mom. I know it is quite shocking, but I would not be that concerned. It does sound as she has a spanking fetish but that does not mean there are sexual aspects to it. I know may adults who like being spanked. Some of them are sexually excited when being spanked and some are not. Most of these people I know are just normal, well adjusted folk, except for enjoying that kind of pain. I have known a few spankees who are into self-mutilation too. This involves cutting and burning. To the best of my knowledge, these are people who had very unhappy childhoods and were abused. If this is not the case with your daughter, I would not be concerned. As far as you continuing spanking her for discipline, I would recommend it unless you notice she gets sexually excited during a spanking. You spanking her gives her an outlet with her having to look for it elsewhere as she gets older. Spanking her harder could lead to bruises if you use a bathbrush or heavy hairbrush. Continue spanking with your hand, only longer, if it is effective. Or get a very thin paddle to increase the sting. As far as her spanking herself, I recommend you ignore it and act as if you have no idea. She is not going to harm herself by self-spanking. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Alicia [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:31:11 10/10/21 Sun Just thinking back to my feelings at the time when I started self spanking, I wish I had some sort of “no questions asked” policy where when I was feeling down, guilty, or just needed a reset, that I could get a spanking. I was always too embarrassed to ask. I wish I had a system where I could have done something like set out the hairbrush in a certain place and that would be the signal to my mom that I need a spanking. I would have wanted it to be something like 70% as bad as a real punishment. Still bare, still with the rush, enough to sting and cry and be cathartic. But not so much that I felt like I was “in trouble” and being punished. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mandy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:08:49 10/10/21 Sun Yes it is normal. I did that too at her age. Let everything; just roll lke it has. But; do not stop spanking her. That most likely, is the worst thing you could do; for her at this time. Please go on, beng the best mom; you can be. Continue to spank her; & maybe a bit more often. Also spanking a bit more intensely; when ya do. Please ask any questions, of me. I was her, & you both; once myself too. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:53:17 10/03/22 Mon For what it's worth, I agree with Mandy. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:41:15 10/12/21 Tue Thank you all. I guess it's nothing to be concerned about. Probably also not the other thing I mentioned. From reading on her it doesn't seem all that uncommon. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: bodack [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:49:44 10/12/21 Tue I don't know if your daughter has her own computer but have you checked the browsing history of the ones she has access to? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:57:37 10/12/21 Tue She does not have her own or phone and I monitor her use. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re:P.S. Author: Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:04:51 10/12/21 Tue Sorry, I guess I could have come up with a better name. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re:P.S. Author: Lesley [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:18:59 10/13/21 Wed Hi Mom, How has everything been since last week with your daughter? All ok? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Jea [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:41:07 10/23/21 Sat I think that's normal for her. It was normal for me. It's not normal for everyone, but everyone is different. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Fatima [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:38:59 10/24/21 Sun Both of your concerns are normal and are not harmful. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Fatima [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:40:35 10/24/21 Sun Let me add that if she starts cutting or self harming (Which is not likely and has no correlation) seek help. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Jea [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:19:15 12/14/21 Tue I would be concerned if she was trying to get her teen babysitter to pull down her pants and spank her. I wouldn't be concerned about this at all. I hope you feel comfortable about posting on here more. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:10:45 01/15/22 Sat I don't think 10 is too young to leave her at home by herself for just a little while, like when I need to run to the store for something. I think she's old enough to handle things by herself for a little while. What do you think about that? Too young? So the other day I tried an experiment of sorts. I told her I was going to the store for a little while, but I actually didn't actually leave. Sure enough in hardly no time she had the bathbrush, pants down across her bed, door wide open spanking her little butt. I guess it's nothing and I'm not really all that concerned about it, but it's just kind of surprising. I don't know if she's experimenting or exploring her sexuality, again it seems pretty young or maybe she's ashamed of something and feels she needs to be punished and is afraid to tell me, I don't know. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mandy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:10:12 01/15/22 Sat I would more think, she wants to get rid of guilt. You asked earlier, if you should stop; or keep spanking her, like normal. I said, that stopping; most likely is the worst thing to do. Also saying, that you should spank a bit longer; & harder, than ya have. Have ya spanked since you first caught her? Did ya spank her harder &/or any longer? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: bodack [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:38:33 01/15/22 Sat When I was ten i, like most of my friends were alone a lot. Of course I am sixty-five so things have changed. As far as your daughter spanking herself I think there are other things to worry about. I started spanking myself when I was that age. The difference was I was never spanked and I was and still am curious about the sensation. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Mandy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:31:31 01/16/22 Sun Well your interest in spanking, as an adult. Has very little to do, with if one was spanked; for real as a child, or not. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Frank [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:57:27 01/17/22 Mon Mom, you sound like a very open-minded parent. Just leaving your daughter to continue spanking herself is clearly one do-no-harm option. Another option would be to speak to her about it in a non-threatening way, and to offer to spank her whenever she feels the need for a spanking, even if she hasn't been misbehaving. My guess is that she is spanking herself because for whatever reason she feels a need to be spanked. From what I've read from various other people, and from my own experience, it seems that self-spanking doesn't really work that well. I think that response would be very generous and accepting on your part. And I think your daughter would appreciate it. And it would help the two of you to maintain a closer mother-daughter bond. Let us know what yyou decide, and how the situation evolves. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:08:30 01/17/22 Mon It all sounds pretty normal to me, maybe a touch unusual, but still normal. Many adults who have a spanking fetish tell similar anecdotes, whether they were spanked or not. But I wouldn't even call it experimenting with sexuality, at that age it sounds more like a fascination with an intense experience, and so that's where she's focusing her imagination from time to time. I can't imagine that she wants to talk about it. And I don't think there's any reason to suppose that she feels the need to be punished. No ruling it out but there's no reason to think that's the case instead of the more likely possibility of an interest in the subject. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Lesley to Mom [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:15:01 01/18/22 Tue Hi, Hmmmm, so is she really smacking her butt or tapping it? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: hervee (to Mom) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:13:04 10/02/22 Sun Hello Mom , In families where corporal punishment is used, it is indeed not uncommon for children to reproduce these situations in their games or in their dreams (fantasies). It's normal and it's especially true when the hormones start working For instance when I was young, my teen sisters often played "punishments" I often participated in these games where, naked (or half-naked) they had role-play (inquisition, punishment in the harem, ...) during which they tied one of them to the bed or the beam of the barn, inflicted humiliations, corrections with the whip or nettles etc... Nothing very violent but it was the pleasure of creating a climate and experiencing certain sensations [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Hi Mom Author: Teresa [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:08:02 03/13/22 Sun I know this was a long time ago, but are you still checking in on here? How is it going if you are? I don't know how common it is, but when I was that age I had a curiousity about spanking, even though my mom spanked me pretty regularly and I hated it, I was still curious about it and read about spanking and even experimented with stuff. My little sisters who are around that age have curiousities too. I don't know if they spank themselves, but I know they play spanking games when they're with their friends and stuff, so I wouldn't worry about it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:38:40 05/13/22 Fri I would take this as a sign that the young lady could use a couple of loving "reminder" spankings per week. I know that this is a controversial subject. Not meaning to insult those who would NEVER spank a child who didnt need a spanking! Sounds like this young lady did/does need a spanking or two. Right? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Teresa [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:10:08 05/22/22 Sun Mom, this doesn't sound like very good advise. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Eva [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:09:30 09/24/22 Sat It is kind of normal for your daughter to like to experiment. No worries. I remember when I was a teen, I would spank myself. Almost as if I had a fantasy. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Rainy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:46:40 09/25/22 Sun I am not sure what i would do if I discovered her daughter spanking herself. Kind of unusual. probably developed the fetish [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Rainy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:35:32 09/26/22 Mon She sounds as if she enjoys spanking which is most children tend to think is undesirable. If I was the mother, I would have to find a punishment that she finds really undesirable. Perhaps, no computer or television for one month. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:44:16 10/02/22 Sun What is normal can be elusive. But clearly from the response you have received so far others experienced the same thing. So it probably is not unusual. It is likely a fetish that if not already erotically based will become so. That does not mean she likes it when being spanked by you. You probably know she does not. It is in the re-experiencing it mentally that she derives pleasure. Bottom line is that it is what it is now and she is know she is. You will not change things even if you ceased spanking altogether. So long as you are satisfied that spankings are making a positive different in her life than continue doing so. Lots of adults have fetishes and they can enhance one's life, so they need not be viewed negatively. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:01:19 10/03/22 Mon As you may know, it is very difficult for a child to verbally ask for a spanking. Altho I did know one daughter that would ask her Daddy for a spanking. Generally, the only way a child can ask for a spanking is by misbehaving. "Asking for it with flowers", as my German Mom used to put it. My suspicion is that she didnt want to misbehave. Have you ever heard of a toddler throwing eggs on the floor, and saying, "Bad baby!"? :-) [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this normal? Author: Norm [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:28:03 10/23/22 Sun I'm a guy, but I started spanking myself much younger than 10. My parent's weren't spankers, though I did get a couple as a youngster. I did crave to be disciplined with spanking. But my parents were the kind that turned a blind eye. The 'boys will be boys' type. I typically spanked myself out of guilt. Like the time my buddies talked me into stealing a pack of gum. I felt so guilty I went back to the store the next day, purchased a pack and, sneakily, put it back on the shelf. Later I took myself out to the barn and gave myself quite a switching. It hurt and I left some nasty looking welts on my butt, but it never had, nearly, the guilt relieving affect that I think it would have had if administered by a loving parent. I was only 8 or so at this time. It wasn't the first or last either. Just my experience, so many possible reasons and only one person knows for sure. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]