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You have some good questions here, I don't like to criticize other parents as a rule but I think what you mother did was wrong on many levels.
For the one being spanked the crying is needed, it’s very ‘cathartic’ crying is extremely important. It is not an indication on 'when' to stop spanking, but it is an indication that your message is being received, and most importantly, crying is integral to a spanking because it gives the one being spanked an emotional release which allows for healing, rebirth, and starting anew. I think it has to happen for a spanking to be successful!
Crying, due to spanking has never influenced me in any way, it’s a very needed byproduct of a bare bottom spanking.
Spankings should be unbearable for the child, they should Hate our spankings. They should come off our laps out of their minds, still crying uncontrollably at the tops of their lungs. They will be trying to let me know how much it hurt and couldn't take anymore, but the words were garbled and unintelligible. It was just spanking babble.
Once I am finished and they are off my lap I will continue to hear the hiccup cries as they are jumping around doing their best jig, hands glued to their bottoms and madly rubbing their bottoms and upper thighs until their minds return and we can see that light go off when it does. I agree with what Cordelia has previously said, I would have done a pretty poor job if the child I spanked had come off my lap and been able to keep his hands off his bottom after I had finished with it.