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Subject: Re: 'Why bare and why over the lap.'


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Gretchen
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Date Posted: 11:53:46 05/31/21 Mon
In reply to: Doris 's message, "'Why bare and why over the lap.'" on 07:31:49 05/28/21 Fri

>Hello all. A few days ago I had been reading through
>the posts and saw this from Paige to Brenda K.
>“Another good idea for a thread might be, 'Why bare
>and why over the lap.' I thought to myself yes it
>would. I waited to see if one of them would start a
>posting on it, I didn’t want to seem I was over
>stepping my place, that I was jumping in front of them
>and taking that on, but no one has so I thought I
>would.
>
>I would like to see some takes on these two questions,
>I’m sure they have been talked about in the past but
>there are so many new that are here including myself
>and following along. Having a 6 year old daughter and
>4 year old son, I just started spanking them back in
>April when I first posted and from advice from Mary
>and others on here I started spanking them over my lap
>on their bared bottom with my hand, I will say that
>once I did it just felt like the natural way to spank
>and I can easily control their little bodies over my
>lap, of course my son isn't spanked as hard or long as
>my 6 year old daughter and all spankings are hand
>only. But I would love to see responses to store away
>in my memory and save on my computer for when my two
>get older and bigger, does size matter with the child?
>
>I am interested in what you all have to say concerning
>this topic of. 'Why bare and why over the lap.'


I think one can argue that traditional spanking's procedural signposts - the baring of the bottom foremost among them - are kind of like the safety net that trapeze artists use while they're literally learning the ropes. Our kids are 'learning the ropes' as they grow and mature, but it doesn't happen overnight. And they very much need to know, as painful as the experience may be, that they are still being looked out for. And if their conduct warrants a spanking, then they get an honest-to-goodness spanking and not some nebulous reprimand.

I know I'm running amok with my metaphors, but the baring and the over-the-knee positioning of a naughty child is comparable to putting the key in your automobile's ignition; nothing's going to happen otherwise. The child's bottom, at least for the duration of the spanking, becomes "the reason why we're here." Everything else is irrelevant. Something the child did or said made it necessary for the parent to resort to a spanking, and instantly, the child is reminded of the bottom's perfect vulnerability as he or she is methodically called to account.

Above all, you want to make an enduring impression when you spank. You want the spanked youngster to buy into the notion that a different behavioral choice should've been made, and will be made in future. And this grand enlightenment comes courtesy of two uniquely receptive, soundly smacked bumcheeks. Go figure. :)

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Re: 'Why bare and why over the lap.'Mary12:38:41 05/31/21 Mon


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