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Subject: Re: How would you Handle?


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Sarah to SJ Mom
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Date Posted: 17:15:49 04/21/21 Wed
In reply to: SJ Mom to Sarah 's message, "Re: How would you Handle?" on 20:26:07 04/20/21 Tue

SJ Mom,

You asked if I had more issues with my son's friends over my girls' friends. Ironically, even though we have three girls and one son, misbehavior (and spankings) happened more often with my son and his best friend than with my daughters or one of their friends during vacations. But then it wasn't as if all the children were able to bring a friend with for all vacations, it was usually one, maybe two total, at the most.

But when my son brought his best friend with, it was pretty much a guarantee of at least one spanking for each of the boys during our trip. Whether if we went to Disney World, Wisconsin Dells or just camping in general. And it wasn't uncommon for one, or both, of the boys to earn more than one spanking, as well. Especially when they were younger.

Where my girls (and their friends) certainly earned their share of spankings over the years during vacations, it didn't happen as consistently as with my son and his best friend.

Where spanking other children than my own has never been an issue for me (and have even insisted on it for extended care), I understand many do not prefer to do so, especially in our current times. I do think the removal of the phone is a good alternative punishment especially for a teen-aged girl. There were times I removed the phone from my girls (and their friends), in conjunction with a spanking, and they were very unhappy young ladies besides the fact of having a sore, burning bottom.

But like we've said, I don't think any of that will be needed from what you have indicated on much of a good young lady she is. And I am guessing she will want to be eager to make a good impression, as well, for any potential future trips.

SJ Mom, I completely agree. Even though you won't use spanking with your daughter's friend, I wouldn't let that prevent you in any capacity in treating your daughters as status quo in regards to warnings, swats and even spankings.

It was the same way with my children, as well. Just because they had friends visiting didn't mean they were 'safe' on punishment if their behavior asked for it. You have probably seen me mention in my posts before that I have always been very much a 'then and there' spanker. And that did not change even when we had company over. They were spanked right there, if that is where they misbehaved.

Very embarrassing for them to be certain, especially when it happened as they got older. But as I always told them, if they wanted to avoid being spanked in front of others, all they needed to do was behave in the first place.

So I completely agree with you in not changing your discipline procedure for your girls, even during those 2 weeks with their friend visiting.

Please let us know how it goes. I hope all of you have a wonderful time on the trip!


Sarah

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