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I do like how you worded this here, 'becoming proficient' I have also grown and made changes along the way. Back the beginning of 2020 when I first started posting here I received some good advice, suggestions, examples, support here and learned from Sarah, Cordelia and Mary.
When Lucas was 4 I stared spanking him with my hand only, always bare and over my lap, when he was 8 I went to hairbrush only spankings, then July 2020 I went back to spanking with my hand, adding it to my brush spankings. Everything was the exact same, I just start with my hand, taking a page from Sarah and her hand spankings it was pretty intense. I spank rapid and quite hard spanking from beginning to end before I picked up my brush to spank.
I also incorporated Cordelia"s approach, taking my time, and when he would reach back I tell him to move his hand and I wait for him to do so.
Spanking with my hand was and is everything Sarah and Mary, said, I had forgot how it feels, being set in my ways once I went to my brush only I told myself I would not go back.