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Subject: Re: Not afraid of a little embarrassment

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Date Posted: 12:34:50 08/25/21 Wed
In reply to: OFG 's message, "Re: Not afraid of a little embarrassment" on 12:25:38 08/25/21 Wed

I agree, and it should be stated that by me posting my experiences here, I’m sure it sounds like I’m spanking my kids all the time, every day. I don’t know how many they get on average, but honestly it’s not much. Probably sounds inflated, because I have 4 kids and each misbehaves at a different time. But what everyone here doesn’t get to see, though I wish y’all could come over, is the amount of love in our home and how often I can redirect without spanking.

I made that clear to my new mom friend, too.

>I think it's great that you've found a way to include
>spanking to how you raise your kids. I just hope that
>a spanking is regarded as a cure-all or that every
>spanking has to be carried out the same way as if
>I realize that a lot of parents like to turn to
>spanking as their "first choice", but I'd like to
>think that other methods are tried, as well. In fact,
>I've always felt that with a few major exceptions, a
>spanking should be a last resort.
>My mom used to say that "The proof is in the
>pudding.". Which meant that the results of actions
>speak for themselves. In your case, that meant
>well-behaved kids and very little "redirecting" was
>needed if one of them began to "cross a line".
>>I told you all about the mom I had met at a birthday
>>party who had asked me a bit about how my kids,
>>specifically Josie, are so well behaved and I was open
>>about the fact that I spank.
>>Well, I have met up with her twice since, so Josie can
>>play with her twins - a boy and a girl who are 5.
>>Josie is my youngest, so I think it’s nice for her
>>to have an experience where she is the oldest in a
>>small group and gets to be a leader for them.
>>To me, that also means she needs to lead by example in
>>behavior, which she wasn’t exactly doing this
>>weekend. The mom and I were enjoying some lunch
>>together while the kids played just outside. Josie
>>maybe was getting a little too bossy and making the
>>twins upset. I tend to try and let them work it out,
>>but before long Josie was not taking turns and egging
>>them on a bit.
>>I gave a ‘one sec’ to the other mom and went
>>outside to tell Josie I am seeing what she’s doing.
>>She was wearing a summer skirt that pullled up, then
>>pulled over one side of her undies to give her bare
>>cheek one smack while standing. I resituated her
>>clothes and told her if I see it again, she’s
>>getting a real spanking and can be sent to her room
>>for a bit. That was enough, and she played pleasantly
>>with the kids for the rest of the day.
>>The mom didn’t mention it in the moment, but after
>>seeing how Josie recalibrated herself, she exclaimed
>>how well it worked. I sat admittedly slightly proud.
>>Her kids are GREAT, don’t get me wrong, but she did
>>have to give them a couple stern talks, and I only had
>>to give one sharp spank and the problem was solved.
>>She asked a few more questions, which I was happy to
>>answer. How I tend to go about carrying out a
>>spanking. She was surprised I still spank my 11 and 12
>>year olds. I said that they all get it when needed,
>>and all are well adjusted kids because I do it with
>>love. I added that I started giving spanks at 3, and
>>by 4 they were bare over my knee. Kind of hinting that
>>here’s are at a fine age to start. She left with a
>>‘maybe I’ll have to talk to my husband and try
>>Sometimes the evidence just speaks for itself!

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