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Subject: I appreciate you all!


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Michelle
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Date Posted: 09:43:26 09/01/21 Wed
In reply to: Michelle 's message, "Genuinely stumped" on 12:25:50 08/31/21 Tue

Thank you all for the advice and your thoughts. I wanted to give you an update on how it all went down yesterday.

You all certainly gave me a lot to think about, and a couple things weighed into my decision to follow through on a spanking. One was that her and I have had conversations about this girl prior. They used to be pretty good friends from a couple years ago, and over this summer we dealt with a sudden change of attitude from this girl and how Addy could handle it. Addy's feelings have been really hurt and we worked through a lot to get to a better place for her. In those conversations we talked a lot about anger, too, and how to handle it. She could be mad at her, but acting irrationally would not help the situation at all.

Really, if she even had traded words with her, she would not have been in trouble. I wouldn't have liked it, but you can only be pushed so far or ignore things so much. I agree with the mothers here who said she made it physical, and even though she didn't instigate it, she could've really physically hurt her and worse consequences than a spanking could arise from that.

I laid this all out very clearly when I picked her up from school and on the ride home. I was happy to have this conversation with all my kids in the car, actually, because it was a good lesson for all of them. I explained that I'm proud of her for wanting to stick up for herself and wanting to defend her brother, too. But, I agreed that this is something that *cannot* continue as she gets older. She can defend herself if someone comes at her, but there was just not a reason to escalate it herself. That other girl doesn't know the power of her own words and was goading her. I want Addy, and all my children, to not fall for traps like that. I told her that when we got home, I wanted her upstairs in her room and to wait for me. She must've known it was coming, because she didn't protest and silently went up.

When I was ready and got everyone else situated, I climbed those stairs and saw one very sad pre-teen waiting in her room. I told her how much she is loved, but that she knows there is a price to pay when things like that happen, and that she was getting a spanking. I did decide to make one adjustment: I didn't use my brush this time, like I normally would. I wanted to make sure she felt the maternal aspect of this, and she did have good intentions. I think this slightly surprised her, but she didn't object. So, I stood her up to switch places with her on her bed and brought her over my lap. I honestly couldn't believe that this whole process was going along so smoothly. Maybe part of her knew that this was fair.

I strangely felt like this is one of those really 'momentous spankings', one she'd remember when she's older. It was a big event, and a big consequence. Her dress was hiked up her back a bit, and her shorts underneath were brought down with her undies. I took the moment to pause and realize how fast my oldest had grown up, but how even now that she's grown so much, sometimes a childish punishment is needed. So, I spanked her bare white butt and turned those bubbles red. Side to side, up and down. No protesting, just a sound spanking with some tears, of course.

When I let her up, it was like the air had been completely cleared. She cried on my shoulder and we sat there for a bit. I told her how I just want her to be the best she can be and she said that she'll make better choices in the future. It was a nice moment!

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Re: I appreciate you all!MarkW10:37:37 09/01/21 Wed
Re: I appreciate you all!Mary18:20:02 09/01/21 Wed
Re: I appreciate you all!Sarai18:31:00 09/01/21 Wed
Re: I appreciate you all!SJ Mom to Michelle10:29:12 09/02/21 Thu
Re: I appreciate you all!Nicole16:26:16 09/04/21 Sat


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