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Subject: Re: I appreciate you all!


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Nicole
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Date Posted: 16:26:16 09/04/21 Sat
In reply to: Michelle 's message, "I appreciate you all!" on 09:43:26 09/01/21 Wed

>Thank you all for the advice and your thoughts. I
>wanted to give you an update on how it all went down
>yesterday.
>
>You all certainly gave me a lot to think about, and a
>couple things weighed into my decision to follow
>through on a spanking. One was that her and I have had
>conversations about this girl prior. They used to be
>pretty good friends from a couple years ago, and over
>this summer we dealt with a sudden change of attitude
>from this girl and how Addy could handle it. Addy's
>feelings have been really hurt and we worked through a
>lot to get to a better place for her. In those
>conversations we talked a lot about anger, too, and
>how to handle it. She could be mad at her, but acting
>irrationally would not help the situation at all.
>
>Really, if she even had traded words with her, she
>would not have been in trouble. I wouldn't have liked
>it, but you can only be pushed so far or ignore things
>so much. I agree with the mothers here who said she
>made it physical, and even though she didn't instigate
>it, she could've really physically hurt her and worse
>consequences than a spanking could arise from that.
>
>I laid this all out very clearly when I picked her up
>from school and on the ride home. I was happy to have
>this conversation with all my kids in the car,
>actually, because it was a good lesson for all of
>them. I explained that I'm proud of her for wanting to
>stick up for herself and wanting to defend her
>brother, too. But, I agreed that this is something
>that *cannot* continue as she gets older. She can
>defend herself if someone comes at her, but there was
>just not a reason to escalate it herself. That other
>girl doesn't know the power of her own words and was
>goading her. I want Addy, and all my children, to not
>fall for traps like that. I told her that when we got
>home, I wanted her upstairs in her room and to wait
>for me. She must've known it was coming, because she
>didn't protest and silently went up.
>
>When I was ready and got everyone else situated, I
>climbed those stairs and saw one very sad pre-teen
>waiting in her room. I told her how much she is loved,
>but that she knows there is a price to pay when things
>like that happen, and that she was getting a spanking.
>I did decide to make one adjustment: I didn't use my
>brush this time, like I normally would. I wanted to
>make sure she felt the maternal aspect of this, and
>she did have good intentions. I think this slightly
>surprised her, but she didn't object. So, I stood her
>up to switch places with her on her bed and brought
>her over my lap. I honestly couldn't believe that this
>whole process was going along so smoothly. Maybe part
>of her knew that this was fair.
>
>I strangely felt like this is one of those really
>'momentous spankings', one she'd remember when she's
>older. It was a big event, and a big consequence. Her
>dress was hiked up her back a bit, and her shorts
>underneath were brought down with her undies. I took
>the moment to pause and realize how fast my oldest had
>grown up, but how even now that she's grown so much,
>sometimes a childish punishment is needed. So, I
>spanked her bare white butt and turned those bubbles
>red. Side to side, up and down. No protesting, just a
>sound spanking with some tears, of course.
>
>When I let her up, it was like the air had been
>completely cleared. She cried on my shoulder and we
>sat there for a bit. I told her how I just want her to
>be the best she can be and she said that she'll make
>better choices in the future. It was a nice moment!


I think you handled it absolutely perfectly. You thought about it, and after careful consideration decided that although you understood her reasoning decided that it was still not acceptable. A good hand spanking that i'm sure she still felt big time was a sensible compromise. She might not have thought so when you were spanking her bare butt but I bet she realized after how lucky she was to escape a hairbrush blistering.

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