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Subject: Re: Curfews and bedtimes


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Date Posted: 05:53:38 06/20/21 Sun
In reply to: Grumpy 's message, "Re: Curfews and bedtimes" on 20:12:44 06/19/21 Sat

Grumpy as I have been through this with him in the past and have told you this very same thing concerning your’s and others questions about control and obeying mom when it is time to spank them at 18 and older…

If they are in college no matter their age and under my care as I will be paying for it and need to be spanked then I will spank. I truly can not see any of my boys telling me no or fighting me when I tell them I am going to spank them. And I did agree with Barbara, it is called “tough love”.

Since I have been asked so many times and we have seen it on this forum multiple times, "how do mom's control your child and older children before and during a spanking? What if they fight you? Won’t go over your lap, submit to you. One point I would like to make, if a child gets physical with their mom over a spanking, refuses to obey you have some very major and far greater problems in that home, and I have never heard of this happening. They are brought up to respect their parent.

About, out controlling a child during the spanking process, especially as they get older, it is up to the one that is going to be spanked as much as possible to do their part in surrendering to their punishment, accepting their punishment (no matter how much they don't want too) no matter how scared they are, they do as much as can be expected considering what is about to happen to them, I started from day one with my boys teaching respect for me and acceptance of our spanking procedures, I spent time explaining to them what was going to happen and what I expected of them, I have also told other children that have been under my care the same. The punishment if they resist, put up a struggle before their spanking, interfering with being bared then I will give another full spanking an hour after their spanking, it is a part of the spanking process, it is also a life's lesson, this is a part of their lives.

As I have said in the past, I am not judging or saying anything against those who stopped spanking at a certain age, we do what we feel works best for our families and our situation. As I have long said and always believed, as far as I am concerned, there is no “Too old” to be spanked.

That being said. We look to that day when they are mature enough and can grow past spankings.

I can't tell you the amount of times I have heard, "I'm too old" No one else my age..." "when will you stop spanking me?..." When I hear these things I tell them how long I keep spanking is up to them, all they have to do is behave and stop needing mommy to spank you, they are never happy with that reply :) I also let them know we all know of teens their age and older that are being spanked and have been spanked until 18 and 19.

I also tell my boys that as long as I am supporting them and they are under my care then I will spank them, that means while they are in college if needed as I will be paying for it.

My boys best friends that I have spanking permission with and have been spanking for years now ask this as well. I have also told them that as long as they are under my care and I have spanking permission no matter their age I will spank them when needed, I also tell all of them, even if its just to hit that reset button and get them on the right track again, then I will bare them and spank.

I let all of them know I will always spank them the same way as I do now, bare bottom over my lap with my hand and hairbrush. They don't like hearing it but my guess is they continue to ask and try to make a case hoping for a different answer, or is it that selective memory that kids have, as I know I haven't heard it for the last time, lol.

I also reassure them that I will always be there for them and love them, that they will always be my boys. I have told their 3 best friends the same.

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Re: Curfews and bedtimesGrumpy11:46:58 06/20/21 Sun


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