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As always, your post is so helpful. Surprisingly, this is the first time that it has really come up. We have had vacations with my daughters' friends, but they have tended to be one where multiple families went so the friends' parents were there too. Of course, friends were always over at our house throughout the years, but if I ever had an issue, I would just send the friend(s) home for the day and call the parents if necessary. When your kids' traveled with you, did you typically have more issues with your daughters' friends or your son's?
Given the ages involved and the fact that I don't have a close relationship with the friend involved even though I have met her on multiple occasions, I don't think I am going to bring up the subject of spanking with the friend or her parents. Like I said, I don't think I would feel very comfortable spanking someone besides my own children, but I can certainly see why others would. Plus, the most likely scenario by far is that she causes zero issues and is a great addition to our family vacation.
However, I agree with you that I should have an alternative to spanking in mind if issues do arise. I love your idea about taking her phone away for a period of time (I might actually have do that with my own daughters if I need to give warnings). I have also considered that she could stand in a corner as I have made my own daughters do at times (and after a spanking). Both punishments seem to be age appropriate.
On a related note, having a friend at the house and on vacation for 2 weeks will not prevent me from giving my daughters spanking warnings, swats, or a spanking if earned. I think it's highly unlikely that any spankings will be earned, but swats & warnings are a relatively common occurrence so that could very well happen.