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Subject: Re: Your opinion?


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Trish
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Date Posted: 00:38:40 08/23/21 Mon
In reply to: ask moms 's message, "Your opinion?" on 07:04:06 08/15/21 Sun

>A spanking doesn't start until the children want it to
>stop.

I have have read this a few different ways. I agree with them all but would state it myself as a spanking doesn't really start until the one getting it is DESPERATE for it to stop.

When I gave a spanking I was very tuned in to how my girls reacted and there were three stages. First were crocodile tears that started either when they stood in front of me, being told why they were about to get a spanking, or (especially) when they were told to take down their pants and/or come to go over my knees. Next, I started with a few (3-6) good firm slaps (with my hand when they were younger) or swats (with a paddle when they were about nine or older). This led to what I recognized as very real, very sincere, and what I call "concerned" or even desperate (for the spanking to STOP) crying. This told me the sting was really starting to sink in. The third stage was making sure a real lesson was learned. This is when I quickly/rapidly slapped or PADDLED. I never counted but is was probably usually just ten or fifteen more. Other moms/parents here know that quickly (within four or five slaps/swats) resulted in the desired reaction that tells you the spanking is stinging enough it won't be forgotten soon, and five to ten more was good enough to be sure that message was driven home.

I was lucky enough to be a stay at home mom, which also meant (just by being around more when misbehavior happened or was discovered) I gave more spankings than my husband. However, my husband recognized this, so when he was home when misbehavior happened or was discovered he supported me by taking responsibility to be the disciplinarian.
I only watched him give a couple of spankings, but between those and the ones I heard him give, the sound feedback he got was similar, as was his approach. I learned a lot from hearing g him spank that I couldn't as easily when it was me doing it. Once their voice tells you they are desperate for a spanking to end, a good fast dose (and I literally think it's just ten to fifteen more seconds) to bring the voice to a crescendo is all that is needed to ensure a lesson is learned.

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