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Subject: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 07:11:30 12/15/22 Thu Not sure where to begin with this. I've read on here for years but never posted. I've been interested (well, more than interested) in spanking since I can remember. I have never given a spanking before. I have a two bedroom apartment. I am slowly working on my masters degree. I have a really good job and can afford the apartment by myself and a few luxuries. I do alright. I had a roommate before and it was kind of a mess, so when she moved out I just decided I would just live by myself. I know this girl from around, we were never really besties or anything, just kind of a part of a circle of friends. She's 20 years old. She seemed like a sweet kid, kind of shy, not pretty or anything but she has a sort of dorky cuteness. I didn't know her real well, but I liked her and in a strange was was sort of attracted to her. Back in May I was at the library studying and I overheard her talking to her friend that she was being kicked out of her apartment she shared with 3 other people and had nowhere to go. I was pretty content with living alone and didn't really want to get into the roommate mess again, but she's a sweet kid and I asked her to sit down and we talked. I thought hey, she's a nice kid and maybe it wouldn't be so bad if she stayed with me for a couple of months until she found a place. She said she only worked part time and couldn't afford to go halfs but I told her we could work that out. Of course even then I had fantasies about spanking her. I al4ready had a bed and stuff in there so she didn't need to buy anything and she could just move her stuff in. Okay, there's a lot of stuff I read on here that didn't really interest me that I didn't really think was real. Stuff about dirty underwear and not keeping clean. I thought that was all just made up, but this girl is, well, not real clean it turns out. She sometimes kind of smells and she doesn't seem to shower all that often. After a while I noticed that I wasn't changing toilet paper any more than I did when I lived by myself. Sometimes she would leave her dirty clothes in the bathroom. Underwear weren't always in there but the times they were they had stains, like poop stains. I guess once in a while it happens, it's happened to me, but these were really more than just oops. When I read that stuff on here about not wiping and wearing dirty panties I just thought it was somebody writing fantasy and thought it was kind of gross, but I didn't think it was real and I didn't really think much of it. I was kind of grossed out by it in a way, but I thought it was kind of interesting. I admit I have a sort of perverted curiosity and I do a bit of snooping. A few times I looked in her hamper and would find like one pair of poop stained underwear. One pair of panties in like a week or more. You would think there would be at least 5 pairs in there, right? I never brought it up with her. I mean, why would I? It wasn't really hurting anything and her occasional aroma was tolerable. In fact, I admit it kind of aroused me, I don't know why, it's not something I've ever given much thought to. Even though I can take care of the bills myself and I understand she only works part time, she's always late and short with her share. It's not like she's freeloading, I don't think, but she's kind of a scatterbrain and just forgets to or she doesn't plan her finances. I would say in the 7 months she might have been on time and in full twice. It's not that big a thing, but when you add in electricity and food and household needs it kind of sets me back a little. I don't mean to make her sound like the roommate from hell, she's not, she's really a sweet kid and I really love having her around, but there's just so many things. I can see why her other roommates kicked her out. She can be really annoying at times. She's really shy and kind of keeps to herself, but sometimes she just doesn't shut up. Sometimes I'll be studying or working on finances or whatever and she'll come in and plop down and just go motormouth. It's cute and funny listening and talking with her but it's often at inappropriate times and she doesn't get hints. Sometimes I'm like really into a movie and she just wont shut up. If I say anything she gets all sad and pouty and then I feel bad. A lot of times she can't sleep or something and she will come in my room when I'm sleeping. Sometimes I hold her and honestly, it feels really good. There are other things too. I like to keep things clean. I wouldn't say I'm a clean freak, or maybe I am. I don't mind a little clutter, but I keep things clean. At times she leaves shit all over the house. That drives me crazy. Her room smells, I swear. It's a mess and I have to ask her several times until sometimes I have to lay down the law to get her to clean up. I have found dirty dishes and cans and bottles and cups in her room and that makes me nuts. As I said before I am a bit of a snoop. I almost had a spontaneous orgasm one time when I looked at her laptop when she wasn't there and looked through her history and as well as studies and general searches I also found searches for spanking. She reads about spanking and watches spanking videos. I couldn't believe it. So my roommate is into spanking. This is just too good to be true but it is. My brain is filled in the past 7 months (and even before) with thoughts of spanking her. I'm kind of obsessed with it. A few nights ago we had a serious talk about the behaviors I mentioned above. I didn't bring up her personal hygiene, because it's not really my business and to be honest it, or lack thereof kind of turns me on. I don't know why. It's not something I had ever thought about before. So anyway, during our talk she said something like maybe if she had some kind of motivation. My brain was like okay just turn her over your knees and spank her until she can't sit, but I remained very cool and chose my words very carefully. Although my heart was pounding I said very carefully "You mean like some sort of...punishment?" I could see that she was really shook up by that. Her eyes grew wide and she kind of blushed and got all nervous. It looked like a combination of being scared and being excited. She kind of fumbled and said "Well yeah, maybe something like that." Although I wanted to just turn her over my knees and spank the shit out of her I just told her I would try to come up with something and asked her to clean her room. In the last few days I've been trying not to be totally obsessed by it and trying to contemplate my moves very carefully. She's been kind of, I don't know, maybe submissive, but that's not really the right word, but she has been doing better with cleaning and has been kind of, I guess the word would be affectionate. I'm trying to keep it real, like not let my fantasies make me do something stupid. I mean, in reality if I actually spank her that would technically be assault and I could get arrested for that. On the other hand this could be a real thing and I could actually spank her. I mean I basically told her I would punish her and she didn't say "Like hell you will you fucking weirdo" or anything like that. She just kind of went along with it and I KNOW she knows what 'punishment' means. I'm sure she's not thinking I'm going to take away her phone. I just don't want my fantasies to muddy my reason. As a side note, living next door is a mom and 2 girls about 8 and 9 maybe and at times I, actually both of us have heard the faint sounds of a good spanking going on. Thes are old apartments so the construction is really sturdy and you can't hear much in the next apartment, but spankings can be pretty loud and you have to turn everything off to hear and listen pretty closely, but still you can hear. That's another thing that bothers me. My roommate sometimes plays music real loud and noone has ever complained, so our neighbors either can't hear or they're just cool, but what if somebody hears me spanking her? Okay, so that's my introductory post on here. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Jillian2005 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:09:36 12/16/22 Fri I walloped my girlfriend not too long ago with a bath brush and I went way overboard so be careful! She was begging for it though! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:22:36 12/17/22 Sat Jillian What do you mean you walloped her? Was it on her bare bottom? Do you do this often? Could you tell more about your relationship? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Jillian2005 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:20:18 12/22/22 Thu Join us on our new forum for all the lurid details - 250553 [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:23:09 12/23/22 Fri Never mind. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: EmilyPosts [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:35:40 12/27/22 Tue I'll second that invitation. I'm the one who got walloped! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: spanking dad (spanked to tears) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:23:18 05/25/23 Thu Did she perform an entertaining spanky dance? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Jillian2005 (amused) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:42:19 12/12/23 Tue We're both professional models so just her standing up and stretching up makes me wet. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:17:21 12/16/22 Fri Hi. Interesting detailed letter. It's length suggests you have given the matter a lot of thought and what you provide sets a framework where discipline would be appropriate and more than that needed and more than that probably fully accepted by your roommate. The 'need' for discipline and a reorientation of the girl to a more sensible way of behaving to fit in with others is well laid out by you. She is sloppy, unsanitary, seemingly unable to budget, take responsibility, understand personal boundaries, appreciate how her behavior affects others, the list could go on. The whole personal hygiene practices you have witnessed seem beyond the pale but I believe to be true. My former spouse had a teen daughter who often left shit caked panties in her room and so behaved like your roommate. She deserved more than a simple spanking but I did not have that authority unfortunately since she was not my daughter and she came into our lives as a teen, filthy habits and all. I understand you are not put off by her sanitary habits but you are doing no favor to her by tolerating them and her other behaviors - all of which are spankworthy. The fact that she comes to you when she can't sleep, you have laid the down in the past, she acknowledges some form of punishment would be appropriate for her behaviors, you've discovered she is interested in spanking, and she is dependent on you for a place to stay with her limited income - all position you to do what you wish to and what she deserves to happen. You can enjoy yourself and at the same time get the girl to behave as a more considerate and reasonable young lady. She needs such attributes going forward since she probably won't always be with you and so can't be alienating others out there. My suggestion is to raise each negative behavior in a comfortable format, perhaps with a few drinks? Get her to acknowledge that you are right and that some form of change is needed. Remind her she agreed punishment of some sort was needed. Let her know you think she could benefit from a spanking. Get her consent to you spanking her as you deem appropriate. You are the final arbiter and she agrees to surrender to your control. Then discipline her as you want to. Probably not unduly harsh at first but up from there. Clearly once you have her consent you should at least spank bare bottom followed by bare bottom corner time. After that of course you can increase to fulll nudity and nude corner time and fulfill your passion while giving the girl what she will likely welcome based on what you have described in your post. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:25:55 12/17/22 Sat Wondering and all Yes, I have given a lot of thought on this, lol. But aside from fantasies, I really want to make this happen. It just seems so unreal, like I read stuff on here and I believe it, maybe, but then again I don't. I'm just trying to figure out if this shit actually happens in the real world. She said 'motivation' and of course my brain goes directly to that meaning spanking, but I don't know, maybe she's talking about being a cheerleader for her or motivational speaking or something. I did say 'punishment' and I was pretty sure she got the hint, maybe in her brain she thought "Ooh, a spanking" but in reality adults just don't go around spanking each other unless it's like foreplay or something or a fetish. I know she reads about spanking and watches spanking videos, but so do I. I fantasize about spanking, mostly giving but also getting, but that doesn't mean I really want to be spanked and certainly not actually punished. So maybe she just thought by punishment I mean like "You get this mess cleaned up in the kitchen or I wont let you eat my food" or something. I am certainly not going to spank her for not wiping her butt or whatever. That's none of my business. When I read about stuff like this on here before I was like eww, it didn't really phase me or anything, but I found it kind of interesting and maybe sort of arousing in a way, I don't know why. At first putting 2 and 2 together, I mean she doesn't really stink like poo, I guess maybe I sort of noticed it, I'm not sure, but things like her not showering every day or for several days (I don't keep a diary on her showering habbits so I don't really know, but it doesn't seem like she does) and noticing that I wasn't buying anymore toilet paper that I did when I lived alone, it was just something after a while that I thought "Hey, I should be buying twice as much toilet paper. Weird." Then finding poop stained underwear left in the bathroom and not just like a shart or something. Then snooping and finding more and I came to the conclusion that she just doesn't wipe or change that often. At first I was like, ooh you nasty girl, but she's so sweet and kind of needing guidance I guess and having fantasies about spanking her little butt, that part of it really appeals to me. I'm not a lesbian, I don't think so anyway. I have fantasies about women and I have kissed a girl and I liked it, lol, but I'm almost obsessed with this girl. I mean, yeah I fantasize all the time about spanking her and doing other things to and and with her, but it's more than just the spanking. I don't know, I feel like she needs me. When she's upset and I hold her it feels really good. It's kind of a sexual thing, but then again it's not. Since I was just little all of my spanking fantasies involve girls or women. If I had to put it in statistics I would say about 3 quarters of my fantasies are about giving or watching a girl get a spanking (and other things). Maybe a quarter of my fantasies since I was little involve me getting spanked by a female. I don't think I would actually like or want a spanking. Maybe a little slapping, but not a real spanking. I fantasize about it, but don't really think I want it. So if this girl would actually, maybe not want but accept a spanking, that just seems so weird. I've seen videos, but those girls are getting paid. I have trouble trying to believe it happens in real life. I know I'm just going on and on, so thank you for your patience. The weird thing is, I don't want to spank her and she likes it. I want to spank her and spank her hard and I don't want her to like it. In my fantasies that's cool, but I think I'm in a position where I'm really going to spank her and then accept whatever consequences come of it, like maybe assault charges, but I don't know, this really concerns me about myself. Why would I want to hurt her? I don't understand that. I guess I also want to get positive results from it. I mean I don't want to just spank her and her not get anything good out of it. I also want to hold her and comfort her. What the hell is wrong with me? Wondering, you mentioned putting her in the corner after I spank her. Althouth that's quite arousing, I don't think I would or could do that. I think I've blabbed enough for now. Thank you both for your support and advice. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:26:30 12/17/22 Sat There is nothing wrong with you. We all have a dark side hidden from the public and your darkness is hardly extreme when you view the world at large and what is going on that is really dark and extreme. Spanking, while not mainstream, is certainly not an uncommon fantasy. Indeed, many couples enjoy the playful side and moderate pain. So we are talking about degree here not the act itself. I understand you really want this to happen and that you wish to be the disciplinarian, ideally it seems to the point of tears on her part. Something approaching a total power exchange. That can indeed be quite erotic. But as I stated in my last reply you need to build to it. So you have to feel her out (no pun intended), raise the topic of spanking, get her to acknowledge she could do better and get her to ultimately agree to the spanking. If you are even remotely creative and use the influence you have, which is considerable in the circumstance, you should be able to lead her there. Then once she consents there is no actionable assault because one can consent to assault. Boxers do it all the time. So far as corner time do consider it if you make it to the spanking stage. It will reinforce your dominance and her submissiveness. You want her to response to you being in control and so imagine a future where you simply tell her to go stand in the corner to await her spanking. Again, start off carefully. You need not go fully nudity at the outset. But wouldn't you quite enjoy that level of authority over her? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Maddie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:33:06 12/17/22 Sat I really like this. I hope you're real and not another faker. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:40:48 12/17/22 Sat So, Ms. Clair, I think you and Roomie both need discipline and someone to be an objective third party voice of Reason and Justice. Roomie needs to conform to the world's standards for hygiene and bodily aromas. You need to sort out your Dom desires from your Motherly needs and both from your own desire to be admired and loved. (Admittedly we all need to do some version of those things.) WS gives good advice about NOT spanking so hard you violate the standard Child Protective Services limit. So, keep any photographable marks so shortlived that they fully vanish within 24 hours! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:03:24 12/17/22 Sat No Maddie, I'm not a faker. She just got up and is wandering around in her pj's. I'm just watching her and I don't think she notices. I don't think she's really awake yet. I watched her scratch her butt crack and dig her underwear out of her butt. It's driving me crazy. I'm just watching her butt and wanting to spank it so bad. What the hell is wrong with me? I need to just go out and get away from this situation before I do something I may regret. If I can get her to change and maybe clean up a bit I may take her out to lunch or shopping or something, but I really have to get my mind focused on something other than her little butt and spanking it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:34:55 12/17/22 Sat Why do you not follow the example of an earlier poster who wanted to spank her roommate? She proposed an agreement to her roommate under which the roommate agreed that if she violated any of the rules set down in the agreement, the roommate would be spanked. The roommate signed the agreement without objection and rather soon thereafter, the dominate roommate spanked the signatory. The point is that presenting the agreement to the roommate put the subject in the face of the roommate and consent followed. If consent does not follow, then the ambiguity of the present situation (what is meant by “punishment”) is settled. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02:46:21 12/18/22 Sun I don't remember reading that. That's a really good suggestion. Unfortunately I think it would take more nerves to do that than actually spanking her. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:19:40 12/18/22 Sun I thought that by writing this and going public I would get it off my chest and maybe realize how absurd this whole idea was, maybe hoping that people would tell me it's ridiculous and just keep it in my fantasies, but as it turns out I'm more obsessed than ever and almost driven like it's my mission. I don't know, maybe she really wants to be spanked, like really punished. Maybe she wants a relationship like this and wants somebody (namely me) to sort of mother her and keep her in line and guide her. Afterall I know she watches spanking porn and reads about such things. I confess, I have skimmed through her notebooks and diary. I don't want to be too invasive so I didn't really study them, I just kind of skipped through them. She has written things about behavior modification and punishment and spanking, in fact I've seen my name mentioned numerous times. I didn't actually read them, I just looked for key words. Maybe I don't really want to know that much. Okay, so yesterday I did get her to clean up a little and go out with me. I mean I didn't tell her to clean up, she just did, but we went to lunch and then we went shopping, Wal Mart, duh. I needed shampoo and soap and I noticed bathbrushes (um, this wasn't the first time I've noticed them) but I kind of stopped and looked at them for just a minute. I did that on purpose to kind of gauge her reaction. It was priceless really. She looked really uncomfortable, like she had a secret, like she really wanted to look at them and maybe even touch them, but kind of looked everywhere but there. I'm sure everyone on here knows the feeling. We who are obsessed with spanking are attracted to objects associated with spanking. Like when you're out with your parents and you pass the belt rack. You want to hold the belt or feel the leather, but you don't want to be obvious and you think everyone can read your mind. In a way I want her to read my mind so we can get this out in the open. A little later I purposely went to the hair isle and stated rather obviously that I needed a new hairbrush. She said "Why do you need one? What's wrong with the one you've got?" When she said that I knew we were on the same page. The brushed they had there were pretty lame really (at least for the use I intend). I focused on a couple that could be used for spanking and I could see her getting really nervous and uncomfortable. She picked out a round brush that wouldn't do at all for spanking. I almost laughed out loud and said "Oh no, that wont do at all." I examined a paddle brush and held it in my hand. She looked like she was going to explode. She was kind of moving around and fidgeting and it was like I knew exactly what she was thinking. Funny side note, there was a girl, maybe 8 or 9 and her mom nearby. The girl looked interested like she was familiar with that hairbrush. I said kind of loudly "You just can't find a good old fashioned hairbrush anymore. I guess I'll have to go on line." It was kind of the finale of the show and I just threw some hair ties in the cart. I wanted to see her reaction. I wanted to see if we were on the same page and from her reactions we are definitely on the same page. A little later I had just finished vacuuming, she was in her room, I didn't think much of it until she came out carrying a plate, a bowl, a cup and pop cans and actually showed them to me. "These were in my room. I'm really sorry." I was really thrown by that. It was so out of the blue. What was she trying to tell me? Was she ASKING for a spanking? Did she get the hints and was trying to avoid a spanking? I didn't even know what to say. Then I was cleaning the kitchen and she came out looking proud or something and said "I cleaned my room. Would you like to see it?" Okay, it wasn't that great, but it was more orderly than it ever is and I was just like "Wow this is great. Good job." I mean, what am I supposed to say? She looked really proud. So none of us had any plans and she suggested we watch Christmas videos. She like set up a little buffet of snacks and drinks and sat a little too close to me for comfort. She reminded me of a kid I babysat, tbh. She sheepishly said "I kind of made a mess in the kitchen, but I'll clean it up." I'm like where is this coming from all of the sudden? She's always sweet (well, most of the time, but she can be difficult) but she's acting really weird all of the sudden. I like it. To be true, I LOVE it. It's like, I don't know, it makes me feel weird. It's a little bit creepy in a way. I don't know how to explain it and I don't know what's going on. I've never actually said that I would spank her, but I think I've given enough clues that she knows what I mean. Maybe some of you who have experience in this thing can give me some clues. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:12:17 12/18/22 Sun You don't need clues from all of us. You have aptly picked up on lots of clues and signals yourself and what they suggest to you a spanko is the same conclusion that many other spankos would draw. The shuttle erotic messages sent and received on your trip to the store and with her surprising cleanliness at home are all pointing in one direction. You just now need to make it happen. Again, starting out carefully and working your way to the spanking is your best approach since you seem particularly timid to move more aggressively. Less can be more and lead you to the more you seek. I can't help but think a dominant yet more neutral move than a spanking is the key. So, consider scolding her next time you have a good reason and watch her reaction if it sends you signals then tell her she needs to go to the corner to think about watch she does more clearly. Once you have that level of compliance it is a short step to a swat on the bottom as the precursor to a sound spanking. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:16:45 12/22/22 Thu Tuesday night I was working on a project for work on deadline that HAD to be sent before morning. She kept coming around talking. I told her I don't know how many times to stop talking, that I was very busy and had to get this done. She's stop for a while then come back and start talking again. Sometimes it was just a sentence at a time and sometimes she was just running at the mouth. I was getting really frustrated. I had to concentrate and I had to finish it. Something snapped in me. It was just impulse. I got so frustrated that I angrily got a chair from the kitchen and put it in the corner. It happened so fast I didn't even think about what I was doing. "Get over here!" She looked confused or maybe scared. I pointed to the seat and said "Sit there and be quiet until I'm finished!" She just did it and looked at me. I could see the christmas lights in her glasses and she looked like she was going to cry and said she was sorry. At that point it kind of dawned on me what I had just done. I felt bad. I couldn't believe what I had just done, but I had to go through with it and keep my composure or I would lose all credibility and never get my work done. I couldn't believe she just went along with it. If it was me, even if my parents did that I would be like "Yeah, fuck you." I kind of like touched her hair and her cheek and said "I'm sorry. I just have to get this done. Just please be quiet until I'm done, okay?" I kept looking over at her with her elbows on her knees and her hand on her cheeks. It was a really weird feeling that I just can't explain. I felt really bad and felt really ashamed. But at the same time I felt, I don't know, like a power, if that's the right word. I had to keep telling myself I was right for doing that. It was really distracting and probably took me longer to finsh than if she had just kept talking. So finally I was finished and I said "Okay I'm done. I'm sorry about that. What was it you wanted to tell me?" She like shrugged and went "Oh nothing." She didn't look mad, that was the weird thing. She looked like somebody had just stepped on her puppy. So we decided to binge watch some stupid show that she's into. I don't even remember what it was. Again she sat a little too close for comfort. I felt a little uneasy about that in a way, but in another way when her leg or her arm was against mine I felt something and I don't really know what it is. I had to resist the temptation to pull her on my lap and hold her like a kid. It felt really weird and that feeling makes me feel real uncomfortable. I have never done anything like that in my life. Maybe with some kids I've babysat, but not really. I mean I've put kids in time out when they were really acting up, but not like this. I hope when I do actually spank her, and I'm not saying that's a sure thing, but I REALLY want to, I hope it goes this well. Her parents picked her up for Christmas last night. They didn't want her driving because we are supposed to get really bad snow storms. They seem really nice. I feel goofy in saying this, but I'm really going to miss her. I guess she'll be gone about a week. It will give me some time to think. I'll probably talk myself out of the whole thing in the meantime. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:59:27 12/22/22 Thu The corner time you described does indicate that your roommate is responsive to your authority and so would be receptive to it again in future. You just need to continue on that path and stop feeling that you are mistreating her when you are not. Your roommate was wrong to constantly interrupt you and you could have emphasized that by getting her acknowledgment that she misbehaved and then put her in the corner with the demand that she be quiet until you are done. Next time consider having her stand in the corner with her hands where you direct. If she is receptive next time kneel in the corner etc. Leading up to her spankings in small steps should reinforce for you that she will soon be ready to place over your knee. Your roommate clearly wants to be in your presence and close to you. So you do have the power which excites you. Now you just need to gradually increase your authority over her. There is a reason to believe that she wants that and so will yield. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:21:50 12/22/22 Thu I like your suggestions and they to be honest made me kind of damp thinking about it, but I don't think I will make her stand in the corner and tell her where to put her hands or whatever. I mean I've got to remember she's a human being and not a robot or a blow up doll. I don't know if I want to be her 'authority', I just REALLY want to spank her and I think she wants me to, or maybe not she wants to get a spanking but I don't know, the whole thing is very confusing. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:36:55 12/22/22 Thu In your confusion you really are overthinking it all. We're talking about a simple spanking. It happens regularly among adults who enjoy such practices. Your view that you are dehumanizing her is precisely what you are not doing. Rather you are recognizing that both she and you are unique human beings who have desires that really do not need to accord with the masses or the main stream, if you will. The signs you have related indicate your roommate is ripe to be told what to do and where to place her hands, be it on her head, behind her back, by her sides. It does not matter. She is following your directive and what you find most enticing. If she doesn't want to follow your lead you will know, but easing in to everything can make you feel better and affirm your resolve, which you do not fully have, that she and you need to be in a spanking relationship. So far as noise through the neighbor's wall, put on some loud music, telling your roommate that your neighbors do not need to hear what she deserves because that is between the two of you. Make a plan and follow through. You know you do want to do so, if only to control your dampness! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:49:53 12/22/22 Thu It's nice to think about, but I just don't want to do that. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: This just happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:15:08 12/22/22 Thu A lot of my work I can do from home and with the weather being what it is I did just that. Also there's no school so the girls next door have been pretty noisy. The walls are pretty thick, but when it's all quiet in here sound does seep through. It's been a little distracting trying to get my work done and virtual meetings and what not, but it hasn't been too bad. A while ago it sounded like things really started to heat up and it sounded like the girls were fighting. Shortly after that it sounded like Mom got involved and the next thing I heard, and believe me I dropped what I was doing and put my ear to the wall and sure enough there were some spankings going on, I'm sure of it. It sounded like they both got it and got it GOOD. They really are both really sweet kids, but you know how kids can be and like Molly said above, sometimes a girl needs a spanking. I think I'll like out of the blue go next door with some candy canes or something. Hey, maybe after I get done with work I'll invite them all over to watch some Christmas movies or something. After all I finally got a clean house after getting rid of Poopsie, lol. That does bring up something though. When all was quiet and I heard that and grant it I had to really listen, if and when I spank my roommate they will surely hear it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: This just happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:51:47 12/22/22 Thu So, I knocked on their door and mom and the girls will be over in a little while. We'll order pizza and make a party of it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: This just happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:52:48 12/22/22 Thu I guess I really miss that silly girl more than I thought I would. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: This just happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:25:58 12/23/22 Fri We actually had a really good time. I had adult conversation as well as the energy of kids excited about Christmas and stuff. The girls were well behaved. Of course they were, their butts were probably still sore from earlier. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Question Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:47:38 12/23/22 Fri Was it wrong for me to listen? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Question Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:35:16 12/23/22 Fri That question arises because you are still seeking to come to terms with your craving and fascination with spanking. The fact that you are wrestling with yourself over what you want and would like to do indicates your moral dilemma over desires you have that you still feel are not quite right. You need to spank your roommate to satisfy your need and stop all the self analysis. You are a spankophile. Live with it! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Question Author: Teresa [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:11:48 12/24/22 Sat It would be wrong of you NOT to listen. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: This just happened Author: Maddie Christmas [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:34:45 12/23/22 Fri Although I'm adamantly opposed to spanking children, I would listen too. We're spankos and that's just how we are. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Teresa [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:13:10 12/24/22 Sat I hope this works out for you and she. I think I'll come back on here a little more often to get updates. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:01:59 12/26/22 Mon I forgot what quiet is like. I used to think I liked it. Now I hate it. I hate to admit this, but I miss that girl. I'm not sure when her parents are bringing her home, but in a way I hope it's soon. For like 8 months I've been thinking she's annoying and a bit smelly at times and get really aggrevated cleaning up after her all the time but it's only been a few days and really I kind of miss her. I can't get this image out of my head of her mom giving her a good paddling while she's there. I think I have made myself believe that. I'm pretty sure that's not happening. They don't seem like that type. I think if anything they probably spoiled her. I kind of doubt she's ever gotten a spanking in her life. I just can't wait for the day to come, if it comes, that I turn her over my knees and spank her butt. Even with the things that Wonderfully Suportive and others have said that she really wants a spanking and really wants it to be a reality, I kind of doubt that she really does. I mean she may think about spanking and read about it and watch videos but that doesn't mean that she actally wants to get spanked or would even accept a spanking. She might turn around and go "Fuck you bitch!" then what do I do? She sat in the corner when I told her to, but would she let somebody actually turn her over her knees and spank her? That's crazy. And I don't want to just smack her butt, I want to give her a real spanking and really make her butt sore. Maybe even make her cry. Which is so weird because I like her. I really actually like her. I don't mean like in a lesbian way, but I don't have a problem with that. I mean I don't fantasize about having sex or a relationship with her (okay, maybe a little) but I like her as a person. She's really sweet and nice and kind of innocent and when I fantasize about it (which is like all the time) the reality part of me goes she's too sweet and innocent to get a spanking. Well anyway, I thought I would just check in. I hope everybody on here had a good Christmas and I hope there was at least one spanking over the holiday. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:44:07 12/26/22 Mon Ah, you are still on that mouse wheel that keeps bringing you back to the same starting point. You lack resolve and a caculated approach that gradually conditions the girl to accept your increasingly demanding advances until she submits to being spanked to tears. Such an approach would allow you at each step to save face so you do not get the 'bitch' response that you fear. All that said, I suspect you will continue to live in fantasy land precisely because you've convinced yourself that there is no reasonably way you can move forward. You are on this forum for a reason but your own reasoning continues to be your worse enemy. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Maddie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:32:48 12/26/22 Mon What's wrong with liking her in a lesbian way? Well, anyway, having been a submissive spanko all of my life, from what I've read she wants you to spank her as much as you want to give her a spanking. What you have to understand is there are different kinds of bottoms. Probably most want fantasy and role play, but some, like me crave lifestyle. They crave being controlled and protected. I think you've got the latter living with you. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Maddie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:33:46 12/26/22 Mon Don't ask me why because I don't know. It's just the way we're wired. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:39:08 12/29/22 Thu Sorry, I didn't mean to offend anyone. Nothing wrong with it. Thanks for the insights. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:23:44 12/29/22 Thu Clair: Maddie is a very keen observer of the girl you are puzzling over. Maddie believes she wants the lifestyle not just a quick spanking. This will involve a lot of in-depth reflection on your part and hers also. It will be uncharted new territory for both parties. Good luck and as W-S suggests, proceed sincerely and cautiously. I would add, open and honestly. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Fatima [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:37:26 12/27/22 Tue You got this, girl. She's definitely interested, but like you said that doesn't mean she wants to go full out. Take it slow, but it sounds like you're on the right trail. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: David [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:30:22 12/27/22 Tue Wish I was your roommate. I am very sassy.. and smallish male at 5'5 [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:15:25 12/29/22 Thu I think you should show some mercy on your roommate, put her out of her misery. You think you're obsessed with thoughts of disciplinary spankings? Imagine how she feels. So since she is very likely dwelling on this even more than you, get this resolved for her sake, and yours too. Or, don't. You can continue toying with her like a cat with a wounded animal. But if you decide to do that, then at least enjoy yourself. Keep on what you're doing. Stay friendly but a little distant. Be open when she talks about motivation, but be sure not to push the conversation forward. Maybe start throwing the word 'discipline' around a little but not referencing her. After a couple more weeks you could mention you need to buy wooden spoons. Ask her if she wants to join you, and then never mention them again. This should drive her completely batty, unable to think about anything besides the prospect of getting a spanking. She'll keep trying to show she's responsive to your direction but not too much so since she does want you to escalate after all. Just think, you can keep the status quo going for who knows how many months to come! More seriously, you need to have a conversation with her. It'll probably be awkward but it needs to happen. From what you've described, you don't have much risk of facing assault charges even without it, but it's the right thing to do and it gets you on the same page. That said, you would be taking some real risks if you do go forward. The odds of her having a huge crush on you, as in way more than she does now, are going to go up. She's also likely to start talking more, possibly a lot more. Maybe these are risks you're willing to run. There's nothing wrong with wanting to assert authority. It's a common desire. Not everyone should do it, but you're in a good space to do just that. Wanting to see it have positive outcomes for your subordinate and someone wanting you to lead are key. Besides she almost certainly wants someone who wants to be in that position, not someone who does it reluctantly. Ask her and see. If you ever do talk about the possibility of a disciplinary arrangement, say something like, "By the way, I want you to know in case this changes things for you, and if it does that's OK we don't have to do it, but I'm going to thoroughly enjoy this, not just the physical act of spanking you, but imposing discipline on you. How do you feel about my liking that?". If it isn't obvious to you how she'll answer from reading it, then go ahead and actually ask her. You know you've been handed the perfect opportunity to open this conversation with her, right? When she returns tell her about the spanking you overheard and how the girls' behavior improved once they were punished. Also, if and when you do spank her, don't just pull her panties down. Turn them inside out. She's reached an age where it will be hard for anyone to ever talk to her about this and she's could eventually face some unpleasant consequences from it. She'll quite likely get the message without you saying a word. You can do this. And keep us posted. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:33:59 12/29/22 Thu Additional good perspectives for Claire to consider rather than anguish over. Lyrically stated, the problem now of course is, too simply hold your horses, to rush would be a crime, cause nice and easy does it every time. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:51:48 12/29/22 Thu Wow! That's a lot in one post to soak in. I will read this carefully as you seem to know what you're talking about and have experience in this type of thing. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:52:06 12/29/22 Thu Her parents, or this time just her mom brought her back yesterday. Her mom is very nice, but she didn't stay long. Little stinky poo seemed excited to be back and hugged me which I was a little put off by. I just didn't quite know how to react. I'm not a real huggy person. So she told me talking almost non stop about her visit and the things she got, it was a little hard to follow because it was kind of running like word soup. But she was really excited and said she could pay the rent because she got money for Christmas. I told her not to worry about it, that I could cover it this month. She made another offer and I told her that was her Christmas money and to keep it that I have got it this month. Then she hugged me again and again I didn't really know how to react. Tonight we were just sitting around with nothing on and we could faintly hear the kids next door playing or arguing or whatever. I told her about the night I invited them over then I chose my words very carefully and said "Mrs. X is really nice and seems very loving with the girls, but she does seem kind of...strict." I wanted to watch her reactions and hear her response. She looked a little uncomfortable "Well, I guess." Seriously it looked like she wanted to tell me something. "So what would you think about her being your mom?" I swear it looked as though that's something she had given a lot of thought to and was trying to keep a secret. She started moving around in her chair and I swear she was blushing "Oh, I, I, I don't know..." then she acted like she was offended "Why would you ask me that?" I tried to be really cool and play my hand carefully. "Oh, I don't know, don't you ever sometimes imagine yourself with different parents?" She seemed to really be fidgeting and trying desperately to guard her secret "Well, I mean she seems really nice and the girls are really sweet, so...I mean, I've never really thought about it or anything, but I guess I mean, you know sometimes parents have to, I guess discipline and I guess sometimes people, I mean you know kids, well you know...punished, but it doesn't mean that they're mean or anything..." that's not verbatim, but pretty close to her suddenly trying to string together an answer, then she suddenly jumped up and asked if I needed more coffee. It was profound. It was like I was looking inside her mind and could see her fantasies of being spanked by our neighbor or better yet...me. It was like she had just revealed every secret she had in one running word soup. I know this sounds terrible, but I'm really having fun with this. On a personal level I like her. I don't think it would be this much fun, maybe that's the wrong word, if it was purely sexual, maybe not sexual but just spanking desires that I was after. It also makes it harder to just come out with it and say "I want to spank you." All of my fantasies have just been about beating an ass until nameless, faceless girl can't sit, but I really like her and feel protective of her. I'm becoming more and more fascinated by the idea of comforting her after I punish her. I don't know, maybe I'm crazy. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:37:26 12/30/22 Fri It doesn't sound terrible. Given that you actually like and care about her, then having fun with this sounds great, and more than that, appropriate; it's also great fun to read. You're doing a good job setting the scene and getting her in the right headspace, namely vulnerable to you. I don't think you would be having as much fun either if it was only about the physical sensations for either one of you. She's responsive on a different level. Another step you could take in this direction is to go ahead and buy a long handled hairbrush and just leave it on a dresser in your room for her to notice the next time she enters your space. It's too bad that you aren't a huggy person. It can be easier sometimes to get people to talk at length about things that embarrass them when there's physical contact. If she looks like she wants contact when she's on the couch watching TV and you don't find it distasteful then it could be an opportunity. It sounds like you've never heard her say the word 'spanking'. It must have been fun watching her avoid saying it last night. Your casual use of the word will amplify her own feelings around the word. It might be a while before another opportunity comes around but when it does, I wouldn't be able to resist teasing her about her use or non-use of the word. If she does finally say it I would point out how her pronunciation marked out the word, even if there was only a slight pause. And if she doesn't say it when it's the right word for the context, then I would point that out with an inquisitive look, assuming I could prevent a smile. You have a lot of opportunities here to expose her in the ways she wants to be seen, that is her need to be held accountable. I wonder how she would react if you were to call her to come where you are and then be told to pick up after herself in the bathroom or the kitchen, "Do it now, please.". Or hearing her thoughts about how she was raised. Was she spoiled? The funniest part of it all is that she's thinking about all this twice as much as you are. You after all are purposeful, she's hanging in the wind. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:38:03 12/30/22 Fri I'm not really a huggy person like when people come up and hug you, but I think I might have mentioned this, sometimes when she's upset or something I hold her. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:39:08 12/30/22 Fri Also, I have looked on line for a good spanking hairbrush, not that I would ever use it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:55:59 12/29/22 Thu Oh my, I just realized I said "we were just sitting around with nothing on ". Of course I didn't mean we had nothing on. We were fully clothed. I meant there was no music or tv on, it was silent except for us talking and the girls next door being loud. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:54:32 12/29/22 Thu "She seemed to really be fidgeting and trying desperately to guard her secret. " So Clair, as I continue to follow your saga, I conclude you are increasingly coming to the conclusion that you have read your roommate correctly and that the prospect of you spanking her is taking shape in your mind as something that can really happen. You have already concluded that that your grateful( forgoing the rent), affectionately hugging 18 year old girl (not woman) is harboring an understanding and even more deeply a desire for a strict parent like you who could reasonably exercise discipline over a naughty girl. You are more than half-way to your dream! It will build until you do indeed spank her bared bottom to tears and beyond and then comfort her like a good motherly figure would do for her little one. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:59:36 12/30/22 Fri We all knew what you meant but thank you for confirming it explicitly. Why not walk in to her room and observe how messy it is and then just ask her if she would like you to be stricter with her and set some rules for how it is to be kept. You could mention that you may need to show it to future prospective residents. See how this goes and then consider bringing up the consequences issue. My prediction is she will ask about consequences and you can put that ball into her court and say, "What would work with you? What do your parents use?" [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Mork and Mindy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:16:49 12/30/22 Fri Excellent advice, Alfred22 By indirection find direction out! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:45:30 12/30/22 Fri I already know she's into spanking, but does she actually want to get spanked is the question. She may read about it and even fantasize about it and she's pretty, whats the word, obedient maybe and she did sit in the corner when I told her to that one time, but actually going across someone's knees and getting a really good spanking, possibly to the point of crying is another matter. I'm more of a top, but I do fantasize about getting punished with a spanking, but I'll be damned if I'll let anyone do it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:30:36 12/30/22 Fri Before I go out for the night I wanted to relate what happened after I got off work. I was sitting on the couch making a list of things I wanted to do this weekend and she came out of the bathroom, yanked out a wedgie and sat down next to me, like you could barely get a sheet of paper bettween us. I swear not only did I smell body odor but sort of a poo smell to. Not really profound, but I could smell it. She asked if I minded if she changed the channel, I wasn't even watching so she reached over to this stand next to the couch and it fell. So she reached down to get it, fumbled trying to pick it up. All this time I was focused on her butt. I wasn't really thinking about anything, but just staring at it. Her cute little cheeks and buttcrack. I know I sound like a pervert and maybe I am. Her body odor kind of came and went, then for some reason she raised her arms and it was pungent. Okay, I know everyone is going to say I should punish her and tell her to take a shower, but I'm not going to. firstly it's not my place to tell her to take a shower or wipe her butt or whatever. I'm just like it's her body and if she isn't bothered by it, that's her business. Secondly it's kind of offensive, but it's like a drug. It's kind of intoxicating and makes me want her, I don't know why, or at least makes me want to get her bare bottom all the more over my knees. I don't personally douse myself with perfume, but I've always been clean and have always found such odor a little offensive, but with this girl, I don't know it makes me want her. It fits her personality. Okay, I'm a pervert, I wanted to watch her butt again so I asked her if she would get my tablet which was charging across the room. She crawled to get it, about maybe 10 feet. I watched her butt as she crawled imagining what it looks like and what is in between. I'm sure she had no clue that I was fixated on her butt. So I looked at my tablet for a bit and asked her to take it back, which she did without question in the same manner. She plugged it in and sat in front of the tv with her heel in her crack. It was driving me nutty and I'm sure she had no idea I was watching or definitely not what I was thinking. When she sat back down next to me like an innocent, energetic child I forced myself to act cool and breath normally. I asked her if she was going to take a shower. She said "No. (pause) Why did you ask?" I told her I was going out and was going to be in the bathroom getting ready. "You don't mind if I go out tonight do you?" "Oh no, that's fine. I mean we are going to stay in tomorrow night and watch movies." She said this very confidently, but it was the first I'd ever heard of it. I was actually planning to go out and celebrate the new year. "Oh yeah, we discussed it, remember?" I swear to God we never had this conversation. So now I'm a bit conflicted. I was really looking forward to going out for New Yeard Eve, but the thought of her just sitting on the couch all by herself is making me cry. So anyway, that has nothing to do with spanking, I know but I just thought I'd pass that along. So I'm going out now. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Jillian2005 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:49:08 01/02/23 Mon You are not a pervert. Emi and I have been together well over 3 years and I never tire of following her perfect tail around. I know its the same for her. And a perfect butt always means a perfectly spamkable one as well! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:25:01 01/07/23 Sat Hi everybody. Sorry it's been a week since I've updated but it's been a busy first week of the year and as it happens I started the new year with the flu, so that was no fun. Unfortunately theres not much to update anyway. I was still trying to find a way to break this promise I don't remember ever making, or at least figure out a way to get her to go with me. I guess I actually had a good reason to give her a spanking, in preparing our private party she had made quite a mess of the kitchen and living room. Still suggesting ways that we could spend New Years Eve together by not being here, Mom next door and her two kids came to the door with cookies. Instead of just thanking them and closing the door, this silly girl invites them in and after a little while announces what a great idea it is to celebrate NYE together. The little girls thought that was great and were bouncing and the mom was like "Yeah sure." I felt like I had just completely lost control of my life. The girls were just absolutely taken with little stinky poo and fairly obviously she with them. Don't get me wrong, I like kids, I've done a lot of babysitting and we or I have looked after the girls when mom had to do things from time to time, but this was not really how I had envisioned spending my New Years Eve. So I ran out to get some things, really just to get out of the house to try to figure out what the hell just happened. So, instead of the adult movies and shit we were going to do it switched to more kid friendly movies and soda and games. Basically mom and I sipped drinks and talked while stinky poo and the girls played. I guess if anything it was interesting. And btw in my conversations with the mom the S word never came up, but in the back of my mind I wanted it to. I'm sure she can give a lot of pointers on giving an effective spanking. The girls and particularly the older one quite obviously thought a lot of my roommate. They were like attached to her. I swear to god that at one point the 3 were on the couch and the older girl had her nose in her armpit and I swear she sniffed and smiled. I know I wasn't seeing things. I don't know, kids, they do some weird things. So, New Years Day I wasn't really hung over, I didn't have enough to drink for that, but I wasn't feeling that well. Then I walked out into the living room to an incredible mess. After we both got our heads together I said "Okay, time to clean this mess up." We worked together, although honestly I did most of it, but she helped a lot. Sorry there's not much to tell that you really want to hear. Trust me, I'm more sorry than you are that I haven't had the chance to have something to write about that would be REALLY interesting. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:38:55 01/07/23 Sat You need to work on your resolve. You crave to spank your tenant and what you relate provides lots of reasons to sternly lecture her on her behaviors and pose the question about how they should be dealt with, which of course can more readily lead to the spanking choice as you each read body language. Yet you report back here that you have effectively missed opportunity after opportunity to do what you know you really need to do. Playing a cat and mouse game can be fun but at some point you need to capture your play thing. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:40:24 01/07/23 Sat Why not pick some unwanted behavior that she herself would admit to and ask her if spanking would help her break this bad habit? This should be easy enough for her to handle. If she wants to avoid admitting to being interested in spanking, she can just say, "No thanks, I am working on it." Then depending on where the conversation goes, etc., you can mention her childhood spankings or yours and inquire as to whether they helped or tell about yours and how you learned NOT to smoke! Or to text while driving, ... Once the ice is broken, you will be surprised how easy it will be to talk about spankings. We all are convinced that she will open up and may become too interested. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:46:21 01/15/23 Sun I really appreciate everyones help and advice but sometimes I feel you guys are kind of pushing me, not like I need any pushing or encouragement. I just don't want to jump into it and mess things up. She could be like "Ooh you pervert" or something and then the deals off. I want to take it kind of slow and if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen. I really want it to though. The other night, I was recouperating from a long day at work so we were sitting around and I asked her to turn the sound down on everything so I could have some quiet. There was some commotion next door and then inevitably the sound of a damn good spanking. She looked kind of embarrassed but interested. We kind of looked at each other. It was one of those moments when you knew you were on the same wavelength. I was like "Heres my chance" and I said something like "Sometimes I think you could use that." She like turned red and was like "Me? well I, I, I um..." and then we just let it drop. The funny thing though some time after that she cleaned her room (somewhat) which I've been asking her to do because it was really getting cluttered and frankly sort of smelly. She took a shower after that too. I don't know if there was any connection, but maybe. I've been trying to think of if there were any clues she gave that she was into spanking before she moved in. There must have been because I had fantasies about her for a long time before that. I seem to recall, although I was not directly in the conversation, the subject of spanking came up, I think it was at the library or maybe Starbucks or something. Of course that caught my attention and I seem to recall watching her reactions which were kind of embarrassed and like she had a secret that she was careful not to let out. I know that reaction well because I've lived it since I was a little kid. I know there had to be clues. I don't want to say I was attracted to her, but like in a spanking sense and I knew or just had a gut feeling that she was 'one of us'. So there must have been some clues early on that I picked up on that she not only was into spanking like me, but she wanted to be spanked and she knew I wanted to give one. Not much else to discuss. I just thought I'd check in. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:39:46 01/15/23 Sun No one here is pushing. And, very clearly no one should push you to spank your roommate. We all are eagerly awaiting you and roomie to work out the details of a fun but also constructive spanking partnership. The brilliant comment you made during the audible spanking overheard easily through the walls will be the icebreaker. She will want clarification and you should not hesitate to volunteer it. Take full advantage of having made the comment. You can say "what I meant when I said ... was ___. Use phrases like "attention getter" and "reminder" when you are talking about why she needs a spanking [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:22:49 01/15/23 Sun I agree that no one here is pushing you to spank. We as you are all picking up on the signs and you have opened that door quite widely. Clearly your roommate was embarrassed when you commented that she could use a spanking. Yet another sign/signal that you are moving in the right direction, even though at a snails pace. So, when you made your comment did you make it light heartedly with a tinge of kidding or laughter or did you have a more serious demeanor? If not the latter, you missed a good opportunity to take control and witness her reaction to such a bold move of commenting with a serious look on your face. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:56:22 01/15/23 Sun This is really a great forum. Clair has received many wise suggestions and most fundamentally she needs to overcome her fear of being called deviant or perverted. It might happen to anyone reading here. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:17:35 01/15/23 Sun Yes, Clair does need to embrace her own sexual preference and cease viewing it as deviant and perverted. All those words express is the opinion of others who do not happen to share your preference. So Clair, give the girl the spanking both she and you need. After that spanking, plan in your head for the next one. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:35:24 01/16/23 Mon A couple of thoughts on your recent updates: "She said this very confidently, but it was the first I'd ever heard of it. I was actually planning to go out and celebrate the new year. "Oh yeah, we discussed it, remember?" I swear to God we never had this conversation." I wouldn't be surprised if you come across this move again. If you ever get license to discipline at your discretion it would be fun to bring it up and see what she has to say about it. Will she willingly acknowledge the lie? Did others, perhaps her parents, let her get away with that sort of manipulation? etc. "I already know she's into spanking, but does she actually want to get spanked is the question." It's true that's a separate question. Her bringing up the subject of motivation is a pretty strong hint, but you aren't going to get a conclusive answer without talking about it overtly. --- Go at your own pace. You sharing your thoughts and experiences with this makes for interesting reading regardless of how it turns out. It does seem like you're a little worried of being exposed as a spanking fetishist. It's understandable. You do though here have the option to simply turn it around on her. Accusing the accuser is often a little distasteful, but it's different here. You can bring in some evidence. Maybe taking some time to imagine how you might respond if you were attacked for "being into spanking", might make you a little more relaxed about the prospect of talking about it. You could say that the thought of providing her with some motivation, combined with overhearing the mom next door handing out some good spankings, not to mention her own childish behavior and her seeming sensitivity to talk about corporal punishment sure makes it seem like spanking would be a good fit for her, but if not that's OK too. Or something along those lines. You have some plausible deniability here. But you don't have to deny "being into spanking" all you would need to do is deny bringing it up out of the blue and that's easy. There's plenty of context here to explain you bringing up the possibility. Perhaps the next time you overhear a spanking next door you can smile at her and ask if that's the kind of motivation that would do her some good. I think it would be a hard subject for her to talk about though if there's some physical distance between you. Imagine being in her shoes. She's likely more afraid of exposure than you are. She's the one who would look and feel really weird if her feelings aren't reciprocated, plus being potentially exposed to her peer group, plus possibly losing out on a great living situation. For her to be overt is a lot to ask from her. If she still occasionally comes to your bed that could be a time and place where it's easy for her to talk about it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:06:38 01/17/23 Tue These are some great things. I will have to read this again and concentrate. Thanks. And thanks for not pressuring me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Student [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:18:56 01/17/23 Tue When reading this thread again (third time. It makes me, um wet) it hit me...did it ever occur to you that she left her history up on her laptop and it available to you to chance upon on purpose? (I would love to trade places with her) [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:07:41 01/17/23 Tue Wow, I never thought of that. Maybe. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:27:47 01/17/23 Tue Funny thing is the tables were kind of turned. Last night she was like "Oh, I'm going out. See you later." I was like wait a minute, she didn't ask me if I wanted to go and she didn't ask me if she could go out. I know this was irrational, but I was kind of pissed. I wasn't really pissed, not rationally, but inside I was irritated. I just kept telling myself I was being stupid. I had work to do and it's nice to just have a night to myself and not have some spastic motormouth mousy chick buzzing around. Nevertheless, like a stern mother I waited up and watched the clock tapping my foot. It was only a little after 10:00 but I couldn't believe I even said this but it was something like "Out a little late tonight, huh?" I mean I really wanted to spank her, which was completely stupid. Not just wanting to spank her, of course I do, but I mean like a mom or something. I knew it was irrational, from beginning to end, but I couldn't help it. I wasn't really like this with other roommates. I might have wanted to spank them too, just because I'm obsessed with spanking, but I was feeling really protective of her and part of me was rationalizing this anger and self righteousness. Just thought I'd relate that. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:15:19 01/18/23 Wed You may have been jealous that she has someone else she is cultivating as a possible dominant to supervise her. What explanation did she offer? She may welll be looking around since you are taking too long to assume your role and to make her assume the position! There is no pressure to hurry unless this is a genuine possibility. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:46:38 01/18/23 Wed Yes, to accomplish your objective of spanking you need to take control not cede it. Your roommate goes out, comes back when she wants, doesn't invite you. You are not holding her interest. She may end up wanting to spank you for your weak knees approach towards her. You have repeatedly failed to take advantage of opportunities by adequately planning ahead and seizing the moment, not necessarily to spank then and there but to at least position both of you to make that happen in future. Maybe your fantasies should change to searching out someone to spank you! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:33:44 01/18/23 Wed There will be no shortage of volunteers to give Ms. Clair a big incentive to get on with it. She has admitted to deserving it but not having the nerve to ask for it for herself. Collectively, we can help her overcome the natural built in reluctance (aka as "It stings like the Dickens!". [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:19:18 01/18/23 Wed Yes, Clair is deserving. She came to this forum for input from others which she only sporadically acknowledged and then ignored because she lacks sufficient resolve and incentive from within to move forward. So incentive from without may be the key. The line forms on the left. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:01:39 01/22/23 Sun Okay, now you guys are just being absurd. I don't believe I ever said I need a spanking and I don't. Don't push. It will happen. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:52:59 01/18/23 Wed "Just look at the time. And on a school night too!" (unsaid, but perhaps only for now) It's the description of the personalities and the relationship dynamic that give a spanking narrative its charge. Without that there really isn't much of a story. So yeah, more of the same please. I wonder if she was thinking about your comment later that night. Could be. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:03:34 01/22/23 Sun Well, school hasn't actually started yet, but I'll be sure to keep that in mind. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:59:16 01/22/23 Sun The other night, I think it was Thursday, she went out for a while. I tiptoed into her room, kind of 'accidentally' brushed her laptop and low and behold her screen not only popped up, but the last thing she looked at, which was a spanking video and a really good one. She had apparently watched a few, some really good ones and a bit of spanking 'research'. I didn't want to linger too long because I wasn't sure when she'd get back. Yesterday, and this is big, she actually took a shower, but she left the bathroom in a real mess. I had asked her a couple of times to take care of it and her response was kind of like "Oh yeah, I'll get to that." The third time she was sprawled on the couch reading on her phone and the 'mom' in me came out. I was like "I've asked you twice to get the mess in the bathroom cleaned up, now get to it!" or something like that and I grabbed her under her arm and pulled her off the couch and followed her into the bathroom. Something just kind of snapped in me and I picked up the hairbrush off the vanity, I don't think she saw me do it, and when she bent over to pick up her jeans and dirty panties, her butt in her leggings seemed to beg me to take action. I gave a quick and good smack to each beautiful buttcheek. She jumped up and the only way I can describe it was shrieked. She turned around to me grabbing and rubbing her bottom "Okay, okay, okay, okay, I'm doing it, okay?" Like that. I couldn't believe I had just done that. Tbh, I was as shocked as I'm sure she was. I thought she would punch me in the mouth, but she didn't even act mad. You would expect "Hey bitch, what the fuck do you think you're doing?!" but not. I KNOW she felt them because they were some good smacks right on the meaty part and bent ober at that. She didn't complain, she didn't call me out, nothing I would have expected. She didn't only picked up her shit, but she actually cleaned the bathroom, not great but still. "Okay, okay, it's all done and I am so sorry, okay?" I didn't know what to say or do. I just kind of stood there dumbfounded. I still couldn't believe I did that and couldn't believe there wasn't some backlash. Then she confessed she left a mess in the kitchen and cleaned that up too. I swear I was more confused than she was. My stomach hurt with some kind of guilt, but it felt good. It felt really good knowing that her butt was stinging and I'm the one who stung it. It felt really good that I layed down the law and and her sort of submissive reaction. We went different ways last night but neither of us stayed out late. I came home to find her laying on the couch reading and watching a movie or something in her pajamas with her butt sticking up making me want to just turn her over my knees right then and there. She was real nervous and cheerful and made awkward conversation. So anyway, that's about it, but it was huge. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:50:14 01/22/23 Sun Yes!!! That was huge. Finally, the mom in you came out. It now looks like you have a naughty daughter on your hands who can do things around the house much better that she has to date. More important, she is responding like one who clearly knows she has messed up and so deserve the minor spanking she received. It is now just a matter of time before the spankings become longer and firmer and end up on her bare bottom where you dearly want to place them. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:46:34 01/22/23 Sun That's big news. She's well on her way to earning a new nickname - Spanky. She's probably more excited about this incident than you are. I'm not surprised she was butt up on the couch when you came back, and it wasn't because it was stinging but rather her wanting to present it to your eyes. Strangely curious about the video she watched. Would you share with us which one? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:31:06 01/24/23 Tue Well, I don't mean that when I walked in she was literally sticking her butt up, she was just on the couch on her belly. There were a couple of butt licking videos and that was kind of ew but interesting. One was this really cute girl with a bubble butt in the deans office, this woman used a thick paddle and just paddled her ass. I really don't know how the girl took all that and didn't cry. Another was this girl getting spanked with a hairbrush by her mom and it was a good one. Another was these two women taking turns spanking, strapping and caning this girl. I don't know what they were called or anything. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:51:02 01/24/23 Tue I didn't think she had it elevated, just that there might have been a little motivation there to present it to you. Maybe not even entirely conscious. Thanks for the reply on the videos. I'm sure it didn't escape your attention that they were all F/F. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:02:17 01/24/23 Tue The videos you mention have women and girls in them. So there is only the female gender involved, and age discrepancies of the older females spanking the girls. That of course is best shown by the mother/ daughter spanking. So Claire, the signaling is all there. Your roommate is into older females spanking younger ones. The scenario excites her or she wouldn't be focusing on it. Once again, you need to seize the moment to make it all happen. You can be the mother figure in the girl's life. You just need to resolve to assume that role. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:51:18 01/23/23 Mon Very well-done! We all here are proud of you. Personally, I feel that she could greatly benefit from more guidance. Be sure to praise her work. Praise it even if it isn't perfect and you could have done it much better. While she was shocked and didn't really expect a spanking, she got off very easy. You would be entirely justified in telling her that she escaped getting fully what she had earned and that next time it will be the full measure. If the bathroom or the kitchen are left inappropriately messy, tell her and include a warning that this time if this one warning is ignored as it was last time, it won't be just one spank on each cheek but a full dozen. Leave it vague as to whether you have in mind twelve on each side or twelve altogether. If she asks which it is, tell her a dozen in total IF she cooperates. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:18:44 01/30/23 Mon Sadly, nothing new to report. I wish there was. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:23:35 01/31/23 Tue Oh, it's driving me crazy, especially after reading that Berryblue finally took the big step. My roommate just got up, I think she oblivious to anything around her. I was just watching her head towards the coffee pot scratching and digging in her crack and then kind of squatting pulling out a wedgie in her pj bottoms. It's kind of gross in a way, but it drives me crazy. I don't know what it is about her being sort of, um, careless, but it revs my motor. She plopped on the couch and spilled her coffee. Inside I was about to freak, but I stayed calm and said "You are going to clean that up, aren't you?" "Yeah." "Do it now or it will stain. Get the shaving cream and a rag out of the cupboard in the hall and do it now. I don't want stains on my carpet." "Oh, okay." I'm really amazed by my restraint. And by the way, shaving cream is amazing for carpet stains. I'm just watching her scrubbing with her cute butt poking in my view and it's driving me insane. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:25:38 01/31/23 Tue She must have been on her phone all night or something because she is a real mess and it's making me laugh. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:26:55 01/31/23 Tue And by the way, she's a really good and sweet kid, which makes it even harder for me to take that big step. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:22:09 01/31/23 Tue Here I am talking about work ethic and I just looked at the clock and have to shower (some of us do that) and high tail it to work. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:19:49 02/03/23 Fri You may have captured why you have not moved forward even though you have had reasons in the past to do so. Your roommate is a nice girl whom you quite like and are taken by and so you are very reluctant to do anything that could risk you loosing her. So long as you have a strong need, if such is the case, to maintain your existing relationship you may well continue to miss opportunities. That means that she is ultimately the one in control and so is getting away with behaviors that would warrant discipline, however tepid at first. On the coffee front, for example, you could have assigned her to the corner to think about her careless or negligent behavior, but you continue to worry about her reacting negatively to your overtures. Tsk. Tsk. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:15:51 02/06/23 Mon Well, she did clean it up right away so there was no need to go any further. I mean she's not a slave or anything. I can't just go jumping into it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:55:07 02/06/23 Mon True, but her deferential behavior towards you when she is corrected does strongly suggest that she is a sub. As I read your accounts it seems to me that you get quite the rush when exercising your authority over her and so something approaching an enslavement response from her would be quite to your liking as you exercise parental like authority over a naughty girl in need of your correction. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:51:52 02/05/23 Sun Four "Okay" utterances after you landed two good spanks, one on each cheek is/are all you need so far as permission goes. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: SJ [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:39:13 02/06/23 Mon Clair, you have to make a decisive move, you've had a number of opportunities. I've told this story a few times before. Some years ago, I met a new business client, a lady in her mid-forties, who I got quite attached to (still am). After a few weeks, we met in a pub for lunch and we sat in the snug bar, all alone. A couple of drinks loosened our tongues and she asked what interests I had. I told I had one I couldn't possibly tell her about. She persisted, so eventually I admitted I liked spanking, thinking that was the end of a beautiful friendship. Her immediate reply was, ooh, would you do that to me? And I did, on a number of times after that. So you see, sometimes fortune favours the brave. In my younger days, I usually tried spanking a new girlfriend to test her reaction. I was always rebuffed, apart from one, so I left it at that. The one who agreed turned out to be an excellent spankee, although quite dominant in her everyday life. So go for it, nothing ventured nothing gained. The itch won't stop until you scratch it, I promise. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:52:48 02/06/23 Mon So, this happened yesterday. She was actually going to take a shower. I had kind of practiced this in my mind and waited for an opportunity. I went into the bathroom and had the good fortune to catch her with her pants of. She quickly rolled up her underwear in her jeans, I guess to hide them. I tried to be very nonchalant about it like it was just normal roommate stuff. I said "Oh I didn't mean to interrupt anything" This had all been kind of rehearsed in my mind. As I spoke nonchalantly I picked up the hairbrush off the vanity and first looked at it before running it through my hair. "I just wanted to remind you to make sure you clean up when you're done." Then I very gently set the hairbrush back on the vanity to sort of make it a focal point. I know I'm a horrible person for this but I was really enjoying her embarrassment. She had her jeans rolled up and was very like protective of them. I felt like I could actually read her mind. "OMG, she's going to spank my bare bottom with that hairbrush if I don't clean up." I know I must have sounded like a real pervert, but I said "Oh, I see you don't have any underwear. I can go get you a pair." "No, no, no, no that's okay." "It's no problem, really." "I just forgot to bring them. I'll get them." She was as red as a tomato and I am such a bad person because I was loving it. Before I left I ran the hairbrush through my hair again and reminded her to clean up. It was so perfect. I didn't plan on catching her at just the right moment when she had her pants off. That was just sheer dumb luck. She did clean up the bathroom after she showered, but her room is a bomb site. She just threw her dirty clothes on the floor, whatever floor you can find. I feel that very soon we're going to have to talk about that. I feel the moment is on the horizon. I felt so, Idk, in control. It was and is exhilarating. Let me ask you all something. Do you think I came off as a real pervert? Roommates do that. Not threatening a spanking, but I mean they're not always real modest. When you're living in a place with other people, I mean same sex, you sometimes see each other naked and it's no big deal normally. But as good and as in control as that made me feel it also makes me feel real creepy. She was obviously embarrassed so maybe she thinks I'm a pervert. One other thing. Since that time I put her in the corner and the time I smacked her bottom, I'm not real sure she even wants a spanking. It's one thing to watch videos and write stories and fantasize about it, but that doesn't mean she actually wants to be spanked. I mean it seems like she's doing everything not to. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:54:41 02/06/23 Mon Maybe she thinks I'm just a real bully and doesn't really like me but just has no other alternative right now. And maybe I actually am a bully. It bothers me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:06:15 02/06/23 Mon Get over it. You rehearsed what you did so you would not come across as a bully - and you did not on any reasonable reading of what you did. You have nothing to be bothered about. Your roommate knows she is untidy and that she needs to do better and is responding appropriately to your gentle reminders to act accordingly. Your next mission should you choose to accept it is to praise her for her tidy behavior and then be more insistent that she keep her room the same way and tell her there will be consequences if she fails to do so. You need not spell them out.Let her use her imagination. If she continues to be untidy she is not taking you serious and so inviting consequences. Start slow like before, a little corner time and perhaps a smack on the bottom when directing her there. I agree that you have an itch that needs to be scratched. Fantasy is enjoyment but that itch needs to be taken care of in real life. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:29:45 02/06/23 Mon I've been following this with great interest and anticipation, like "When are you going to spank her?!" First I want to ask did she roll her panties in her jeans and was protective of them because her underwear had poopstains? Probably why she didn't want you in her underwear drawer. They probably even though they're clean look dirty. It's kind of nasty, but it's kind of interesting at the same time and if you're cool with it, I guess it's not an issue. But look, if you can't even see the floor in her room that's reason enough and especially if it's an ongoing issue. Seriously, that's not sanitary and it's dangerous. She should be punished in some way for that. What if you walked in there for something and tripped or stepped in something sharp, or she does? That's very childish and she needs to take responsibility. I'll have to go back and find it, but didn't she say something about you punishing her or she said maybe some kind of punishment? You've put her in the corner, a very childish punishment and she just kind of went along with it. You smacked her butt a couple times and not in a playful way, but like a mom or something and she just went along with it. I think if she wanted to get out or was offended by it she would have told you or threatened to call the cops or something. There you have it. What more confirmation do you need. Look, I don't want you to feel pressured, but it sure sounds like she's asking for it and even begging for it. She may not want a sound can't sit down spanking, but it sounds like she knows she needs and deserves it and she wants to be guided and held responsible. Maybe it's more of a burdon than you want but you'd be doing both of you a favor. Sorry. I don't write on here much but I just can't hold my tongue anymore. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:37:12 02/06/23 Mon By you not holding your tongue, you interjected a voice of reason. Yes, the roommate should be held to a higher standard and has demonstrated that she in all likelihood would submit to a full on spanking. So indeed, what more does Clair need to act like the parent the girl seems to want and based on her irresponsible behavior needs in her life. Clair is still worrying too much about how the girl will react even though her reactions to date are clear and spell submissive. So again Clair do what needs to be done for the good of both of you! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:06:11 02/06/23 Mon Thanks Emmie Sue. You really said some true things. To answer your first question, yes, I guess that's what she was doing. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:59:40 02/06/23 Mon This just happened. I guess Emmie Sue's post kind of struck a nerve. She said a lot of true things. After we ate dinner, don't get too excited I just picked up subs, but we still have dishes piled up in the sink, I told her I wanted to talk to her. This is not an exact quote, but something like this "Your room is an incredible mess. You need to get it cleaned up." She made some excuses, which are kind of legit, she's been busy with school and work. I told her I work full time and am working on my masters degree but I still find time to do laundry, cook, clean the house and even pick up after her. She made more excuses and said "Well, I try." I asked her if she had any homework and told her that she didn't have time to sit around. I TOLD her to get her homework done and after she's done that to clean her room. I said "At least clear a path in your room, that's ridiculous and if it isn't done there will be consequences." she was like well, okay but... and I told her "No, you get that done now." In a way I felt really silly saying those things, and I was kind of shaking when I said it, but I was feeling these surges of something, I'm not even sure what. To be honest I think I kind of, um, dampened myself. It's weird because I feel kind of guilty. But I feel justified and I feel, I don't know some kind of power or something. And yes, it's a real rush. Idk, maybe she got a rush out of it too. So I guess right now she's in her room doing her homework. I don't care if she has to stay up till 3 in the morning, I better see some improvement in her room. Not really, I'm just kind of going with the rush. It's funny though. It's alwats been about the act of spanking that got me off. But lately I'm really getting off on caring about her. I don't mean like in a sexual way or in a relationship way, but I mean like when she's in a mood and needs a hug or needs to be told to do something when she's putting it off. Like I have to get after her about homework and deadlines and encouraging her to get things done way ahead of deadlines. And just things like okay you have an 8:00 class and it's 7:20 and you're still in your pajamas, things like that. I mean I could just not care and just spank her for leaving the place a mess, but I find myself sort of looking after her and I get frustrated, but I really like it. I guess there's a lot more to this whole spanking thing that I never realized. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:54:51 02/06/23 Mon You are doing things suggested by those who have responded to your posts. Do you think you are being influenced by this forum or do you believe you are arriving at what you are doing all by yourself? So far as your feelings towards your roommate, it is evident that it is not simply sexual in the vanilla sense. You want control over her and imagine yourself in a role not unlike parent who has a daughter whom she must make mind when and as necessary. That is after all where it is all headed if you go with the flow. That will provide your greatest rush anything more is icing on the cake. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:54:54 02/07/23 Tue I think you're putting words into my mouth. I don't have 'feelings' for my roommate. Not that there's anything wrong with it, but I'm not queer. Maybe I am, I don't know, but I mean you make it sound like I'm in love with her. And I don't want 'control' over her. I've never given an actual disciplinary spanking before, but I've always fantasized about it and urged to and it like just plopped in my lap. And besides doing something I've always urged to do, that being turning a naughty girl over my knees and really spanking her ass until she can't sit down, I feel like I can help her too. It's not just aggression, it has a purpose. I admit I do get a rush reprimandeing her or telling her "Now you do this now!" and yes, I get a rush when she goes "Okay, okay, I'll do it." or whatever, but 'control'? I think that's a strong word and I don't think I want to 'control' her. Actually that's kind of a turn off. Back to the original subject, I guess she got her homework done, I'm not really sure, but she didn't really do much to clean her room. There is a 'path' and well, technically that's what I asked her to do. I could give her a spanking, but tonight's not the night. She's in kind of a mood and needs lots of hugs and understanding tonight. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:16:26 02/07/23 Tue What you have described about yourself is the very essence of control. You want to a certain extent you have power over her - if one defines power as the production of the intended effect. You telling her to clear a path and her doing it is but one example. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:48:22 02/09/23 Thu Firstly, I just realized all this time I've been calling her my roommate. I don't want to use her real name so from now on I'll call her Jayda, is that okay? So I had had a really rough day at work, not bad just hectic and I knew I would have to bring work home to meet a deadline, so I called Jayda and asked her to cook dinner. Garlic toast pizza from a box in the oven wasn't exactly what I had in mind, but that's okay. I got home and the apartment smelled like smoke. Jayda explained in a sort of embarrassed and goofy way that somehow they got burned and the fire alarm went off, but they were okay and she stayed calm and took care of it. I can imagine, knowing her how calm she stayed. She was probably like "OMG, OMG, OMG, what do I do?!" But it was okay, they were pretty crunchy but practically eatable. I wasn't mad about that. Remember that time I got frustrated and put her in the corner? Same thing. I was working on a project on a deadline and she just kept blabbing. I'd tell her I couldn't talk right now and to please shut up. She was quiet for a while and then started talking about. 3 times. Finally she was yacking on the phone with her friend kicking up her legs and stuff on the couch and chair, giggling and being real loud. She was acting like the little girls next door. Some4how I finished my project and sent it. I was so frustrated I grabbed the phone out of her hand and told her friend "Jayda has to hang up right now. She might call you later." Jayda gave me sass about it and I told her I was in no mood to argue. I was kind of mad so I may not have been real nice telling her off about it. I grabbed her by the arm and led her to her room to check if she cleaned it. I don't think I was mean, just kind of firm, but right then I was pretty mad. None of this was rehearsed in my mind. "You said make a path." but I was like "Look at this shit!" I started digging through shit and she was like "No, no, please no." OMG, in the trash can I found two bowls of food with something indistinguishable in there that had been in there for God knows how long. I found the same rolled up jeans from the other day, and Emmie Sue, yes that was why. She was going "Oh no, please." like it was a secret or something. I found dishes and bowls with crap embedded on them, pop cans, under her bed I found underwear and a Sharpie and we don't even want to go there, I found a dowel, so I assume she self spanks when I'm not home. On that note, I confess I've self spanked, but that doesn't mean I actually want or would get off on a real spanking. So I took all this shit to the kitchen, which by the way was already a real mess and asked her to sit down on the couch with me. I took deep breaths and had calmed down by this time. I told her first of all that I wasn't mad about dinner and I really appreciated her effort. But first off her not being quiet when I asked her too. She was late and short with bills, but that was okay cause I covered it, but the rest of the stuff like not cleaning her room or the kitchen and getting sassy with me, having to stay on her about her homework and lots of other things. I reminded her that SHE is the one who said something about a punishment and then I told her I had to do something so I was going to give her a good spanking. "A spanking?! Like a real spanking?!" She looked honestly shocked. I told her it was the only thing I think would make an impression on her, just like the girls next door. I think she looked sort of excited, but not really. I told her it was going to be a long hard and real spanking. She didn't say anything really, just looked like maybe she was really worried. At first once I had calmed down from being mad I was very at ease like it was nothing. Then I told her to get over my knees and as she layed across my lap my head started spinning and my heart was pounding. I was like what the hell am I doing? It just seemed so unreal to me and i was about to just so okay forget it. She layed across my lap the length of the couch. I rubbed her bottom and rubbed in her crack, because, well you know, and I felt like the biggest pervert. I just couldn't slap her butt. I mean, I didn't want to hurt her but I really wanted to spank her and here she was. I'm sure my heart was pounding worse than hers. I gave her a really hard smack on her right butt. It felt great. I could feel her butt squishing under my hand. My brain was saying okay you smacked her butt, you've done it, now let her up. But it was too late for that. I knew I had to go through with it. She owed loudly with the first two smacks and I told her to try to be quiet. My heart was beating so fast I thought I was going to have a heart attack. I was giving her bottom a smack every 30 seconds or so. I smacked her a bunch of times in her crack knowing that it was probably..you know. She put her hands to cover her butt and I told her to keep her hands in front. When she didn't I really slapped her on her thighs. Her ouches and ows were pretty loud and she was going "Okay, okay, okay." Idk, when she does that "Okay, okay, okay, okay" stuff I don't know why, but I really get a surge out of it. I spanked her like that for a long time, I don't know how long, maybe 5 minutes. But by that time I was feeling comfortable with it and I realized my mission. I guess I got over the initial nerves and she was just getting a spanking and acting like any brat getting a spanking. I think by this time her legs had gone off the couch and her knees were on the floor. I don't know what snapped in me, but my nerves were over, my heart was beating sort of regularly and I said something like "Now I am going to give a real spanking and you are going to behave. Do you understand me?!" and she was like okay, okay, okay and said yes mam. She actually said yes mam. That really turned me on and gave me confidence. And I REALLY spanked her and spanked her good. She was actually crying and kicking and squirming. I don't know but I'm sure I spanked her good for a good 5 minutes. It's like something woke me up and I was like "What the fuck have I just done?!" but I didn't break character. She was going "Okay, Okay" and "I'm sorry I'm sorry" and "I'll behave, I'll be good". I don't know what was going on in her mind. I know she had to just hate me at that time and maybe wanted to punch the fuck out of me. I don't know. Trying to overcome my whatever I was going through I tried to stay in character, reassuring myself that I was justified I told her to go stand and face the door. "May I please rub my bottom it hurts so bad?" I just watched her rub her bottom, kind of dancing facing the wall. I sat there trying to figure out what the hell just happened. I kept thinking this was assault and I'm going to jail. My reputation is shot. I'm going to hell. But watching her rub her little bottom that HAD to be on fire was amazing. My hand did that. I've spanked girls in fun and my butt has been smacked in fun, but this was real. I actually had a girl, and THIS girl over my knees and sopanked her good. I have no idea what was going through her mind. I'm sure her butt was on fire and her head was spinning just like mine was. I was so wet. Despite all my apprehensions and guilt, I tried to justify it, but really, it was GREAT! I wanted more. I played the last 20 minutes over in my mind a hundred times. I mean this is something I had planned but I guess I just figured it would never happen, but it jus did. I got a chair from the kitchen and put it in front of the couch. I psyched myself. Then I went over to her and told her we weren't done. "Oh no please no, my butt hurts so bad." I told her I didn't think she had learned her lesson yet and pulled her over and across my knees and spanked her hard again. She was crying almost instantly, kicking and begging. It wasn't bad as the first, but it was a good spanking. She had tears and snot running down her face and I sat her on my lap. She was real dramatic about sitting, but I held her and petted her hair and rubbed her back and spoke quietly to her. I was amazed at how much this, I don't know if turned me on is the right word. It was something, Some kind of emotions that I don't understand. I told her not to make any plans on Saturday cause we are going to work together to clean her room and get her chores done and I told her that if it's not satisfactory that I was going to give her another spanking. "Another spanking?!" She looked like she was scared by that like she was at the top of a roller coater she just realized she didn't want to be on. She asked if she could go to her room. I can imagine what she did in there. Probably the same thing I was doing when the door knocked. The girls next door were at the door all smiles. They said they made cookies and asked their mom if it was okay to bring them over and asked for Jayda. They just love her. Jayda came out looking really white, but really embarrassed. They asked her if she wanted to play games or something and she said she couldn't because she had to clean the kitchen, but thanked them for the cookies. So now I KNOW they could hear it next door. The kids probably didn't think it was anything weird. People get spanked in their world, but I can't imagine what the mom thought. Jayda did actually do the dishes and clean up the kitchen somewhat. She said she was sorry like a thousand times. Then we went to bed. She came in my room waking me up about 3 times and I just said to get in bed with me. So I wanted to give you that update while I had some time. I'm actually late getting back to work but it's kind of a layed back day. I'm still trying to process this and trying to figure out how I'm going to act around Jayda, not to mention our neighbors. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:01:11 02/09/23 Thu A well detailed account of what happened that related the emotional responses of both of you to the discipline you administered. So you do have a lot to process and relive yet again as you strategize your next move. It seems to me that if you are paying close attention to what happened and your assessment of it that you now need to assume the role of a caring yet demanding authoritative figure in Jayda's life. Her response indicates that she is receptive to you assuming that mother-like role in her life. So going forward you need to tell her what she needs to do that she should be doing but has failed to do so. She now knows you will spank and put her in the corner. So simply telling her there will be consequences if she shrugs her duties will be understood by her. Let her know that you could have been even stricter and that next time she will find herself in an even more embarrassing position. By then, if she is falling in line, she is ready to be spanked the way you want to and that of course means with her pants and dirty panties down and either off then, or certainly by her next spanking. The spanking should include extra spanks for her sanitary habits to impress on her that you have reasonable expectations. She knows that all already or she would not have tried repeatedly to hide her panties. So Clair, you now has a naughty little girl on your hands that can be molded by you into a much better girl. Carpe diem! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:25:05 02/09/23 Thu I spent a lot of time at work trying to figure out how I was going to face her. Was I going to act mean like she deserved it and I did what had to be done and act mad, was I going to be overly kind, was I going to try to act normal like nothing ever happened? I parked and happened to run into the mom next door going out. We greeted each other like we always do, but I swear she smiled at me like she knew what went on last night. It was like sort of a wink and a nod. So I get into the apartment and Jayda was like all smiles but like acting shy or something and I wasn't really sure how to react. She had made dinner and actually did a really good job. She made spaghetti and meatballs. She said she used the pound of ground beef "Was that okay?" I mean, yeah it was fine. I have generic Italian seasoning and I think she dumped way too much in there, but that was fine. She was sitting on a pillow during dinner but I think she was being overly dramatic. There is no way her butt could still hurt that bad. i've heard of getting spanked so you literally can't sit down the next day, but I don't believe that. I mean I spanked her pretty damn good and twice, but it couldn't have been that bad. She told me later that her butt really hurt and she could barely sit in class, but I'm sure that was just drama. There was quite a mess in the kitchen which I just went ahead and cleaned up, but there was spag sauce on the wall and stove. I pointed that out to her and she was very apologetic. So, we just kind of went about our daily lives as if last night was just another normal day. I was really worried, but I guess that's how that goes. Wondering Supportive said >The spanking should include extra spanks for her sanitary habits to impress on her that you have reasonable expectations. She knows that all already or she would not have tried repeatedly to hide her panties.< I'm not going to do that because that's none of my concern. Crusted molding food in a plastic container in her trash can that had been there for God knows how long is as it can be a health hazard and attract bugs. Besides something about her um, neglecting her hygiene in various ways I just find really interesting and that's her and that's part of what makes her so adorable and loveable, and okay to be honest, it's kind of a turn on for me. I don't know why, don't ask me why. At first I guess I was like ew, but something about it..I don't know, like attracts me to her, but not in that way. Does that make sense? Since she first moved in I guess I've played a sort of motherly or big sisterly role, but as we got more comfortable with each other it got moreso and well, now I spank her. I still don't know what she really thinks about that. She might be really mad at me, I don't know. I hope she doesn't feel trapped or something and that's why she's being so friendly because she's afraid of me, like what is that called? Munchauser Syndrome? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:15:30 02/09/23 Thu Hmmm, none of your concern. Given the disaster area of her bedroom coupled with her sanitary habits and her making meals, I would be worried about staph or some other bacterial infections. It is one thing to get turned on by certain behaviors but when they can reasonable be seen to pose a real threat to one's health, it is time to reevaluate one's thinking on the subject. To interject yet a further reality, it is now well known among the observant population that many out there have compromised immune systems and so are more susceptible to illnesses and diseases than they used to be. We can ignore all of that of course but one can't control the consequences that flow from what is going on around us as we choose to bury our heads in the sand. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: SJ [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:02:48 02/10/23 Fri Clair, thank goodness the goodies are out of the jar at last. The suspense was killing all of us. It certainly looks like you did a good, but fair job, and Jayla didn't seem to too overly object. From your eloquent description, I take it this first spanking was not on the bare. If so, next time she is approaching danger point, warn her that the next one will be on panties or bare. That should straighten her up. Now that you both know how the relationship will shape up, it will be interesting if at some point Kayla comes to you if chores not done/bedroom in a mess/making undue noise, she actually comes to you and suggests that another reminder spanking may be in order. You'll know you're really in then. Please keep us updated. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:31:44 02/10/23 Fri audentes fortuna iuvat Excellent. It couldn't have gone any better. That was a bold approach, you avoided having an awkward conversation and getting her consent. A little risky, but all's well that ends well. And I'm sure you both like it better the way it played out with it being imposed upon her. It was clear from your posts the last couple of weeks that Jayda's chastening was soon approaching. You've managed the whole thing really well. I do have to disagree with your comment on the rolled up jeans "...like it was a secret or something". Uh, yes it was, probably her biggest secret. Just you witnessing that, even without saying a word could be the event that brings on some change in hygiene. Maybe. It would certainly be of benefit to her if it was. I have a couple of questions. It sounds like you hand spanked her for the equivalent of about 10 minutes at a good pace. That's quite a bit. I'm surprised your hand didn't give out way before you were through with her. A lot of women wouldn't have the arm strength to swing hard that long, let alone a hard enough hand to handle the impact. Just curious, do you have an athletic background? Did you spank her over her pants? If anything was taken down, was it done by you or her? Munchausen's syndrome is where someone seeks medical attention for someone else, often falsifying the symptoms the other person has to make them appear more ill. You may be thinking of Stockholm syndrome. This isn't that. She does actually like you (she talks all the time and crawls into your bed), is into spanking (she watches videos and journals about it), wants someone who takes a leader role in her life (she asked for help with motivation) and could use some guidance (too much evidence to list). Her suffering from Stockholm syndrome isn't something you need to worry about. That said, this was an intense experience for her and she is vulnerable to you. Continuing with the big sister (but who also disciplines) role is a good way to go. You can be affectionate, friendly and looking out for her without considering her an equal in authority. Given that she's staying in your place where you are paying most of the bills and since she has less demands on her time it would make sense for her to handle more of the chores. Talking about her taking on more of the chores would be an opportunity for her to open up about the spanking and how she feels about being disciplined. But assuming that she's willing to continue along with this just being how things are, and I would bet money that she is, then take on a little more authority. Don't clean up after her. If something needs to be done, have her do it when you notice it, right then. Slap her on the butt sometimes when you make a point. If you get underneath it and spank upwards, it doesn't have to be very hard for her to get the message that 'Clair means it'. Use the word spanking from time to time. As long as this is good for her - enjoy yourself. The best part was the detail about the mom next door. It will be fun to watch her blush again should you choose to share that with her. How humbling. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:01:56 02/10/23 Fri The way I get it, RV, is she gave her slaps real slow at first for maybe 5 minutes probably not all that hard. Then she gave her a good 5 minute real spanking. She had a long time in the corner to rub her bottom then another hard spanking for maybe 2-5 minutes. That's what I got out of it, still a damn good spanking. Clair, with the spanking you gave her, especially if that was her first she probably wasn't being dramatic when she sat on a pillow at dinner the next night. I've heard that even a hand spanking over jeans if she's not used to it can make her butt sore for a day, maybe two. Sitting on a pillow is probably drama, but I bet her butt hurt. Her butt might be bruised too. So Clair, I had to go back and look but she rolled her dirty panties in her jeans like a week ago. So she had poop or at least poop staying laying on the floor for almost a week? I get that you don't want to dictate if she wipes her butt or not, but seriously she can't just leave them on the floor for a week. And you said you found another pair of underwear under the bed. Same? And what's up with the Sharpee? Was she sticking it up her butt? That's cool I guees if that's what she's into. But if it had poop on it it shouldn't have been under her bed. And by the way, that must have been terribly humiliated when you were going through her stuff. I'm not sure I agree on that. So you had an orgasm while you were spanking her? Wow. That is intense. I see your concern with Stockholm Syndrome (sorry, not Munchausen Syndrom) and she knows she can't just walk out at any time, but her reactions that you described don't seem like she feared for her life, felt trapped or imprisoned. It sounds like she was waiting and hoping for it, she just didn't realize it was gonna be that real. And by the way, I think you were 100% justified. Are you going to spank her again on Saturday? Are you going to pull her pants down? Will you just use your hand? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Maddie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:01:37 02/10/23 Fri This is amazing. I have no words. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:40:49 02/11/23 Sat In response to RV, I guess in all the excitement I wasn't really thinking about my hand hurting. It stung at first, but I guess it was adrenaline and I really didn't notice it. I sure did the next day though and my arm and shoulder felt like I'd had a good workout at the gym. I did only spank her on her jeans. I don't think either of us are ready for taking her pants down. I mean I've seen her naked and she's seen me, like changing or going in and out of the shower or whatever, but that's different. I'm not all that modest around roomates, she is, very. And somebody asked if I had played sports. Yes, in HS and college I played soccer. Not real seriously. I thought this was cute. When I got home from work she greeted me, sort of shy and said "I did my laundry so we don't have to do it tomorrow." Probably only because she didn't want me to see her dirty laundry, lol. Later like a little kid she said "I'm going to go out tonight. Is that okay?" I was like yeah, you don't need my permission. Then she asked what time she should be home. I was like whatever time you want. Okay, today is the day we are going to clean the shit out of her room and get the apartment clean otherwise. I don't know how this is going to go. I'll probably end up doing most of it. She gets distracted very easily. I'm sure it's going to end in a spanking. I hate myself for this, but I'm sure I will find some excuse because the other night was better than I ever dreamed it would be. The actual act of being the disciplinarian and having her over my knees and spanking that butt and knowing her butt had to be sore and red and Jayda squirming and crying, Idk, it was greater than I ever fantasized. I want more of it. I know that makes me a bad person for getting off on it so much and I feel a lot of guilt, not to mention that she could actually charge me with assault, not likely, but it's possible I suppose. I've gotten a lot of encouragement and approval on here but everybody on here is a spanko so of course you guys approve, but in rl that might be different. But to make it kind of real, I did it seems get approval from the mom next door. That was a weird moment because she just kind of smiled and not exactly winked, but like she knew what was going on and was like "Yeah, that girl needed a good spanking. Good job." or maybe she thought we were having S&M sex or something, I don't know. And by the way, I did find this great wooden hairbrush that looks like one in a video. It's thick and has a long handle. I doubt that I'll ever use it. The old one in the bathroom is plastic and would probably just break. Okay, I think that covers everything. I'm really looking forward to today. Not just the idea that I'm going to spank her again, I'm sure I'll find a reason, but I'm one of those people who like things clean and orderly and this is an opportunity to maybe help her and show her how to do domestic things and not be such a slob. I don't know if she has ever gotten a spanking before. I get the feeling that she's spoiled. Maybe not spoiled, but I don't think she grew up with much discipline. I don't really know, we've never really talked too much about her growing up. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:57:48 02/11/23 Sat You wrote that you do not think either of you are ready for taking her pants down. There is a compromise between spanking over her jeans (which considerably diminishes the impact) and a bare bottom spanking, namely a spanking over her panties. Alternatively, if you wait until she dressed for bed, presumably her nightie or pajamas would offer less protection than her jeans. You also wrote that she is very modest. That suggests that spanking her when she is “jeans less” would have quite a psychological effect - heightening your dominance. As for your comfort, using an implement (which need not increase the severity of the spanking because you can adjust the forcefulness) would protect your hand. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:52:32 02/11/23 Sat One other thing. Somebody on here, it was Berryblue, said something about sub drop. I was worried about that. I don't want her to get depressed or anything, God knows she's already moody enough. So I had concerns about that. Fortunately in Jayda's case it seems to be the exact opposite. The last few days she seems to be more energetic, I don't know about happy, but like in this really weird sort of shy way. I mean it's almost to the point of being annoying how willing she is to please. Maybe it was a really bad experience for her and she doesn't want to get another spanking, even worse, and I hope this is not the case, she is afraid of me. I hope not. I don't want her to be subservient or afraid of me. I don't know if there is such a thing as dom drop, but I'm not really depressed, but I have a lot of guilt and feel like I'm a really bad person. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:53:22 02/11/23 Sat Hard to understand why you would conclude that you are a really bad person. From your description of Jayda’s spanking, she did not resist and willingly went over your lap. You also know from her Internet browsing that she is fascinated by spankings. Furthermore, post-spanking, she voiced no objection. As for your intent to spank Jayda today, I offer a plan that I suspect you will find too aggressive to implement but would have a significant psychological effect on Jayda: tell her that you do not appreciate having to spend a Saturday cleaning up her messes and to dissuade her from continuing to behave so badly, you intend to spank her after the cleanup is complete - and that the severity of the spanking will depend on how well she follows your instructions today. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened (to Clare) Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:21:54 02/11/23 Sat Excellent suggestions Gantard. Clare: One way or another you need to warn her early today that this mess and the time it is going to involve cleaning it up have earned her another spanking. The warning is essential for fairness and to assure diligence in the work today. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened (to Clare) Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:40:35 02/11/23 Sat You, me, Gantard and Random visitor are all encouraging Claire to take a more aggressive stance towards Jayda if Claire is to realize her full fantasy either earlier or at all. Her deferential and laid back response towards Jayda is not advancing anything and is counter-intuitive given all the signals Jayda has communicated. The girl wants to be told and wants to be taken in hand by Claire. Meanwhile. Claire continues to pass up opportunities presented to her to deal with the girl the way she, and seemingly the girl, wants to happen. So Claire, do put the girl on notice at least of a future bare bottom spanking for non-compliance with rules you need to set. You can thank us all later that we prodded you into action. Everyone wants a happy ending for you. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:45:40 02/11/23 Sat If you want to be the authority figure that Jayda seems to want in her life then her subservience is unavoidable. It just comes with the territory. A happy energetic subservience is the best-case response. Imagine someone like, oh say, Jayda being told "a spanking would do you a world of good young lady" before being disciplined. Her happy mood and eager-to-please disposition towards her disciplinarian afterwards is proof that that assessment was correct. It seems kind of endearing to me, and her checking in with you is an acknowledgment of your authority and maybe a bit of an invitation on her part as well. Granted, I do have a bias and only learning through your reports, but still. Even a little fear might be unavoidable although I definitely understand why you wouldn't want her to feel like that. If she is scared it's probably less the prospect of another spanking and more her secrets being exposed (poor hygiene, disrespect to a friend going out of hew way to help her with housing, the emotional vulnerability of a spoiled child to a hand spanking over jeans). But the more she knows you like her and want her to do well the less she'll fear that you would betray her trust in that way. The thicker the implement, the quicker she will bruise. That sounds like the kind of brush that really could leave someone unable to sit for a day or more. With something thinner you can give a prolonged spanking and let her have a good long cry over your knee without doing a lot of lasting damage. There's a number of kitchen tools that fit this description like rice paddles and spaddles. I like the long handle though. Just remember if she calls the police, the Fifth Amendment protects your right to not be coerced into self-incrimination. Don't talk to the cops, simply decline to answer their questions. That's pretty much always good advice, especially so in your situation. Make them prove their case without your assistance. Memorizing the phone number of a local bail bondsman might be prudent. (She isn't going to call the cops. You know that, right?) On the serious side, I disagree that you need to inform her that a spanking is inevitable today. That shouldn't be the case. Judge her on her behavior and respond accordingly. You can be certain that she is judging you on yours. We all believe she wants you to be strict, I do as well, but she also wants you to be fair. I think that which of the two is the more important is self-evident. She'll provide you plenty of opportunities to discipline, maybe even today. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:03:16 02/11/23 Sat Speculating as you have in your latest post that you expect you will be spanking Jayda over her room does indicate how badly you want that girl crying over your knees. It is interesting that you state you don't want her subservient to you when that state of mind on her part is precisely what you should be cultivating, particularly when she is telling you in so many words that she is ready to serve your needs. Her asking you if it was ok to go out and what time to be home gave you the perfect opportunity to exert control over her. You could have said something like your room is still a mess but its ok this time that you go out without cleaning it and that X would be a good time to be home by. She is inviting your control over her life, which you want. Its understood you don't want absolute control but you should get her use to listening to you on small matters so you can more readily spank her on larger ones. Moreover, you position yourself to lecture and exert your authority if she does not comply with what she asked for and was told by you. For example, if she came home later than the time you said. In that case she may well be defying you just to get admonished and or spanked. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened (last weekend) Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:14:30 02/17/23 Fri Glad it is going well. I do want to apologize for my spelling "Clair" wrong. Hopefully this weekend will bring more good things for Jayda and Clair. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened (last weekend) Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:33:28 02/18/23 Sat It is too bad that older messages drop off this voy site. In early 2020, a woman asked how she could best achieve a spanking of her roommate. She followed the advice given and, just before COVID shut down the world and sent her roommate scurrying home, succeeded in spanking her roommate. She then purchased a paddle and put it to good use when her roommate returned to the apartment around June 2020. After the first paddling, she also gave her roommate a thorough bath, to include pushing two fingers into the roommate’s anus (acknowledging that she did so to demonstrate her dominance). No further postings after the first “return” spanking. Your roommate could certainly benefit if you were to give her a thorough bath. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:07:32 02/18/23 Sat Sorry it's been a week since I last reported. I've been very busy. I'll try to recall last Saturdays cleaning day, which did end up with a spanking. Of course it did. I'm a little ashamed of myself but I knew I was going to spank her and I was determined to find any reason to do it. I'm a bad person. So I decided to be stern with Jayda and act like her boss or something because it was cleaning day and I just wanted to see how that approach went. I peeked into her room and she was on her bed on her phone and I'll be honest I just stared at her upturned bottom in her pajamas. The overwhelming desire to spank it made my head spin. I was like do I give her a spanking for motivation? I resisted that temptation, but it wasn't easy. I guess she didn't know I was watching and she like scratched her crack and pulled a wedgie. To be honest I was panting. I walked away for a few minutes then walkked back in her room, still in the same position and just slapped that butt twice and told her to get up, we had a lot of work to do. She was surprised by the spanked and looked at me like she was going to punch me. We sat in the kitchen for a couple cups of coffee. To be true she was kind of stinky. It was kind of offensive, but I'll be honest I kind of smelled the air as she passed to fill up her cup. It was making me more and more determined to act like her stern supervisor and even though I had no reason to at that point kept envisioning the inevitable payoff. We took a while to clear our heads and then I said "Alright, wash your face and brush your teeth and put some work clothes on. It's time to get busy." It was like an order and I couldn't believe that actually came out of my mouth. I waited for her in her room. She came in and I said "Where are your dirty pajamas?" She was like "Oh, ha." She came back in and threw them on her desk. I said "We're not off to a very good start, are we? Pick those up." She just threw them in a drawer, which I guess was okay. She said she did her laundry and cleaned up a little and I was thinking "Yeah, you just hid things you didn't want me to see." So, just so you don't think I'm just a big meanie, my intention was to show her, I hesitate to use the word 'train her' how to clean effectively and keep it clean. I had 2 boxes for stuff that we would decide later to find a place for or throw out. I asked her where she put the stuff she didn't want me to see. She was reluctant to tell me and I told her I didn't want to see it, I just wanted to know and say "See, that's a good start. So if you did that, you already know how to get started. I told her we were going to start in one portion of the room and do one task at a time. There were books all over the floor, her bed, her desk etc. so we gathered all the books. Her bookshef was a disorganized mess so the first thing we did was shelve and organize and categorize her books. Then we started with a corner of the room and worked our way from there. We took a couple breaks and a light lunch and got back to it. I found a few things that weren't hers, meaning mine and in my mind I made notes so those things we were definitely going to need to discuss. So eventually we had her room in pretty good shape. I think she was amazed that there was actually a floor in her room. I told her to vacuum. Can you believe that girl has never been taught how to vacuum? She was zig zagging all over the place. So I instructed her on how to vacuum and took that opportunity to encourage her with a couple of spanks. Then we worked together on the kitchen and I told her to vacuum the living room. To be honest I think she was really proud. I actually did most of the work, but I was really proud of her too. In my brain I was like she really doesn't deserve a spanking, but I've been anticipating it since the last time and for all I know she was too. She seemed to act like she knew it was coming. I put the kitchen chair in front of the couch like I did last time and hid the new brush under a pillow just in case. By putting the chair in front of the couch I was committed and she knew it. I sat in the chair and told her we had to talk. My heart was pounding and I felt dizzy, but outwardly I was very cool and stern. First I told her how proud I was of her and kind of listed all of the things we had accomplished today. By this time I think we were both pretty stinky to be honest. She looked so naughty it was driving me insane. I think she looked like she was going to cry, first because she was so proud and second because she felt like a naughty girl about to get a spanking. On the other hand there were the items she 'barrowed' and some things neither of us could even account for. Of course I did most of the work and then I really just made shit up as an excuse to spank her. Jayda awkwardly and without much protest turned herself over my knees. I felt like I was going to pass out. I rubbed her bottom, like a lot and rubbed her crack and actually kind of poked my finger up her butt through her jeans. I'm pretty sure she was getting as much out of it as I was. I started with hard spanks every minute or so. I can't tell you how long I did that for. It was a long time and I know Jayda's bottom was already hot. I could barely get the words out but I said "Okay, are you ready?" Then I gave her a LONG spanking and it was like I had no control of myself, increased speed and intensity. She was kicking and wiggling all over my lap and when she put her hand back to cover her bottom I snapped "Get that hand down." and smacked her thighs. I had to tell myself to stop. I held her over my lap and rubbed her bottom while she cried it out. To be honest, I rubbed places I shouldn't have. She didn't seem to object though. It was like that new hairbrush possessed me. I really wasn't going to use it but I was like I have to. I showed it to her and she was like "No, no, no, no, please no." I just gave her a couple swats with it on each side. She really yelled when it struck. By this time my hand was swollen and throbbing. Smacking her bottom with that brush was a new experience and an altogether new rush for me. I know that thing had to sting. I helped her up and sat her in my lap. She made a big production about sitting. I don't know, maybe it really hurt to sit, but I doubt it. I really don't know which is better, the actual spanking or the comforting part. I'll be honest, I really got off on it. I think she did too actually because she was cuddling hard. I took a shower and when I got out and Jayda and I were just straightening some things up there was a knock on the door. The little girls next door were all smiles and this time had brought over brownies. So I got an idea and asked the mom if they would like to join us for pizza. So then we all went out for pizza. The girls are just smitten by Jayda. I know I was having a lot of fun watching Jayda try to hide her discomfort sitting. I think the mom and the girls noticed it too. So I'm sure the mom knows what's going on. It's pretty obvious that she approves. I think Jayda was very embarrasssed. I think she knew that everyone knew that she had gotten a good spanking. I don't think the girls care. I think they just think it's normal. I don't think they think anything unusual about it. So anyway, that was a real interesting day. Sometimes I feel like a monster. I get off on spanking her and embarrassing her. I'm an ogre. I'm basically just using her to satisfy my desires. That makes me kind of a pos. But I mean on the other hand we really did accomplish a lot. When we got back Jayda asked the mom if she wanted to see her room. The mom said "Oh, I've seen your room." But she did and she was really impressed and Jayda looked so proud. It hasn't exactly stayed that way over the coarse of the week, but it's pretty good. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:11:06 02/18/23 Sat Sorry, I forgot to mention that at the end of the night, she had her pajamas on and we were just watching whatever was on we talked about it and I told her if I have to do that again I will pull her pants down and she was like "No, no, please don't do that." but I stood firm. I can't wait. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:13:53 02/18/23 Sat But really, I'm not going to push it. I think it will be a long time if I ever spank her again. I'm not going to make up bullshit excuses just to spank, although I really, really, really want to. It's got to be something real and deserved. Even then I don't know if I will again. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:58:48 02/18/23 Sat Given Jayda’s habits, it will not be difficult to identify “something real and deserved” to warrant another spanking. As for your constant berating of yourself, stop being silly. For example, you stated that Jayda seemed to be getting as much out of the experience as you. She went over your knees without much protest and cuddled with you afterwards. She is always free to find other housing - but where would she find such a caring roommate, one who allows Jayda to cuddle and to lie next to her in bed? Time to stop spanking yourself metaphorically and give Jayda what she unconsciously wants and needs. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Mork and Mindy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:18:18 02/18/23 Sat Clair, from what I can see Jayda is a willing participant and I suspect lies over your lap to be spanked for two reasons. One is she understands a spanking will help her improve. She took the lady from next door to see her cleaned up room. Jayda wants to be better than she is. Two is I'm quite sure she too is getting a buzz out of being spanked. I suggest today you have a talk with her. You'd say something like, "Jayda, I've spanked you twice now and from my perspective they've done you a lot of good. I don't spank you because I'm mad at you. I might be annoyed but that's not why I spank. I spank to help you be better and I have to tell you I think it works for you. I've told you that if I have to spank you again it will be on the bare. You'll likely also get a few with the hairbrush again. I cleaned up your room with you because I wanted to help you. I spanked for the same reason. I want to help you be the person I know you want to be. That's my view and now I'd like to hear yours. I could tell how how proud and pleased you were to have a clean room. You even showed Mrs. XXX Now, be honest with me. Do you think the two spankings I've given you have helped? Do you think if I feel you need to be spanked again that would help?" I'd be surprised if a conversation like this didn't lead to more spankings and your 'don't know if I will again,' be totally wrong. Mindy [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:37:05 02/18/23 Sat It's interesting that you haven't written anything about how your relationship with Jayda has changed. It leads us to assume that everything is pretty much the same between the two of you as it was before her first spanking. That's a little strange. I would have guessed she would be showing up more often to sleep in your bed or trying to cuddle on the couch or just talking a lot more. Have the two of you talked about this beyond you telling her next time it's pants down? I think Mindy has the right idea here. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:36:04 02/18/23 Sat A superb recounting of what happened. Other commentators have summed up the situation quite accurately using your own words and experience to do so. It is all signals go. You have a green light. You will probably by the time you have read this have reason to spank the girl again. Even you now realize that her smell though a turn on for you can be too pungent and that alone is reason to spank. She no doubt comes in contact with others and so needs to appreciate boundaries. But one example of the 'training' she needs. She in many respects is feral and so needs to be socialized. So ditch the guilt, and position her bare bottom over your lap for a real spanking. Both her and you want it to happen. Her begging you not to spank with her pants down (and why not off) is her sign of surrender. You have the control so use it. You have been fixating on such a day and it is there. All you need to do is seize it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:33:28 02/19/23 Sun Thank you everyone for your comments. They make a lot of sense and I feel more confident in my mission. I just have to be really careful to separate my desires from rl. The act of spanking is REALLY satisfying. I have to be cognizant that I'm not doing it just to satisfy my personal desires. Gantard, I think when I said she got as much a buzz as I did or something, I was talking about kind of rubbing places I shouldn't have been. RV, I think I have mentioned how our relationship, not like that but, like as roommates has evolved sort of intertwined. It has obviously changed, but really except for the spanking and in the past few months becoming more of an, I guess the word is authoritarian figure it's kind of the same. I have kind of a dominant personality to begin with and Jayda id kind of a follower. We haven't really talked much about it except that she has told me her butt is sore and it was hard sitting in class or wherever. WS, somebody mentioned, but I can't find it now about giving her a bath. While the idea is very appealing, I mean come on, she's my roommate. I can't just go okay I'm going to give you a bath. Since I read that it really got into my head, not in a lesbian way or anything, well maybe Idk, but I've given it thought, but come on, that would never happen. Finally Mork & Mindy, wow. This is perfect. I'm going to copy this and practice it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Maddie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:17:14 02/19/23 Sun Listen to Mindy. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:17:16 02/19/23 Sun RV asked how Jayda and my relationship has changed since the first spanking, or really since I put her in the corner that one time. But what I think is even more interesting is how our relationship with our neighbor has evolved. I mean we have always been friendly and visited each other. I don't think the girls have changed much except they're bringing over more treats. I think they do that because they feel sorry that Jayda, their big friend was naughty and got a spanking. I don't think they find anything out of the ordinary about it. But I keep getting these like nods of approval from the mom. Since the first pretty obvious spanking she has treated me on more of an adult level and we are more open. She also seems to treat Jayda more like a misbehaving child. It's really interesting. I don't know if she's 'into' spanking or just from a moms perspective. We had always had that kind of dynamic, but okay she's like in her late 30's and a mom, I guess to her I'm just a kid. I think she really likes Jayda and the girls adore her, but I think she has always seen her as rather immature and childish. She's always treated me like an adult, but Idk, like she sees me as more of an equal or something since, if that makes sense. Like when we went out for pizza and outside of just hanging out at each others apartment we didn't really go out, so this was kind of a big step. Aside from the obvious, it was an interesting night. We talked about stuff, not exactly like equals, but like older wiser adult to young adult taking responsibility. just thought I'd check in with that. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:21:22 02/19/23 Sun And btw, I hope I don't give the impression that she's a mean mom or real strict. She's really cool and so good to the girls. I just think being a single mom she finds that spanking works. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: It happened Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:33:31 02/19/23 Sun Isn't it interesting that your neighbor views Jayda as a misbehaving child. If you clearly reflect on that you no doubt can understand why. You can also understand why spanking works for such children who have thought patterns that are often not adult in nature. I did not suggest bathing Jayda but since you directed a reference to it to me, I would say this since the thought is appealing to you. Jayda would be receptive, given her demonstrated submissiveness, to you telling her that she needs to take a bath and to wash fully or you will do the job. Watch her facial expression and listen to what she says and you will then know whether or not in future you will be able to strip her and assume that level of control over her body. Imagine how nicely that could merge with a spanking she has coming. Oh, by the way this is just an extension of your fantasy which you have already pondered or perhaps one already fully blown in your mind. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:13:34 02/26/23 Sun Hi. Sorry, what's it been a week since I last wrote. Mork & Mindy, I practiced this and practiced this even saying it out loud and in front of the mirror. You said "Jayda, I've spanked you twice now and from my perspective they've done you a lot of good. I don't spank you because I'm mad at you. I might be annoyed but that's not why I spank. I spank to help you be better and I have to tell you I think it works for you. I've told you that if I have to spank you again it will be on the bare. You'll likely also get a few with the hairbrush again. I cleaned up your room with you because I wanted to help you. I spanked for the same reason. I want to help you be the person I know you want to be. That's my view and now I'd like to hear yours. I could tell how how proud and pleased you were to have a clean room. You even showed Mrs. XXX Now, be honest with me. Do you think the two spankings I've given you have helped? Do you think if I feel you need to be spanked again that would help?" I think it was last Wednesday. She had been doing really good, sort of keeping her room clean, not so much the kitchen and bathroom. I know she was very proud and accomplished with her room cleaned (even though I actually did most of the work). So she was being a little bit crazy that night, mood swings and such. So I said "Jayda, come here, I need to speak with you." I think she thought I was going to spank her and she looked really worried. She sat down sheepishly on the couch next to me and lowered her bottom down as if she had gotten a spanking. I thought that was cute and almost laughed. I said everything Mindy said almost verbadum. I was REALLY nervous. Inside I was shaking, but I'm well practiced at speaking in public and outwardly being very cool while shaking and sweating on the inside. Actually I was sweating on the outside too because my underarms were drenched. I don't think she noticed. Amazingly for once she just shut up and listened. She nodded as I spoke my rehearsed words, and I'm glad because if she had interrupted I might have lost my place and would have to ad lib and I wasn't prepared to do that. She looked horrified when I said I would spank her bare bottom. I don't know if it's because of modesty, embarrassment or her hygiene habits. Thankfully she let me finish the whole monologue. About the only thing she said afterwards was "Please don't pull my panties down, please." Like I have to do sometimes at the office I stood firm and told her that was part of the punishment and that is how it will be from now on. She didn't really actually answer the questions, just looked like she was going to cry and practically smothered me hugging me. I was quite shocked by her response. I mean she did say things like "I'll try to be good. I'll try not to be annoying." and things like that, almost inaudible. About the only close call since was Thursday night I was trying to get things done around the house and she just wouldn't leave me alone despite my numerous requests. Like the other time I got a kitchen chair and put it in the corner and pulled her over and practically slammed her butt in the chair. She was really good and when I was all through I asked her to put the chair back and sit with me on the couch. I said I was all through with what I needed to get done and asked her to sit with me. I asked her what she wanted to talk about. She sort of laughed and said she thought I was going to spank her. I asked her if she wanted me to and said "Not really." So she said she thought she did well on a test. That was about it. Then suddenly she went all motormouth gushing and stuff. So friday I came home from work after a pretty unpleasant day and I could here craziness inside the apartment. I walked in to find Jayda and the girls having a great old time and the place was a complete mess. All 3 of them looked like mom came home and they were in big trouble. I wasn't sure if I should laugh or scream. The girls were off school that day and Jayda was babysitting or entertaining or whatever. "Jayda said "Oh, don't worry, I'll get it all cleaned up." I just said "It's okay." The girls just think she's Super Man and Santa Claus rolled into one. So when the mom came over to pick the girls up she looked horrified. To be honest, I felt like I was in trouble too. It was very cute, Jayda looked like one of her daughters and assured mom that she would clean up. Jayda gave mom a GLOWING report of how well behaved they were, no fighting, no backtalk, no sass. I don't think mom believed her and frankly I didn't either. The mom told the girls to help Jayda clean up "Right now." to which all three of them jumped and honestly I did too. I'm impressed, the 3 of them actually got everything cleaned up. Like a little kid, Jayda with her fists under her chin (and without asking me) said "Can we go out for pizza, can we?" So, you guessed it. That was our Friday night. I'm pretty sure during the day the girls put her up to it. That's okay, I kind of needed that after the hectic day I had. The joy of the children (all 3 of them) was kind of contagious. After we got back and went to our respective apartments Jayda kind of weirded me out. She was sitting REAL f'ing close to me on the couch and acted like a 13 year old in love. It was cute, but kind of annoying and unnerving. Last night Jayda went out and frankly I stayed in just to enjoy some peace and quiet. Before she left she asked "What time should I be home?" I was taken aback. In my head I was like "What the hell are you asking me for?" I know I looked puzzled for maybe a full minute, but I got an idea to take full advantage of this. I told her 11:00. I know that's kind of a ridiculous time for a college student on a Saturday night. 10:56 she was all smiles proudly walking through the door. So that's an update. I've been pretty busy but I'll try to check in sooner than a week next time. I know it's only been a couple of weeks since I last spanked her, but to be honest I hope she fucks up real soon cause I've really got the itch. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:58:46 02/27/23 Mon So I was thinking, since Jayda is so reluctant or scared to have her panties pulled down, maybe the next time I have to spank her I could just spank her on her underwear. What do you think about that? I don't know if it's because it will sting more or the embarrassment or because she knows they'll be dirty and then I'll know. I mean I already know and I'm pretty sure she knows that. If that's the reason it will probably still show on the backside. The other side is I have told her that the next time it will be bare. If I let her keep her panties up I'll look like a softy and lose some of my cred. I guess I've had pretty good reasons to give her a spanking in the past couple of weeks, but she's been pretty good so I haven't. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:36:18 02/27/23 Mon Having asked you at least twice by what time she should return home, Jayda is implicitly asking you to provide more structure in her life. You should accommodate this desire and use spanking to ensure compliance with whatever rules help her have the structure that she craves. For example, establish reasonable curfews, tell Jayda that if she cannot meet a curfew, then she must call you before the deadline so that you do not worry about her (thereby showing that you care about her, which she will presumably appreciate) and she must offer a decent excuse for her lateness so the curfew is meaningful. Make it clear that a failure to comply with this simple rule will result in a need for you to communicate your displeasure through her bare bottom. Another example: stop allowing her to be sloppy in cleaning up not only her bedroom but also the kitchen and bathroom. Explain to her that shortfalls in cleaning puts an unfair burden on you and, again, makes it appropriate for you to communicate your displeasure through her bare bottom. Undoubtedly there are other subjects that should be addressed with fair rules. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:34:20 02/28/23 Tue That makes a lot of sense, in fact next time I will TELL her what time to be home. It just occurred to me that not only is it that, but it's also respectful to our neighbors to be home at a respectable hour. Sound travels, especially in the hall. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:09:19 02/28/23 Tue A further suggestion based on my assessment that Jayda is, if perhaps only subconsciously, seeking more structure in her life - schedule a weekly discussion about her behavior. (If the pizza night becomes customary, a good set time might be after the return home.) I have noticed from your comments that Jayda falls short in several areas but you are reluctant to call her to task (and therefore reluctant to spank her) because you view the shortfall considered in isolation as too modest to justify discipline. The advantage of a weekly discussion (with Jayda’s bare bottom already over your lap or Jayda standing before you in whatever state of dress you find appropriate) is that you can cumulate the violations to make a spanking appropriate and give Jayda an incentive to rectify her behavior across the board. You can increase or decrease use of the hairbrush in accordance with her overall behavior that week. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:40:15 03/01/23 Wed Although it's nice to think about, I don't think I'll be doing that. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:02:33 03/01/23 Wed I recognize your reticence, which permeates your postings. I would merely note that your reticence enables behavior falling well short of your standards of organization and cleanliness. If you take no action because a particular misbehavior (through act or omission) does not seem to rise to the level of justifying a spanking, then you cannot reasonably expect Jayda’s behavior to meet your reasonable standards. Remember the lecture recommended by Mork and Mindy - Jayda benefits from spankings. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:22:01 03/02/23 Thu Yes, but not spanking her every week for nothing just to spank her. That wouldn't be right and she'd probably tell me to go fuck myself, and rightfully so. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:09:30 02/27/23 Mon I think you should spank her bare bottom. You told her you would so you should. I think you should follow through. It sounds like she likes you, I mean like really likes you. I think she has a crush. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Seth [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:48:31 03/01/23 Wed She could get poop on her hand depending on how dirty she is. If she's spanking the top of her crack (like on the surface, just between the cheeks) then her hand might be a bit smelly. But obviously if she's spanking her inner cheeks or anus, then it'd be more risky. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Seth [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:49:58 03/01/23 Wed Oops under the wrong comment haha. But same user at least [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:16:21 02/27/23 Mon Jayda’s behavior indicates that she is ready to accept a bare bottom spanking and you have every reason to follow through on your promise to do so. You might also have some wet wipes handy and tell Jayda that if her bottom is not clean, then you will clean it for her when she lies across your lap before the impending spanking. It is reasonable to take the position that you do not want to have to stare at a dirty bottom during the spanking. Such a position also would accentuate your dominance. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:52:26 02/27/23 Mon Weird question, but is there a possibility that she could get poop on her hand when spanking her? I don't even know why I thought of that. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:28:06 03/04/23 Sat That had never occurred to me. I think I'll keep wet wipes handy for when it does happen. That's actually kind of exciting her over my knees to spank her and wipe her dirty bottom, if it is. Thanks. Now I've got a new fetish. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: SJ [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:05:49 02/28/23 Tue Regarding the panties situation, I'll make 2 observations. Firstly, unless she wears "granny pants", knickers are so brief these days that most of her bottom would be uncovered anyway. Secondly, when the time comes for her next inevitable spanking, tell her "as requested, I won'ty pull your panties down, I'll tuck them up instead!" That way you both win. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:38:10 03/01/23 Wed That's pretty much what she wears actually. Me too, mostly for that matter. Great suggestion. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:16:09 03/02/23 Thu Uh oh. One of the girls next door is getting a spanking right now. Having the place to myself, hoping for some peace and quiet I have to put up with all of that noise coming from next door. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:54:33 03/02/23 Thu Well, whichever girl it was I'm sure is going to bed with a very sore bottom tonight because it sounded like a good one and there was a lot of commotion. I'm sure it was deserved though because the mom is not mean. She's raising the girls by herself and well, there has to be discipline. I'm sure it's not easy, but she is very loving. The thing about the girls is, they are very sweet little things. I don't know what happened to the dad. I think he lives far away and it doesn't sound like he's real active in their lives. I think the girls have a lot of issues, like maybe social issues. Of course like most siblings they argue and fight and can be pretty naughty, but they really care about each other and are very close. I guess for the most part they're pretty well behaved as far as kids go. They just LOVE Jayda. Jayda is very awkward and unsure around them and I think when she babysits she's very permissive and doesn't have a lot of control, but she's really good with them and they adore her. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:42:58 03/02/23 Thu So was Jayda home to hear the spanking? It would be interesting study for you to watch her as she listens, and her knowing that you are watching her. That could be quite revealing if it has not already happened, then at a future date. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 21:34:37 03/02/23 Thu Good suggestion WS. Ms.Jayda loves both those girls and might even be able to tell which one was in distress and which one was actually being spanked. A large commotion suggests to me that both of them were in trouble. I would expect that Jayda would find it hard to listen to one or both of her biggest fans getting what Clair regards as a "good one." She might even want to try to come to the rescue. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:47:14 03/03/23 Fri I was thinking moreso that Jayda would through her response to the spanking reveal her emotions through facial expression or body language which Clair could read to better assess Jayda's feelings on what is happening. The more Jayda is impacted the greater the importance of spanking in her life, even when it involves others because she is significantly identifying with the punishment underway. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:24:01 03/04/23 Sat No, Jayda was not home at the time. She has been though. She seems very conflicted, well so am I but not as much. I mean they are sweet kids but they can be naughty. I didn't really grow up with spanking. But, maybe because I've always been interested in it or maybe because I know how people behave these days and I am a firm believer in spanking. Look, I know they're kids and I know it sounds perverse, but I think this goes for all of us on here, we are into spanking, and although I and I'm sure Jayda is sympathetic with the girls, how often in your life do you get to see or hear a real spanking. So, we both listen with great interest when it happens. I feel like a really perverted person for being like that, but I mean it's not something you hear every day. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:08:31 03/04/23 Sat I guess I've had a few opportunities to spank her this week. I just want to make sure it's for something real and I'm not just making shit up just to spank her. Again last night she asked what time she should be home, which again kind of threw me. She was actually out way past the time I said, which was kind of unreasonable for a Friday night anyway, and I had just gotten in myself, so I'm not going to use that. I know she drank alcohol because I could smell it, but she didn't seem drunk and she was walking (with a friend) anyway. So she didn't drive and I don't think she ever would. Thursday night though I did sit down with her and TELL her to take a bath. I don't know how long it had been, but she was pretty noticeably offensive. I tried to be as gentle and firm about it as I could. I know it embarrassed her and I do feel kind of bad about that. She made several excuses and said she was going to anyway. Well, I guess I did give her a spanking. She was in her pajamas and still hadn't cleaned up the bathroom so I led her in there and reminded her and she yelled "Okay, I haven't gotten to it yet! I'm going to, just give me a minute!" Something snapped in me and I bent her over the vanity and with my new hairbrush gave her about 6 smacks. She shot up rubbing her bottom and really had a lot of sass "Okay, okay, okay, okay!! I said I was going to clean it up! Okay!" I like waved the hairbrush in her face and said "Are you going to get sassy with me?" her whole demeanor changed and she shook her head while rubbing her bottom and said "No mam, I'll clean it up right now." I told her to bend over and gave her about 4 more smacks and said something stupid like "Don't you get sassy with me!" or something like that. "Yes mam, yes mam, I'll clean it up right now and I'll do a really good job." which she did. Jayda calling me mam REALLY turned me on or something. It was kind of embarassing in a way, but I really liked it. So that wasn't a REAL spanking, but it was pretty cool. Here's something I don't understand though. Maybe she doesn't actually like spanking and maybe she hates me and doesn't like me spanking her or making demands. I mean, why would she cry when I spank her and why does she, I hate to use this word, behave so well with just a couple of smacks or even a vague threat? When I gave her those first few smacks she looked like she was going to punch me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:48:06 03/04/23 Sat This just happened. I was sitting on the couch with a cup of coffee looking over some work papers when Jayda sat uncomfortably close to me. She just out of the blue said "Do you think I'm pretty?" Okay, I lied. She's not really pretty, more like a geeky elfish cuteness, but I just said "Yes." Then she asked me if I wanted her to shower everyday. I told her no, not if she doesn't want to, I could care less, it's just that that one day she, well really needed a bath. In fact I prefer her to be just like she is. Then, and this is the really nutsy part, she kissed me on the cheek, turned red and said "I gotta go the library." and just literally ran off. I just sat there like wtf was that? I don't really know how to feel about it. I'm kind of offended actually. I don't know if she meant anything by it. I'm just really confused. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:05:13 03/04/23 Sat I fail to understand why you are “kind of offended” by Jayda’s action. Her action tells you that she is not offended by the most recent spanking that you gave her. In an earlier post, you emphasized the need to protect your “cred” but two decisions have already diminished your credibility: after telling Jayda that future spankings would be on her bare bottom, you failed to pull down her pajama bottom in the most recent spanking and you set a time for returning home that she ignored without consequence. The latter problem was exacerbated by the fact that you did not return home by that time - suggesting that any future curfew should coordinate with your plans. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:42:02 03/05/23 Sun Like I said before she has a crush. It sounds like she hasn't had great experiences with past roommates, you give her attention, and understanding, you guide her and look out for her and take the time to give her much needed and desired discipline. It sounds like she doesn't have anyone, even though she goes out who gives her one on one. No need to be offended. It may kind of weird you out, but it's just a crush. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:53:32 03/05/23 Sun I don't think she has a crush. That would be kind of weird living with someone and actually spanking someone who has a crush on me. I just don't think so. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:49:30 03/04/23 Sat Okay, I'm done for the day. It's a beautiful day and I've got to take advantage of it and get all of this shit out of my head. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:46:18 03/04/23 Sat I agree with what Gantard and Alfred have written. It is worth pondering. Tough love is mentioned at one point and Jayda needs and is responsive to it. You Clair as a sensitive, caring person are reluctant to hurt her feelings and worry about her tears. At the same time you dearly want to administer a very real and sound disciplinary spanking. So you need to resolve your internal conflict. You can be a good person and a sound disciplinarian. Jayda is craving your guidance and direction. Asking you when she should come home and how often she should bathe is a clear indication that she wants to be told what to do and values your imput . Once again, you continue to miss real opportunities to spank and spank hard. Jayda asked and you told her what time to come home. She arrives late and you do nothing but make excuses for her. Your response should have been "you asked and I told you when to be home and you arrived much later. So now you are going to be spanked." Pull it together Clair! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:58:00 03/05/23 Sun Well yeah, but I mean I just got home myself and she didn't do anything bad like get drunk or be destructive. I just tossed out a time and it was unreasonable for a girl her age (or my age) on a Friday night. It just wasn't the right time or reason. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:44:28 03/04/23 Sat Like Mindy (or maybe Mork?) says, you-Clair, I, Maddie, M&M, WS, SJ, ... and all the others here, are confused as to how we feel about spanking. Why shouldn't Jayda be at least as confused? What is clear to me (and has been clear all along), Clair loves Jayda and Jayda has deep feelings for Clair. Jayda is too inexperienced in these matters now to reciprocate properly and fully. But as her spankings become more full-fledged, Jayda will be more eager to talk about her relationship with Clair. Clair should be ready and patient and as loving and honest as possible. The most difficult thing in life for spankos is balancing our deep-seated and hard-wired interest in spanking with the obvious need to function in the world and to be fully our complete selves. This dilemma was eloquently described by Clair when she was alone and suddenly surprised by hearing the neighbor mom scold and then spank one of her daughters. Clair wanted to listen. Who wouldn't? But, being a good and kind person, Clair felt genuine empathy with the young girl getting a firm and in-real-life spanking. No doubt the girl felt the sting and was genuinely apologizing for her behavior and desperately searching for the magic words to make her spanking end. To no avail right away. Overhearing this drama and realizing that the mother answers each plea for relief with another spank tugs at the heartstrings of even veteran spanking parents. Balancing these two emotions is challenging. We are all attracted and saddened at the same time. The less stoic the recipient is, the more we feel the conflicting emotions. Being a nice person, Clair struggles with this same conflict with Jayda. Jayda clearly "needs" to change her habits. Spankings seem to help her to do so. But they hurt and she says "Ouch!" or a synonym when a spank lands. I don't have a solution or even good advice. I do suggest working hard NOT to suppress the feelings of empathy. Re-conceptualizing spanking as Tough Love might help. And, of course, there are all the current spanking alternatives that parents these days employ: writing essays about why an action was wrong, long boring lectures on the same topic, grounding, and even allowance deprivation. None has the impact and influence on behavior that a GOFS has. Alas! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:02:53 03/05/23 Sun So, would you count the time in the bathroom that I smacked her butt with the hairbrush as a spanking? I wouldn't really call it a spanking. It was maybe a total of 10 or 12 smacks and really only about 5 of those were real stingers. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:40:57 03/05/23 Sun It was merely a warm up for the real spanking to come at some appropriate time! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:00:40 03/06/23 Mon It looks like I'll have something to report soon. I came home from work because all I had to do was stuff I could do from home and the office was annoying me. I took a break and decided to do an impromptu inspection of Jayda's room. I wont say I was shocked, but a little disappointed at some of my discoveries. Firstly I want to say that I find it admirable that she doesn't compose on the computer. She writes everything down on paper first and transposes, the way it should be done, but the notebooks and crumpled up papers covering the floor were beginning to pile up. No biggie, but it gets a little gross after that. Her personal stuff I wont go into. A paper plate with crust from a cheese sandwich, pop cans with something in them, a mostly eaten bowl of ramen with crusty noodles having been there for God knows how long, wrappers, chip crumps and queso in my fucking carpet. Gross, nasty, but it gets worse. I found a pair of my earrings I've been looking for, a pair of my underwear that had an oopsie in them, and this is really scary. My tea kettle that I've been wondering what happened to, the bottom burned beyond repair hidden under her bed. I can't wait to hear this story. I can't tell you how this is going to go down. I'm still trying to calm down and haven't really even thought about how I'm going to approach this, but one thing I can tell you for certain, she wont be sitting comfortably for a while. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Maddie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:29:46 03/06/23 Mon I can relate. The burnt pan. I didn't sit for a week. But please, make sure that you are really calm, are completely with your senses, your anger has subsided and you are understanding and rational before you even bring it up. Maybe even give it a day or two to settle yourself before even bringing it up. I have been in her shoes so I know. She may even escalate the situation with excuses, fibs and even anger, so please be aware of that beforehand and don't let your anger control you. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Maddie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:43:31 03/06/23 Mon But may I add, don't let her off the hook either. After that butt blistering I NEVER forgot anything on the stove again. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:22:29 03/06/23 Mon Thank you Maddie. I read this just before she came home. She was late getting home, well not late, but later than usual. She was studying at the library. I sat there for hours getting madder and madder thinking about how I was going to beat her ass. Reading WS and Ganterds responses made me even madder. I really had to get control of myself or I might have committed murder, not really, but I might have hurt her. I'm kind of new at this. Your response gave it kind of a human touch, as someone whose been there. Your cautions were of great value. I put the stuff in my closet and covered them up. It's not an immediate thing, so I can deal with this tomorrow and let my anger cool down. I'm not putting it off and I'm not chickening out, but I am so mad right now that I might let my anger get the worst of me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:44:10 03/06/23 Mon I don't care about the underwear. It's kind of humorous or flattering or something. I just leaft them where I found them, the earrings she may have barrowed without asking, which isn't cool, but it's not terrible. She's like a natural born slob so the crap all over the floor is almost expected, but worth a spanking since we just cleaned her room and I spent time teaching her how to clean up and put things back. But the food and shit really pisses me off because I stressed the impotrtance of the attraction of bugs and bacteria, but what infuriates me is the burnt kettle. She could have burned the fucking house down and why the fuck did she hide it. I asked the mom next door if she had heard the fire alarm go off and she said it has happened, but they can be really sensative. She's really a good person to talk to and bring you back down to earth. So anyway, I've settled down now and I'll deal with this tomorrow. Jayda knows somethings up and she's keeping her distance. Obviously she has seen that her room has been picked up, so she knows she's in trouble. It will give her a chance to cool down too, and it will give her some time to feel like she's going to shit her pants knowing that eventually she's going to get it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:30:18 03/07/23 Tue Haven't been able to sleep. I'm really glad I didn't take care of business right away. I've had the chance to calm down, think things over, get over my rage and get back to the purpose. Now I can have some personal fun with it. I know that sounds bad but hey, I'm allowed to have some fun, right? This isn't at all how it was in my fantasies. Now I'm in this sort of relationship. My fantasies were all about, well spanking a girl's ass. It turns out there are human emotions and caring involved. Correction and guiding and helping someone become a more responsible adult with understanding were never part of my fantasies. I'll report soon. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:19:44 03/07/23 Tue Your post suggests that you are temperamentally in the right place. Although you reject most of my recommendations, I will offer a couple anyway: On the pesky issue of consent, give Jayda 2 choices - leave promptly or submit to a bare bottom spanking. Explain that you would be sad if she were to decide to leave but you see no alternative. Emphasize that you are fond of her and believe that she has unrealized potential to improve but it will not happen without structure and discipline. Given Jayda behavior towards you, I would be shocked if she chose the “leave” option. Another route to consent: have Jayda and not you take down her pants and underwear before laying across your lap. As for her the issue of continued consent as the spanking occurs, give her a safe phrase to shout - “I’ll leave!” Prepare a list of rules and after Jayda has calmed down from her spanking, have her sit next to you and go over them. Consider any comments that she makes and make appropriate changes. Then have her acknowledge that any infraction of any rule will result in a spanking, the duration and severity being wholly within your judgment. I suggest one rule should be a bath at least once a week - after all, a weekly bath on Saturday was the rule on the American frontier. Offer to scrub her yourself if she wants that luxury. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:48:04 03/07/23 Tue In the scenario you've unfolded over time, you never lost sight of the fact that you were dealing with a real person and reigned in your fantasies in recognition of that. The reservations about spanking Jayda you voiced along the way recognized that you did care about her and how she felt and so you needed to proceed cautiously. The biggest realization for you, I suggest, is that you have finally come to the realization that caring does involve guidance when needed and correction when it becomes clear that there are behaviors that definitely and clearly in need of change. So spanking her is but a way of demonstrating you do care in addition to addressing your fantasies. And guiding and correcting here falls upon you precisely because you do care, want to continue the relationship but know that there are lessons she does need to learn. If you don't teach her, who ever will? Now in the recognition of all that it is time to fulfill you fantasies in a major way. They are not in conflict with what the girl needs and by now fully expects. She knows her pants will come down because you told her so. Yet continued doing what she was warned about. You need to send a clear message and use it as the start of a new relationship between the two of you. You are Ma'am to her so assume that role! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:09:06 03/06/23 Mon Some of this shit isn't even funny. My underwear I don't even care about. She can smell them or keep or eat them for all I care. But the food and drink can attract bugs and we're getting into bug season and the burnt tea kettle, holy shit! I really need to calm my shit down before I beat her ass. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:04:35 03/06/23 Mon Well finally! It has been building hasn't it? Your ferrel tenant has demonstrated for a long time that she needs socialization - the kind she understands and has all but invited, after being verbally chastised, by her behaviors. You have been tolerant and understanding, moreso than many of us here would have been with her. The first thing that occurred to me which you later singled out is the bug issue. She should know that and if she does not than that too is part of her socialization. So too is a respect for the property of other and owning up to any damage caused. A stern lecture and sound spanking is in order. The lessons need to be learned and you now dearly want to teach them, finally! You probably would expect nothing less from your adjoining-wall neighbor is you behaved that way towards her and would understand if she beat your bare bottom. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:37:15 03/06/23 Mon It is past time to lay down a set of rules for Jayden, with enforcement through a spanking for each violation. That being said, taking your earrings and underwear would be out of line for any roommate as would burning a kettle and then covering up the incident. Her only excuse could be that you have generally let things slide so “big deal.” Not a reasonable excuse but one that probably reflects Jayda’s perspective. Time to change that perspective. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Marek [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:23:51 03/07/23 Tue "Now let's SLIDE those panties down, young lady!" [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:12:19 03/07/23 Tue Well, I guess right now or very soon she will be getting it and getting it good. That is quite a laundry list of offenses. I will be waiting with anticipation to know how this turned out. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:29:15 03/09/23 Thu Attention: Followers and contributors. Clair has left the building!!! Any expectations of anything happening soon based on the reported words of the participants have been shown to be wishful thinking. That ship has sailed. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:44:01 03/10/23 Fri That is not true. I have tried 3 times to update but it hasn't come out right. It's not just like "I made dinner and here's how it happened". It was kind of a big event for me. Jayda too I'm sure. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:55:36 03/10/23 Fri I had thought that of the three possibilities for the absence of a report, the one you just stated was the most likely. Your postings have been detailed and comprehensive (if containing too mush anguish) and therefore it does not surprise me that the upcoming post requires careful drafting and editing before you pull the trigger. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:48:13 03/10/23 Fri I've tried to write this 3 times and gave up, so hopefully I can give you the most detailed account. It's a snow day so I'm going in later so I have some time. I texted Jayda to tell her to get her own dinner. There was $10 for her on the counter if she needed it. And btw, she is late with the bills again. I came home. She kind of stayed in her room while I ate. She went to the bathroom and came out and kind of sheepishly thanked me for picking up her room. I told her that we need to talk about that to go into the living room and sit down and wait for me. She looked like a 9 year old about to throw a pre-ad tantrum. I was expecting her to say "It's not fair!" and stomp her foot. I let her sweat it while I finished and sipped a cup of coffee. I could see in her face that she knew she was in for it when I brought out the kitchen chair and put it in front of the couch. Then I went to get the hairbrush and wipes. She looked like she was going to be sick. I intended to draw this out all night and relish every minute of it. I may have looked cool and collected but inside I was shaking like a leaf and I was already sweating under my arms. Then I brought out the stuff I collected in her room (except my panties. I left those where they were and trying to forget it ever happened). I sat down and explained that it wasn't even a month ago that we spent an entire Saturday cleaning her room. Like a presentation I went point by point. I pulled out the wads of paper and other junk littered in her room. Then I pulled out the nasty food and drink shit and the lectured started getting a little more heated. Next my earrings. Her excuse was she wanted to wear them out, but I wasn't home to ask and she just barrowed them and intended to put them back but forgot about it. The piece de resistance was the kettle. I tried to stay very calm about this even though I'm still infuriated. And WHY she hid it. She was almost in tears and explained that she put water on the stove and went back to writing a paper. She guessed she just forgot about it. The fire alarm went off, there was smoke in the kitchen, she freaked out, tried to grab it but it was too hot, grabbed a towel but the towel started to burn, she threw both in the sink and soaked them. I'm thinking "OMFG this is worse than I thought". She said she tried to scrub it but it was too damaged. She asked the mom next door how to clean something that was burnt and just hid it in her room to get to it later. I lectured big time about never ever EVER leaving something on the stove. It could have cought the apartment on fire and stressed about the kids next door and how she and they could have been hurt, then again tried to calm myself down. I had to walk away for a few minutes and compose myself. She sat there with her head in her hands while I just paced around the apartment going over my plan. I sat in the chair and told her to come over. "What did I tell you was going to happen next time?" "No, no, please no." "What did I tell you?" "Please don't pull my pants down. Please, please, please." I must be a sadist because I was really getting off on this question and answer thing. I made her say what was going to happen. "You're going to spank me." "And?" "Pull...my...pants down." "And?" "On...my bare bottom." Electricity was just surging through my body. I felt like I was going to faint unbuttoning her jeans and made a point to slowly pull the down. The sight of the V of her underwear and her bare white legs was like "This can't be real I can't really be doing this." I told her to turn around and just looked at the sight of her round bottom in her not sparkling clean underwear and took a peek inside. I felt like such a pervert. I slapped her thighs a few times and told her to turn around. Very slowly and methodically I put my fingers in her waistband "No, no, no, please no." I was REALLY getting off on this whole scenario. Her embarrassment and my control. I very slowly pulled them to mid thighs and made a point to look at them so that she could see. I was really getting off on the humiliation on her face. "I...guess...I had an accident." I said almost reassuringly "Jayda, it's not like I don't already know. I'm not going to punish you for that. That's your own business, it's not my concern." She almost smiled. I let her stand there fidgeting for a few minutes while I took a mental video of the image in front of me. I've seen pussies before. I've done a few things, but this was a most beautiful sight. I know I was shaking and panting and sweating trying to keep it together. Jayda was having her own issues so I'm sure she didn't notice my struggle. At my 'command' she nervously and awkwardly got across my knees. I was hesitant to touch her white, chubby bottom. I rubbed her bottom and rubbed her back and reiterated why this was happening and what was going to happen. I spread her cheeks apart. "This is a very dirty bottom. That's okay sweety, that's you and that's fine, but I'm going to wipe your bottom because I don't my hand to get dirty, okay." "Okay." Wiping her butt with the wet wipes gave me such a surge of something, I don't know what. I'm almost ashamed to say I may have taken liberties with her intimacy. I don't think she minded. I almost didn't want to spank her I just wanted to rub her bottom and titillate places my fingers shouldn't have been. I smacked her bottom with a mighty slap of my hand. She jumped "Ow! That really hurts on my bare bottom." I was fascinated to see my handprint on her bottom. I wanted to make this last as long as I possibly could. I slapped all over her bottom every couple of minutes. It was amazing seeing her bottom, hips and thighs turned all shades of pink and my handprints glow and fade. I have no idea how long I had her over my knees like this, but it was a long time. After a while her bottom, hips and thighs were glowing pink and red. I comforted her for a while rubbing her bottom and back and stroking her hair again lecturing her on keeping her room clean and told her that that was just a warm up, to brace herself because now the real spanking begins. I took deep breaths and really gave her a spanking until she was squirming, kicking and crying. After maybe a couple of minutes I stopped and just looked at her bottom which by this time looked like a neon glowing stop sign. I gave her a couple of pats and told her to stand in the corner. She was crying, but not like uncontrollably. Watching her furiously rub her hot red bottom while she waddled over to the corner was a beautiful sight. I had to tell myself "I, me, I did that." I had done it. I had finally spanked a girl's bare bottom! I felt proud and ashamed at the same time. I walked away and diddled with things around the apartment. It just seemed like this whole thing was a dream. After, I don't know, maybe a half hour I called her over to me again. I felt these great surges of power or something watching her waddle over to me pouting and begging. Back over my knees I lectured her about the food and how it can attract bugs and bacteria and how it's nasty. This time I started slowly but didn't take as long as the first time. I just gave her a good spanking for a couple of minutes. When she reached her hand back I smacked the shit out of her thighs. That really made her holler. I swear I could feel heat coming off her bottom which by this time was a shade of glowing red I can't even describe. She really begged when she felt the hairbrush rub her fiery ass. I didn't smack her really hard, kind of soft to medium smacks, but she really dramatized it. I sent her back to the corner. I was a little shocked to see the colors of her bottom and thighs. There were sort of red and purple streaks and dots and I could see bumps all over her butt. I thought maybe I should stop, but I still had to make a point of leaving the stove on. After about another half hour I called her over to me again holding the hairbrush. I almost just said okay, that's enough, but I was really pissed about leaving the kettle on and hiding it and you have to admit that HAD to be stressed. Again I smacked her bottom with the hairbrush with soft to medium smacks but some were real stingers. She was full crying and looked like she just gave up and took her punishment. Something kind of snapped in me and I really laid it on with the hairbrush smacking with each word. "Don't...you...ever...leave...anything...on...the...stove...unattended...you...could...have...started...a...fire...and...endangered...everyone...in...this...building...including...the children...next...door!!" Something like that. I don't know, I just lost control. I'll never do that again. I was shocked and fearful to see the state of her bottom. It was a deep, dark red all over, purple and blue in some spots, with streaks of purple and actual welts on her bottom. It really scared me. I pulled her over to the couch and she bundled up in my lap crying uncontrollably and saying she was sorry and just blubbering words. She held me tight and I held her tight and stroked her hair and face and felt so bad what I had done, but felt justified I guess and other emotions I can't explain. I just held her, I don't know maybe an hour. There's more but I'll have to write about it some other time. This is why it took so long for me to post about it. I've been really conflicted about the whole thing. I have some questions. Did I do the right thing? Did I go way too far? I feel like I did. Should I feel ashamed for punishing her? Lot's of other questions, but I really need to wrap this up now. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:54:07 03/10/23 Fri The answers to your questions may well be affected by the information that you include in your further posting. For example, how Jayda has behaved since her intense disciplinary session might help answer your question about whether you went too far. I doubt, however, that further information would change the answers on whether you did the right thing and whether you should be ashamed for punishing Jayda. The fact is that merely berating Jayda for her immature, thoughtless, and dangerous behavior would be inadequate for her to start working on the radical change in behavior necessary. Such a change is only likely to begin when the message is impressed on her through her bare bottom. If shame is an emotion at play in this context, then it would be a shame if Jayda continued to act dangerously or create unsanitary conditions. As a loyal reader, I look forward to your next post as it may allow me to have a more informed reaction to your questions. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:58:07 03/10/23 Fri Wow! I see why it took so long to post. It's like I was in the room. I don't think you went too far. I don't think you should be ashamed. I'm not an expert, but it sounds like she got a really damn good spanking that she had coming to her. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:00:09 03/10/23 Fri Thank you for posting such an excellent report. You write well. I'm sure there is more to tell and I look forward to reading it. Did you go way too far? If it's for anyone person to decide that would be Jayda. It is of course relationship dependent. Based on what you've shared here about your relationship, no I don't think you did. It sounds just right. What I do think is more important than the intensity of the spanking, is how you handle the crush that Jayda very likely has on you. It's no surprise how she was acting in the week prior to this event. I think she's vulnerable to you beyond being subject to your discipline. But maybe that's what you have more to tell about. You wrote "I'll never do that again". Heh. I doubt it. By the way, I did find interesting your account of how your relationship with the mom next door has changed, and I'd be curious to hear more about the differences between how she acts towards you vs Jayda. While it would be kind of crazy to just flat ask her questions about spanking, I wouldn't be shocked if the topic of conversation is breached sooner or later. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom spanking and the beginning of a beautiful relationship Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:49:17 03/10/23 Fri It was a painful but loving time. The Mom next door heard much of it and should be included as a Plus One as Jada and you grow closer. The possibilities are exciting for everyone. It will be wonderful, especially for the girls next door and for Ms. Clair who so needs her own bottom properly (as Jayda's was) spanked! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:51:03 03/11/23 Sat Okay, first of all I DON'T need my bottom properly spanked. I don't know why people keep saying that. I am a mature, professional woman. Yes, I have some fantasies but I don't need correction. Okay now that I've gotten that off my chest. Just a few random left out details. The girls next door were with their grandparents or aunt or something that night, so they weren't around. I think that's a good thing. I'm kind of glad the mom was home because I think she enjoys hearing it. I mean, I don't know if she gets off on it but I think she really likes Jayda and she entrusts her children with her, but I think she thinks Jayda is very immature. I don't know, but she seems to be very approving of it. I ran into her the next day and we chatted. She didn't say anything about the sounds, but she just had this nodding approval like "You go girl". And I KNOW that aside from baby sitting her kids, Jayda has gone over there like when she nearly burnt the house down seeking advice and guidance (I think usually to find out how to cover up some stupid thing she did so I don't find out). I don't know how to say this. When I pulled down Jayda's panties...I'm trying to say this without being crude or whatever, but let's just say she was kind of dripping. And I think in the initial phase she was, um...excited, but I don't think she was as the spanking progressed. She kind of avoided me the rest of the night and to be honest after holding her in my lap and telling her to "Go to your room and take care of whatever you need to take care of" I really didn't want to face her because I was having my own emotional issues and was probably as embarrassed as she was. I'm STILL trying to get it through my head that any of this is real, from putting her in the corner to giving her a few smacks to now 3 full spankings. It's not something you just go "Oh yeah, okay, just another normal day." It's not normal. I don't think people just go around giving punishment spankings to their roommates. I read a lot of stories and I think most of them are just stories and in rl I'm like "This is crazy. I'm crazy, wtf." The next night we sat down for dinner. Nothing too special, just burgers. We were kind of avoiding each other I guess, so outside of hello we hadn't really talked much. When she sat down she made this huge production of it like "Ow, ow, oooh, ow!" and acting like she was sitting on a cactus. I just rolled my eyes. I'm sure her bottom was tender but I'm sure it wasn't THAT bad. She like went on about how much it hurt to sit in class. I mean, that may be true but she was pretty dramatic about it. She said she was keeping her room clean and had a bowl of ramen but didn't leave it in her room, she put it in the sink. She looked so proud when she said that. I looked over and noted that the dishes were piling up and she said "Yes mam, I will get that right after dinner." That 'mam' thing was kind of embarrassing but felt kind of good. She said it kind of excited so I guess she doesn't hate me. She later sat with me on the couch, of course with a lot of drama. We just sat there for a while, I guess neither of us knew what to say. She said the hairbrush really hurt "I really don't like that hairbrush." So I said it must be effective then. She said she was really sorry and that she would try not to be such a slob and she would NEVER forget anything on the stove again. I REALLY wanted to see what her butt looked like and she almost gleefully stood up and let me lower her sweats. I kind of gave her a wedgie to see her bottom then lowered her panties. Wow! It was kind of scary. I guess butts are supposed to look that way the day after a real good spanking. It was kind of a shock to me. I rubbed her bottom. She said "It really feels good when you rub my bottom." To be honest it felt kind of good rubbing it. So I stood up and asked her if she hates me. "Oh no, I don't hate you. Not at all." That was a relief, no really. Then she said she had to work on a paper, kissed my cheek and ran to her room. Okay, that was weird. I don't know what else to say. The mom was going out last night and asked Jayda if she'd look after the girls and without even giving it a thought was like "Yeah okay!" Well, I had plans anyway and I wasn't going to break them and I really didn't feel like dealing with kids. I guess Jayda forgot that she also had plans and she broke them to babysit. The mom said "Now if they're naughty I want a report on it." Jayda was like "Oh no, they'll be fine. Don't worry about it." Mom and I looked at each other knowing there would be mayhem and I think we were both thinking at the same time which of the 3 would be the naughtiest. I guess it turned out to be a sleepover because when I got in (quite late) they were all piled under blankets on the couch and the house was DESTROYED. They're all still asleep, fortunately. I'll try to address some of your comments. RV said >how you handle the crush that Jayda very likely has on you< Yeah, that's something I'm not sure how to deal with. I don't know if it's a crush. That's kind of weird. Idk, maybe an admiration? What I meant about 'I'll never do that again' is when we were addressing the kettle issue that's something that I am REALLY concerned and pissed about. Fire is one of my greatest fears. When I was smacking her butt with the hairbrush I kind of lost it and REALLY beat her ass as I described above. I CAN NOT lose control like that ever again if I am going to continue this kind of relationship or perhaps mentor young women or even have children of my own some day, which is not likely. I guess that's about it. I'm hoping to tiptoe out before Moe, Larry and Curly wake up. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:04:58 03/11/23 Sat I renew my suggestion that you prepare a list of rules and then sit down with Jayda to explain them and get her comments, making any reasonable revisions that she requests. You should make it clear that any violation will result in a spanking. If you wish to avoid the level of severity of the last spanking, then dealing with violations as they occur will vent the pressure cooker (yes, an allusion to the kettle). [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:48:23 03/12/23 Sun Well, she already knows the rules. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:37:31 03/11/23 Sat What you now report is no doubt a relief for you to report. Clearly Jayda does not hate you. Indeed quite the opposite even though you beat her ass black and blue. Your observation that she may well admire you is probably not far off the mark. Here calling you Ma'am is a sign of respect. Jayda offered virtually no cognitive resistance to the spankings and corner time because she knew she erred badly and that consequences were in order and the discipline was not inappropriate in the circumstances. You have now set the tone and tenor for the future. Jayda knows what your expectations are, which are reasonable, and she knows she can be spanked again if she does not meet them. You are now like a mother figure to the girl. So you are clearly in charge and now just need to steer events to realize your further fantasies with here including spanking her bare bottom minus pants and panties and perhaps after she is naked. The reality is that there are others out there who function best while under control. Some want or need to be told what to do and expect consequences when they misbehave. Jayda is one such person like that. So recognize that in her and be fair -including being under control- but also take full advantage of what you perceive to be exciting for yourself. The two do not need to be mutually exclusive. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:52:46 03/12/23 Sun That seems like quite a burdon on me that I didn't really consider at the beginning. I guess it goes with the territory. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Maddie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:12:50 03/11/23 Sat A 3 Stooges reference? Now I KNOW I like you! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:49:42 03/12/23 Sun Sorry, not a big fan of the 3 Stooges. I just used that expression. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:47:55 03/12/23 Sun Couple of things. You were surprised or even shocked to see how bruised or colored her bottom was. So if she's not used to getting spanked she will probably bruise a lot easier. Do you know when she got her last spanking, like not from you? It sounds like she may never got a spanking from her parents, so like you she's new to this. Also is she really light skinned? I think people with lighter skin will show color more and quicker. The other thing was her dirty panties. It sounds like she knew she was in trouble for having a messy room and you had told her that the next one would be bare bottom, so she had time to wipe herself and put on clean underwear. So maybe she wanted you to see them. Maybe she just wanted to get it out in the open because you would find out sooner or later, so she thought she'd just get it out of the way. Have you and she talked about it? One other thought is maybe she gets off on humiliation. It's got to be pretty humiliating for someone to find out you've got poop stained panties. Maybe she gets off on the humiliation. Maybe that's why she's all stinky anyway. I know you don't want to hear this, but I think it's more than admiration. She has kissed you twice and ran off, she sits real close to you and pretty much does everything you tell her to, she tries to please you all the time. She's got a crush. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:58:03 03/12/23 Sun Some really good points. She is kind of pale skinned. It probably wasn't as bad as it looked and definitely not as bad as she dramatized. And you may be spot on with your other point. And you are right. That's really not something I want to hear. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:29:03 03/12/23 Sun So I did make it out before the 'kids' woke up. I didn't make myself up or anything, which is unusual for me, I hope I'm not becoming like Jayda, oh no. I just got breakfast and walked around the store for a while and was fortunate to find the girls were gone and surprised they cleaned up. Well, the kitchen was quite a mess still. They all made brownies and chips and salsa and whatnot and shit was everywhere, which I cleaned up. So a little later I asked to check on her bottom. I pulled her sweats down, examined it and pulled her underwear down a little. There was still maybe a little bruising, like some kind of brown spots, but it looked pretty good. She said it was still a little tender. I rubbed her bottom and even parted her cheeks. I was like "Wtf am I doing?!" So, I mean she reeked. I held her shoulders and, I don't know like I couldn't control myself, rubbed her bottom and even, um...there. She didn't seem to mind. I had a hand on her shoulder and one reaching behind her and I said as gently as I could that I wanted her to take a bath. She said she didn't want to. Trying to be gentle about it I told her I know she and the girls were really active last night and to be honest "You're pretty stinky." I asked her if she needed a spanking before her bath. I thought she would be like "No way. My butt still hurts." but she said maybe for a little motivation, but not too hard. So I took her to her bedroom, sat on the bed and she climbed over my knees. I pulled down her sweats and told her I was only going to spank her on her panties. I spanked her, but only enough to make her bottom warm. I think we were both panting. She threw me when she said, with her face in the comforter. "I like you." I was like "Oh shit, what do I say." I tried to be detached and told her I like having her as a roommate, and she said some other things and so did I but nothing too revealing. So, I warmed her bottom and I got her some clean, or at least washed panties and found her some clean clothes and sent her in the bath. You know when you're doing things and you're thinking "Wtf am I doing?" but you keep doing them anyway? It was like that and it felt good. Not like a sexual thing, Idk, and she was just going along with it. I kept waiting for her to tell me to back off and call me a weirdo. I think she was embarrassed by me going through her underwear drawer and picking out her clothes (so was I for that matter) but she didn't seem to object. This is all getting too weird for me. I think maybe I'll just kind of detach myself a little, concentrate on my work and studies and maybe kind of detach myself from this group for a while. I'll let you know anout future updates. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Bare bottom Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:38:46 03/12/23 Sun Time to face up to what you have helped to create. That is a tenant who now wants you to exercise authority over her and regulate her behavior. What could make that clearer than her agreeing to a spanking to help motivate her to take a bath and then stating she likes you. I tend to agree with you that this is not simply about you getting stimulated by spanking her bare bottom. It is more nuanced than that. It is more about you enjoying exercising real power and control over the girl and her submitting to that control. That is the aphrodisiac for you. Instead of repeating regularly that what you are doing is weird, recognize the nature of the symbiotic relationship that now exists between the two of you. You are now an authority figure in her life and so should exercise that authority to ensure she behaves reasonably and not accept anything less then. Why? Because you are both getting off on the exchange, so continue to normalize it. What you are doing is quite normal not weird- given the nature of your relationship. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:14:06 03/19/23 Sun Nothing really to report. I'm just checking in. It looks like it's been kind of slow on here. It's been a hectic and at times crazy week for me. It was either Wednesday or Thursday. Jayda had a rough day and she came to me and said "I need a hug". She looked like a sad kitten. So I gave her a long, deep hug, but being that close to her my nostrils were invaded with a strong body odor like "Wooh". I hugged her for a long time but I felt like I was going to pass out, it was that pungent. Some weird thought came in my mind and I wondered how her butt smelled. Don't judge. So I asked her if she needed a butt rub. So she turned around, I sat down and rubbed her butt, I guess it was soothing to her. I CAN NOT believe I did this and I'm not sure she knows I did, but I put my nose practically in her butt and smelled. It was a strange smell. So I hugged her again and told her, in the nicest way I could "Listen. You need a bath. A hot relaxing bath. It will make you feel better. And you need to scrub real good. Look, it's your life and that's fine, but to be honest, you stink. Now I want you to get in that bath and scrub yourself real good." At the time, it just happened, it just came out of my mouth, I didn't think anything of it at the time. But on reflection I can not believe I did that and I can not believe she didn't say "F U, I'll take a bath when I want to." I went even further than that. I got her a fresh pair of undies and pajamas and helped her pick out her clothes for tomorrow. I don't know, I guess because I've tutored students and at work I'm not officially a 'boss' but I delegate responsibilities and motivate employees that I'm just used to telling people what to do. It's just kind of in my nature. Yes, I was that girl in grade school who everybody hated because I never got in trouble and I was a little bit bossy. So, I was right because her mood changed after she had a bath. When I was on the verge of falling asleep she came in and asked if she could sleep with me. To be honest I really wanted to be alone and just go to sleep but I gave in. Okay, a while back I said I was trying to remember if there were clues before I invited her to live with me. I just remembered one time in a group someone said the word 'spanking' and you know how when you have a secret, like being into spanking, I think we can all relate, you get that look for a moment like "Omg, everybody knows my secret". Well, I looked at Jayda and she had that exact same look and our eyes kind of locked. It was like I knew and I knew she knew. I know there were other clues, I just can't think of what they were. The mom next door. I'm pretty sure she's into spanking, aside from the fact that she spanks her daughters. I don't know, I've read that people who are into spanking and are also spanking parents can separate the 2. I don't know how you could do that, but I've read that a lot. There's just certain things like the way she seems to approve of what goes on next door (meaning in my apartment). I don't know, just the way she sort of looks at me and almost winks since the first time I spanked Jayda. And although she entrusts her daughters in Jayda's care, she also kind of treats her like a kid. I swear she's gone just short of saying "Do I need to spank you too?" To be honest I would LOVE to watch that. Anyway, although nothing has really happened I thought I would just check in. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:42:21 03/19/23 Sun Your neighbor and you both seem to be picking up on Jayda's behavior and recognizing that she behaves - and responsive to direction from you -d like a kid. Since you are used to taking charge with others in a work setting it is only natural that you would do so with Jayda, particularly since it is now clear to you that she is responsive to your authoritative directions- like take a bath, go stand in the corner, over my knee. Rubbing her butt is not something you would suggest to an equal, unless in an intimate relationship. Doing so with with Jayda was just a natural outgrowth of her submissiveness towards you. Wanting to sleep in the same bed as you is what a girl does with her mommy or other authority figure. The signals are abundant that you can exercise a parental-like authority over your girl and she will respond positively and favorable to it because she and you both now know that you have the upper hand in the relationship. Any worry or self doubt on your part as to whether Jayda will tell you to F-off should be far less for you now than at the outset given the signs and signals you have clearly picked up on and related to others on this site. So going forward if the girl errs and deserves a spanking, you have that authority. And do you really doubt for a second that if you tell her to take her panties down or remove them altogether for a spanking that she will offer any real resistance?? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: The latest Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:36:51 04/01/23 Sat Sorry it's been a while. Since my last update I've given Jayda a couple of spankings, but nothing too serious, one on her jeans and one on her panties just with my hand, mainly for motivation. I must say it's exhilarating. Wednesday I came home from work a little early and the mom next door was out. We greeted each other, then she said in a very friendly tone "You might want to speak with Jayda." Before she told me the story she said, kind of laughing "Well, it's really kind of funny actually." At first I thought she was trying to kind of soften the blow for Jayda, but later I'm convinced that she was trying to make it sound more serious knowing that Jayda was going to be over my knees tonight and she was going to enjoy hearing it. She told me that Jayda was pulling into a parking space and a car alarm went off. Apparently she bumped into the next car which triggered the alarm. Jayda backed out and parked way down the row and ran into our apartment. There was no damage, not even a scratch, but still. And I know the mom was giddy knowing the sounds of a good ass beating was going to be in the next apartment. Jayda wasn't home at the time, but I must say that I was impressed the apartment was clean and even her room to some extent. I just sat there on the couch in silence with a book and the hairbrush clearly visible next to me. I left everything off first because I like peace and quiet but also I wanted to make it easy for mom and the girls next door to hear everything. Jayda got home and saw the hairbrush and looked horrified. She tried to say a quick hello and sneak off but I said "Jayda, we need to have a talk." She put her bookbag down and I told her to bring in the kitchen chair. She turned absolutely white and looked like she was going to throw up. I didn't tell her who ratted her out, but I told her I knew exactly what happened. She first tried to deny it then pleaded her case, making excuses and pointed out there was no damage. I wasn't having it and I sat in the chair with my hairbrush and she knew what to do. I savored every minute of it, pulling her pants down slowly and then her panties. Tbh, I've been kind of in the mood for a good spanking and this was the perfect opportunity and I wont lie, I was loving it. Pretty much the same as the other time, I did it in 3 increments with corner time in between. This was almost a sexual experience for me. I feel the punishment was justified to fit the crime, but really I wasn't that mad about it. It was more of an opportunity to dish out a really good spanking fueled by knowing that the mom next door sort of orchestrated the whole thing and had her ear to the wall getting off on it, in one way or another. I'm not so cruel. I did cuddle her for the longest time after. Well, that's my update. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: The latest Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:11:17 04/01/23 Sat Good update but a few more details would have been welcomed, particularly as they relate to how Jayda responded to the whole ordeal? Was she ultimately a repentant girl, not unlike one duly punished by her parent? Your routine of spanking and working in corner time between each spanking is a good approach to help maximize the punishment while extending the duration of the session for your own visually and presumably audio pleasures which seemingly brought you to the edge. Do share what you can discern from your neighbor as to the extent that she indicated she knew what happened. You might even broach the subject by harmlessly dropping that you had a good talking with Jayda about the incident and watch for her expressions. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: The latest Author: Random Visitor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:36:30 04/01/23 Sat Your update makes it clear that you've pretty much taken Jayda in hand. I think a number of us would enjoy a bit more detail on how you assert yourself when you decide to discipline. That's the part where she's most exposed as being subject to your authority. Would you share with us some of the conversation when you "weren't having it"? A few more questions: Have you assigned her any chores? Does that interest you? Do you still relate to her in the same way as you did before you started spanking her? Do you order her around more even when she isn't in trouble? More telling and less asking? How long does it take for her to finish crying it out after the last spank has landed? Surely Jayda is somewhat aware that her spankings are to a degree, public. Does she ever talk about that? Does Jayda act embarrassed or submissive around the mom? It sounds like you and the mom next door will be talking openly about spanking, maybe even sharing notes on technique, within a week or two. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: The latest Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:06:42 04/02/23 Sun Would you share with us some of the conversation when you "weren't having it"? I don't really remember. I just wasn't listening to her excuses and pleas. Jayda was going over my knees. A few more questions: Have you assigned her any chores? Does that interest you? Yes, we kind of divide up the chores, but I don't know if I go "Okay, these are your chores." but really since she moved in I've kind of assigned chores. Do you still relate to her in the same way as you did before you started spanking her? Do you order her around more even when she isn't in trouble? More telling and less asking? I don't believe I 'order her around'. I guess the dynamics have kind of changed, but pretty much the same I guess except that I wouldn't have slapped her butt before that first time I sat her in the corner. How long does it take for her to finish crying it out after the last spank has landed? I can't really answer that question. When I cuddle her she starts crying and begging forgiveness again. I think that's because she really gets off on my sympathy and reassuring and petting. Surely Jayda is somewhat aware that her spankings are to a degree, public. Does she ever talk about that? Does Jayda act embarrassed or submissive around the mom? Obviously because we've pretty clearly heard the girls get spanked next door and that's a pretty distinctive sound. When the girls brought the cookies over the next day they were all like uneasy smiles and all but said "Sorry you got a spanking." so she knows they know and they know she knows they know. Jayda has always been kind of 'submissive' around the mom, maybe that's the wrong word, but respectful. I think the mom scares her. But I think moreso like right after she (or actually even the girls) have gotten a spanking. Now that I mention it, I've noticed that after we know the girls have gotten a spanking Jayda acts real like respectful. It sounds like you and the mom next door will be talking openly about spanking, maybe even sharing notes on technique, within a week or two. I doubt that, but maybe Idk, I think I'd really rather not. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: The latest Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:37:58 04/03/23 Mon No mention of wet wipes this time. Did you just decide to take the risk of getting your hand dirty and let the E. coli fly? Also no mention of fingers going places not strictly necessary to the discipline. Were you more restrained this time? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: The latest Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:06:45 04/03/23 Mon I'd like to just add that when I'm actually spanking Jayda, it's a REAL rush and I have to control myself. Everything avout it, even her crying and squirming and holding her and controlling her body as well as my hand smacking her bottom and the flashes of her privates. Tbh, it's way better than my fantasies. When I put her in the corner and she crying, I do feel, I guess the word is remorse, but I really get off on her naked butt turning all sorts of colors and her hands trying to rub the fire out and her knowing that her little bottom is on display with her pants around her ankles. I know that makes me sound like the worst kind of sadistic monster and I do have compassion, but the whole thing really gets me off. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: The latest Author: Wondering-experience [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:14:02 04/03/23 Mon You are getting off on the power exchange and what you are experiencing is no different than most would experience in the same situation. So if you are a monster then so are most of us who read what you wrote as we can fully identify with the rush you are feeling. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: The latest Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:11:55 04/03/23 Mon OMG, I've done that. I guess I should'v been spanked for it. Thanks so much for that update. It's been so dead on here. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:12:12 04/01/23 Sat P.S., the next day the girls brought over cookies. Coincidence? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:14:26 04/03/23 Mon They probably felt sorry for their big friend. Or maybe they were curious and wanted to see her rub her behind, cuz they know. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:18:33 04/07/23 Fri From the sound of it, both girls got a spanking last night and it sounded like a good one. It makes sense because the week before was Spring break so they were stuck with each other for a week and I guess this week the excitement of Easter and they have been going at each other for two weeks and I guess the mom just had enough. They may have gotten other spankings, but I didn't hear any. I sure heard this one though and it sounded like mom had reached the breaking point. I thought about taking some cookies over, lol, but nah. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: James (to Clair) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:00:05 04/13/23 Thu So I first want to say you are an exveptionally good writer. You really convey your feelings well, especially how you explained wanting to look at a hairbrush on a store shelf but embarassed to do so when others might see. I think you have been totally correct to discipline Jayda and it's clear she benefits from having your maternal-like guidance. The fact that she cuddles clearly shows how close and trusting you are with each other. I get the impression she would be willing to be candid about her feelings. So with that in mind, have you thought of trying to figure out why Jayda always has dirty panties and seems hesitant to take showers/baths? I know you've said that's her business but keeping clean is part of good health. It's kinda risky not to. I know you said you didn't want to give her a bath but based on everything you've described about her being unorganized and a bit childish, it's possible she might like it more if you helped than if she did it on her own. I wouldn't suggest that outright or talk in a threatening manner like she's going to be punished, I would just try to find out what her hangups about bathing might be. Does she not realize how relaxing bath bomb or bubbles could be? Similar for her dirty panties. If she truly doesn't want to wipe herself, there are ways to not leave a mess in her room. And she probably shouldn't wreck her panties like that. At this point Jayda knows you know all about this so she shouldn't be afraid of you reacting harshly, if she was to verbalize why she does this. I'm sure you would be able to find a way to help her manage this better. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:15:58 04/30/23 Sun Thank you James. I've tried to figure it out. I've puzzled about it. I think it has to do with wanting to keep people at bay. Like she doesn't want people to get too close to her. Or maybe it's some kind of self humiliation thing. She may just really get off on being humiliated. Idk and I doubt if she does either. You may not know this but bubble bath can be a real irritant for a female. As I've said before, what she does or how she treats her body is her business and I wont interfere with it. I've also admitted that, and I have no idea why, but I get off on her being stinky and not kind of, you know cleaning herself. I would never do that myself and maybe that's part of the reason it intrigues me so. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:06:40 04/30/23 Sun Hi. So I haven't written for a while. Not because I haven't spanked Jayda (which I have) but it just seemed like firstly fitting it in and it just seemed like writing about it just got to be all the same. One I will tell you about is last weekend her parents were visiting for the weekend. I kind of layed down the law and told her that she had better behave while they were here or I would really blister her ass after they'd left. I don't know if that was entirely truthful, I was really just flexing my muscle. This time though I really did insist on her good hygiene. Before they came I told her to get in the bath, specifying bath over shower (I'm not really sure why I insist on that) and keep her panties clean and I will be checking over the weekend. I asked her if she thought she needed a paddling as a reminder to behave while her parents were there. To my surprise she said yes. We had a couple of hours before her parents were due to arrive. She got in the bath. I had to resist this incredible urge to check in on her. I don't know why, but I really wanted to watch her take a bath and scrub herself. I actually picked out her clothes and underwear and layed them on her bed and well, I did get a little peek when I casually poked my head in the door to let her know. And I did get a little peek when she went from the bathroom to her room. I sat in the chair in front of the couch. She came out sheepishly in the clothes I layed out for her, a skirt and she never wears anything but jeans. She looked so cute, so adorable. Without going into a lot of detail, she went over my knees. I got such a rush out of lifting her shirt to reveal her (practically) spotless white full bottom little girl panties. I gave her a good spanking over her panties with my hand and hairbrush. Not real bad, but enough that I was sure she would feel it the whole weekend. I kept thinking while I was spanking her "OMG, what if her parents got here early!" Her parents are really nice and really intelligent and a little bit doting on their little princess. It wasn't the first time I met them. I really like them. It was so much fun to watch her sit on her hot little ass, knowing that she was in discomfort and trying to act normal. I don't think they know I spank her and I don't think they suspected it. For the 3 days I took every opportunity to check her underwear. That was such a kick. I know I sound like a real pervert, but it was. The thing that strikes me is, I don't know if 'obedient' is the right word, but how obedient she is towards me. She kept her underwear clean and by Sunday didn't stink much and didn't really protest when I pulled her into her bedroom or wherever at any given time to check her underwear. A week later I still can't believe I did that. Well, that's a little update for now. Tbh, I don't think she's had a bath since last Friday. And it is pretty obvious. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:37:02 04/30/23 Sun That does it! Today is the day! I am going to turn her over my knees and give her a damn good spanking and take her to the bath and give her a good scrubbing up. Not because I care about how she smells or anything, but because I want to do it. I want this experience. I want to see how it goes and if she protest. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:38:30 04/30/23 Sun Really, I just want to see how far I can take things. I've really had a lot of fantasies about it too. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:39:08 05/01/23 Mon Although I understand that describing Jayda’s spanking(s) after the one generated by the incident with her car would be repetitive, the reason(s) that prompted the spanking(s) would not. Would you describe them? As for the bath - in early 2020, another woman asked for advice on this forum on how to spank her roommate and, based on the responses, she implemented a procedure that led to the roommate submitting to spankings. After the second spanking, she gave her roommate a bath and to emphasize her dominance, she penetrated the roommate’s anus with two fingers. The roommate did not object, she merely said that “it burns!” (presumably due to the soap). Given Jayda’s uncleanliness, she could use such a cleaning. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:48:50 05/13/23 Sat Well, that actually didn't happen. I asked her to take a bath and she did. Maybe another time. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:26:36 05/13/23 Sat I thought this was kind of cute. Last weekend, beginning Friday as she has no classes on Friday, Jayda made a whole bunch of excuses for breaking plans with me and doing chores because she had to study for finals. Well, come Saturday afternoon she had really done nothing. I was a little pissed about that but really I was just in the mood to turn her over my knees. She was expecting her study buddy, but I went into her room and she was just laying on her bed playing with her phone. I reprimanded her, she got snippy with me and the long and short of it is I pulled her over my knees and really blistered her bottom with my hairbrush. I told her to sit her butt down and get to studying. It was just a few minutes after that the doorbell rang. Her study buddy is just as geeky and awkward as Jayda is, maybe moreso. I know Jayda's eyes were still puffy and wet and her bottom had to still be very sore and hard to sit on when her friend came in so I'm sure it was pretty obvious that she had been crying. Naughty me, I listened with the door open a crack and heard a conversation something like this. "Hey are you okay?" "Yeah." What's the matter." "Um...anxieties I guess. I can't get started on studying." a little later I heard "I, um, got some motivation from Clair." "What did she say?" The conversation went on a bit and I was kind of snickering to myself when I said "Are you two studying in there?" I just couldn't resist the opportunity to burst in. I actually pointed, but pointed directly to the hairbrush on the desk and said firmly "You two better be cracking those books or do you need some more motivation?!" of course Jayda's response was "Okay, okay, okay, okay!" The look on her friend's face was priceless. I wish I had got it on video. Her mouth was wide open, she looked up at me, down at the hairbrush and back up at me. I heard more inaudible talking then heard her friend say "She spanks you?!" "Mmm...yeah." "You don't think she'd spank me too do you?" "I don't think so, but I don't know." Her friend started asking questions and Jayda said "Come on, we gotta get going here." The thing is, all this week her friend has been stopping by when I know she knows Jayda's not home and just kind of hangs out until she comes home. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Berryblue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:49:36 05/13/23 Sat You may begin spanking 2 geeky girls instead of one. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:00:58 05/21/23 Sun Wouldn't that be fun? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:06:22 05/14/23 Sun Would you actually spank her? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:02:21 05/21/23 Sun I think, given the opportunity, why wouldn't I? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:34:17 05/16/23 Tue Jayda’s friend has given you a fine opportunity to determine whether she too should be spanked, if you wish to explore that possibility. Just as her, when she is in the apartment waiting for Jayda to arrive, if she thinks that she, like Jayda, needs motivation from time to time. Her response will tell you whether she is seeking more structure and discipline in her life. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:05:49 05/21/23 Sun Well, it's going to have to wait for a while. Her friend has gone home for the Summer, but has started contacting me on occasion. We'll see where it goes. Probably nowhere, but after that study buddy incident she seems to have an interest in me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Settling into this lifestyle Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:31:36 05/27/23 Sat My thoughts and fantasies since childhood have certainly evolved. Probably since adolescence I've dreamed of having someone under my authority and giving lots of very hard spankings. I never dreamed that in reality it could ever be possible. By the time I got into college I certainly enjoyed the fantasy but began to realize how absolutely absurd it was to think that that could ever happen in rl. Having Jayda live with me, her being naturally submissive and in need of practical guidance and responding to an 'authority figure' it began to not seem so absurd. Then it actually happened. The first time was extremely awkward, but spontaneous. Afterwords it seemed even more absurd that it ever happened. I decided that I was a terrible person and that would never happen again, but it did. When I look back it seems like a year, but I realize its only been a few months since I first turned her over my knees. The first few times I had huge guilt and really reevaluated my sanity. Now it seems we've both settled into our roles. I still feel horrible guilt and question my sanity, but it seems to be working and I like it, I think Jayda does too. It has created other burdens that I didn't consider in my lifelong fantasies or even when I first put her in the corner or spanked her. It's like I feel responsible for this other person. That never entered my plans. Nothing really to report except that on Thursday I gave her a damn good spanking and sent her to the bath. Just thought I'd share some of my thoughts. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Settling into this lifestyle Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:21:19 05/27/23 Sat You are neither a horrible person nor a mental case. I suspect that you are the best thing thing that has ever happened to Miss Jayda and she one of the better things for you. Enjoy these discoveries and the bonds they are creating. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Settling into this lifestyle Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:44:54 05/27/23 Sat I agree with Alfred. The fact that you now feel responsible for Jayda's development is what an ethical person would feel. You spank and influence because you wish her to be a better version of herself and it is clear to you that she needs to arrive at that place. So, you feel an obligation to get her there and are keen to steer her in the right direction and make her a responsible and desirable person on many fronts or her future development. Your conclusion, that you express and not expected, is simply a natural aspect of you being a good person who cares about others and wants them to do the right thing. Yeah, and sure, there is the sexual aspect and excitement for you, but at its base rest a sound moral foundation. Keep that in mind going forward. And enjoy what you have. It is rare and both of you are lucky to share the symbiotic relationship you have. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Settling into this lifestyle Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:38:09 06/04/23 Sun WS says it all so well! I will just say that I second the motion. My only regret is that Clair writes so eloquently that this thread remains totally riveting and keeps expanding without bounds! We all wish them the best! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Settling into this lifestyle Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:57:48 06/04/23 Sun Oh shucks, I'm not all that. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Fun Weekend Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:50:31 06/04/23 Sun Friday I took the rest of the day off and started my weekend around 1:00. Jayda was very jittery and nervous and I soon found out why. I was surprised, shocked and quite pissed to find her study buddy (mentioned about a month ago) at the door with a couple of stuffed bookbags. I was even more shocked and pissed to find out she was spending the weekend. Since she travelled some distance I couldn't just send her on her way so I just threw up my hands and let it happen and was burning and shaking inside. The reason I was so pissed and took off work early is because I had decided this weekend would be spring cleaning weekend and Jayda knew that. My plan was for us to scrub the apartment top to bottom once and for all. I don't think Jayda invited her to get out of work, I think what happened was the two things just happened and she didn't know how to say no. Although I like seeing the kid I was very clear that this was a complete surprise and that we had plans. She like really excitedly was saying she could help and wouldn't get in the way and she wouldn't be a problem etc. The funny thing is, she is every bit, if not more (I guess the word is) obedient and eager to please as Jayda. After she got settled in again I told her that I was not happy with this situation and gave her a list of errands and told her it should take her about 2 hours. I know she knew. As soon as she left Jayda KNEW she was in for it. "Can't this wait? But what if she comes back? No, please not with my pants down." etc. So, of course I brought out the kitchen chair and my hairbrush and I REALLY gave her butt a blistering. I was hoping her friend would come back early and I'm sure Jayda was not. I purposely left the chair in the living room, hairbrush on the couch and made her stick her nose to the wall with her blazing butt on display while she pleaded to let her pull her jeans up. I will not lie, I admit I loved every minute of it. Study Buddy did come back a lot sooner than I thought but unfortunately Jayda's corner time was over and she washed her face. In the mean time I had fixed a light dinner because it's fucking hot this weekend, too hot to cook. The look on Study Buddy's face was priceless when she saw the displaced chair and hairbrush and Jayda's eyes still puffy. My little ginger's face was as red as tomatoes. Study Buddy did great with the shopping and it was great hearing her exaggeratedly explain that they were out of this or that and she went to 2 places to find them. I was LMFAO inside. I was enjoying every minute of it, the whole situation. "Would you bring that chair in please?" Oh, that was fun watching Study Buddy almost fall on her face fetching the chair. It was also a great delight watching both of their faces as Jayda sat down. I feel bad, I was having way to much fun with this. About that time Mom and the girls next door paid a visit (as if they didn't know). So we didn't get much done Friday night, but we've been scrubbing and tossing ever since. Study Buddy has been a huge help and so willing to please. I feel bad about this, but I have been having so much fun this weekend giving little clues and making valed warnings and threats. Well, the girls are getting up and it's about time to crack the whip again. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Fun Weekend Author: Missy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:50:32 06/04/23 Sun So to speak!!! Very nice double meaning Clair! Haha! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Fun Weekend Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:17:59 06/04/23 Sun The plot thickens delightfully! Study Buddy, hereinafter, SB, is soooo obedient that we will all be waiting with bated breath for her (SB's) first conversation with Clair's spanking hairbrush. I am amazed that she didn't deliberately forget some crucial item such as the cleanser! She could clearly sense that Jayda's bottom was going to be warmed while she (SB) was out "shopping." [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Fun Weekend Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:59:04 06/15/23 Thu I think I would love that, but it's not in the cards. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:00:07 06/10/23 Sat Since Summer began Jayda has gotten increasingly lazy. Lazy with doing her chores, keeping up with her responsibilities, getting an attitude, lazy about eating properly and about taking care of herself. I don't know how long it has been since she bathed, but with the sun and heat by Wednesday she just reeked. I mean I couldn't even stand to be in the same apartment with her, that bad. I finally had enough and I'm not normally so blunt about it but I said "That's it, you stink!" I mean I told her off about how bad she smelled and I couldn't stand to be around her. Still in her pj bottoms I yanked them and her underwear down, threw her over my knees and gave her a damn good paddling and sent her to the bath. Thursday at work I was talking to one of my work mates. We get along very well, she's older and she's someone I can confide in. I'm always struggling in my mind about spanking Jayda and acting sort of like her strict parent, I mean actually pulling her pants down and spanking her and spanking her good. I question my sanity. I couldn't keep it a secret any longer. I have to get this out in the open even at the risk of my reputation. But I know she's not a gossip and I can talk to her kind of like a mom. I wasn't straight out with it, but like skirted around it, asking her about room mates and slipping in 'punishment' and the conversation went from there and got more personal. Then thank God she said it because I just couldn't even say that word. I almost stopped breathing when she said it but I was so relieved that it was out in the open. Then I swear to God this is what she said. "Well, sometimes a girl just needs a damn good spanking." Did she just say the title of this group? So I got approval. Every thing I've been holding in, this secret, my anxieties, convinced I am the worst person on earth was validated. "I'm sure it happens, probably a lot more common than you might think it is." She's only met Jayda, she doesn't really know her, but I confessed that I spank her. "Well, if it works it works." We didn't go into any details and the conversation drifted from there, but I was so relieved, you can't begin to imagine how relieved I was to get that off my shoulders. Of course the mom and girls next door know, but I've never actally confessed. That brings me to last evening. Jayda knew that we were going out with the mom and girls and I had asked her to tidy up and be sure to be here. So the apartment was a mess, I mean even worse than I had left it in the morning and Jayda was nowhere to be found. The 4 of us sat there for about an hour when Jayda comes nonchallantly walking through the door. Tbh, we were all pretty pissed. She had this lazy fair attitude about the whole thing. I'm pretty sure the mom wanted to turn her over her knees too. Even with guests I didn't hold back. I told her off, not like loud or anything, but firm. Even the girls looked like they felt it was justified. "Don't make any plans tomorrow afternoon because at 1:00 we're going to have a long talk about this! Now go freshen up so we can leave!" It was quite amusing to watch every eye go wide and just like in a movie every head turned to see every other head. I'm sure all 3 of their ears will be on the wall at 1:00 today and I feet like a jerk saying this, but I'm going to enjoy every minute of it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Maddie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:08:20 06/13/23 Tue I'm sorry, but that was kind of mean basically announcing she was going to get a butt blistering and the time she would get it with the girls there. Otherwise it sounds like she deserved it. Please don't be mad at me for telling you how I feel. I don't mean to be disrespectful. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: H [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:56:01 06/16/23 Fri why do you think that was mean? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Moonica [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:28:15 06/17/23 Sat Oh I don't know. I don't mean to be argumentative but everybody there knows she spanks her and they all had to wait for her, so like it wasn't a surprise and she didn't just come right out and say "You are going to get a spanking" in front of everyone. I think that everyone there who was counting on her should get some satisfaction. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:23:17 06/17/23 Sat I agree with Monica. Jayda did inconvenience everyone and they are entitled to some satisfaction. So her embarrassment is deserved and not unfair at all. It is a consequence of her indifference to the reasonable expectations of other. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:19:53 06/24/23 Sat Actually I was considering next time inviting mom and the girls over for it. I'm just kidding you, I would never do that. I do see your point and I had second thoughts about it after I said it. It was a spur of the moment thing and if I were to have thought about it I would have announced it privately. Maybe with the mom present, but not the girls. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:25:46 06/18/23 Sun Soooooo, are you going to tell us about it or what? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:22:37 06/24/23 Sat Further discussions and approval with my work mate. I may say more on that later, but right now I haven't got much time. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:09:57 06/24/23 Sat For when time permits, two questions and a suggestion: Did Jayda try to dissuade you from following through with the 1 pm appointment? Is there evidence that the mother and her girls listened to Jayda’s discipline (e.g., the girls delivered cookies later that afternoon)? You should consider, if there is another time when Jayda’s discipline is scheduled for a future time, to impress your dominance by requiring her to persent herself bare bottomed for her scheduled spanking. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:52:08 06/24/23 Sat Well, it's been 2 weeks so it's not as fresh in my mind, but in the hours leading to the appointment time she was pretty stand offish and said things like "Look, I'm sorry, okay?" I guess trying to wiggle out of it or maybe postpone it when there wasn't a eager audience. She made a lot of excuses during our discussion I guess hoping to put off the inevitable. It wasn't later in the afternoon, but the next day the girls were over and were all about Jayda, I guess as sort of sympathy and unity. I don't think they hated hearing it though. They do adore her though. When mom came to get them she was really nice, but upon seeing the mess (popcorn on the floor etc) she said sort of sternly "You girls get this place cleaned up before we go. All 3 of you." You should have seen Jayda jump. On your other point, one of the things I most 'enjoy' (I know that sounds awful) about my 'duty' is pulling her pants and panties down, one by one, deliberately, myself. I'm assuming that you mean her taking down her own pants. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:55:23 06/27/23 Tue Do you wish to elaborate on the discussions with and approval from your work mate? Or do I have to suppress my curiosity? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:41:40 07/08/23 Sat The latter. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:57:03 07/09/23 Sun Succinct brush off. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Some new things Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:32:24 07/11/23 Tue Sorry, Mr. Gantard. Miss Clair has become STRICT with us! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Clair [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:04:40 07/08/23 Sat Recently Study Buddy has been asking to move in with us. She gives tales of woe how she hates her current (or last semester's) living arrangement. Her room mates party, they are loud and ignorant, they are mean to her and on and on. There may be truth to that, but what am I supposed to do? I've told her I just don't have the room. It's a two bedroom apartment and both bedrooms are occupied. She continues to plead her case even saying she would sleep in the living room. Oh no, we'll have none of that. Even if I did have the room I would be very reluctant to have her AND Jayda living with me. She has complained about her room mates before so I know she's not making that up, but although I sympathize it's a firm no. Seriously shes whiny, somewhat immature, she seems to be a slob, she and Jayda, although they're like 2 pees in a pot they bicker. Even if I had a mansion I would go out of my mind having both of them in the same domicile. I don't know this, but I have suspicions and I don't know if she's a 'spanko' but I think she's fascinated that I spank Jayda. I get the impression that I don't think she wants to get spanked herself, but she wants to see Jayda get a spanking. I just get that feeling because she hedges around with questions. I think she would be in for a big surprise to learn that house rules go for everybody and wouldn't be expecting to go over my knees. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:11:24 07/10/23 Mon Why couldn't Jayda and Study Buddy share a room? Would you really spank her if she did live there? What about you? Don't you need a spanking sometimes? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:36:48 07/11/23 Tue Profound question, Emmie Sue. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Hagfish [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:10:29 11/29/23 Wed Anything new, Clair? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Chinmay [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:41:25 12/21/23 Thu What a thread. I was reading this thread whole day. Claire spanking Jayda and all. I am spanko and I keep thinking or reading about it. Wish I would have been able to find this thread a bit earlier. Claire please post update on your roommate and neighbours. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:58:19 12/21/23 Thu Clair has left the building. Don't expect to hear from her anytime soon. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Chinmay [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:28:15 12/21/23 Thu Welli would be waiting for her equally [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate Author: Chinmay [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 00:37:47 12/26/23 Tue Hi Clair, Reason why I am stucked with your topic is bcoz I was going to write a story on similar line. But reading your experience and how you handled the situation in real, I wanted to have word with you. My story line was based on a spanko Landlady and how she spanks one her Tenant. Also how her other spanko friend gets involved in it. All the thoughts you had and guilt you felt that were you forcing the spanking on the other person are the same feeling of landlady. As I was thinking of a non consensual story. But as you have realised while doing well t or experiencing it that actuall the roommate deserves it. Please whenever you read the message, do revert to it. As mine is just a fictional story but you have lived the experience [ Post a Reply to This Message ]