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Date Posted: 23:10:13 07/09/18 Mon
Author: in fact, 'you' all but
Subject: Agree with the above.To allow siblings to mock achievements of the others minimizes them an sets the scene for other petty jealousies.If 'you' let the boys continue to mock what the girls do/achieve, 'you' are implying (whether you meant to or not) that what the boys do is better and more important.
In reply to: Imperfect dm 's message, "Wow! Aren't you judgy? Both of my girls dance, but as siblings, they certainly give each other a hard time about things. Most kids are not perfect." on 20:26:50 07/09/18 Mon

agree with the boys that getting a fifth place on own (and probably against many others) is not comparable to a team effort by boys for a first or second, because why would you even broadcast it on social media (like you are proud of their mockery). That is, if you were the poster who said that, and it seems that way.

It's how your post came across and the AP was right in calling you on it. It's not judgy at all, but a reflection of how it is perceived and what you may be indirectly teaching your sons (the what they do is more important than what your daughters do).

I am sure you didn't mean it that way, did you? I am sure you value all of your children's accomplishments. But how you said things and how it comes across is wholly different.

(btw, has nothing to do with kids being perfect, but learning to accept all, even own siblings)

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