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>Hi, Laura, > >As I am sure Debbie will be, and others, it is very >nice to hear from you again and I hope you will >continue to update us on your always interesting and >endlessly complicated situation. I have included Gina >in the mix here but it is up to you whether you want >her to read anything sent to you in the future. (She >found that last note by you by that you left by >accident on your laptop.) > >First, I don't agree with her comments that you have >been lying to us in your notes. People see things >differently from different perspectives--they "feel" >things differently, too, and in either case those >different reactions and feelings are not necessarily >"lies" (although they can be in some cases). > >If Gina says flatly she is not mean, that she is not >overbearing, and she is not "full of herself" and she >is not flaunting her abilities and achievements in >your face--that may be all true from her perspective >(so she's not lying when she says those things). >However, you are not lying either when you say that is >the way she appears to be to you. Okay, so let's drop >the lying charges on both sides. > >In my last note to you I told you that your notes >seemed to suggest that maybe you were being too >lenient with Lena and that Lena was taking advantage >of you because of that. You seemed to be beginning to >realize that you would have to start spanking Lena >more often and harder or risk having her running over >you like a doormat. Clearly, she didn't pull on her >mother the stuff she pulled on you--pushing the limits. > >Okay, so I am not a bit surprised if Gina saw that >pretty quickly, and if she also saw that Lena needed >harder discipline (harder spankings) than you were >giving her. Note both your aunt and your mother had no >concerns at all about the spanking Gina gave Lena. >They both fully approved you tell us. Well, that >should tell you something, too, shouldn't it--to be >completely fair. > >You did say in your partial and unfinished note that >Gina was being fair with you (which you didn't expect) >in her review and evaluation of your school work. She >did not, as you expected, criticize you unfairly or >belittle you. That was interesting. It shows you try >to be fair in evaluating her, but it shows she was >also trying to be fair with you. That is something >solid to build on. > >Laura, from the start, your mother has felt you needed >strict discipline (hard spankings) to get you on a >good track, and now she has moderated those initial >sessions a lot. She spanks you much less often and >nowhere near as hard as in those initial sessions. >Your aunt, if I have read your notes properly, spanks >you just as hard as your mother spanks you now, and >maybe even a bit harder--not sure of that, but it >seems she certainly spanks you good and hard when it >falls her lot to spank you, and she also spanks Lena >harder than you have done. > >Your spankings--all in all-have done you a world of >good. You are doing better at EVERYTHING--school and >at home. So, I would suggest, if Gina is to work with >you, tutor you, give your the basis of her own success >and work-habits, you should expect, and not resent, >and not complain too much about, the fact that >probably fairly frequent spankings from Gina will be >your lot for a while. If so, they won't be anything >you can't handle--you know that! Work with her, try to >keep a positive attitude, accept and don't fight her >discipline, and I will not be surprised if you two >don't grow much closer and into being true friends >over time. You have a lot you can learn from her. >Don't fight the situation; gain from it. > >Lastly, I don't know if Gina is personally and >physically affectionate with you, but I bet she would >be if you give her the chance. Lots of hugs and kisses >from her after your needed discipline, can really take >the lasting sting out of the situation. Like you do >when your mother spanks you, ask Gina when you are >feeling wrecked after a good spanking from her if she >will hold you for a little bit in her arms, and then >help you to bathe and recover as your mother does so >you go to bed clean and refreshed and calmed down and >feeling much better all around--the spanking behind >you, the friendship renewed. > >And Laura, you need to stop being "surprised", as you >were with your mother for awhile--when to, you were >always thinking (unreasonably) that every spanking was >your very last one ever! I suspect that you will >probably find that Gina feels that in tutoring you and >helping you along to do better all around, that some >spankings, maybe more often than you were getting them >from your mother, must be an important part of helping >you. If that is the case, be ready for that, accept >that, and just take them one at a time and keep trying >to improve. If you do that, life will not be so >difficult, and the benefits you reap will be real. > >Feel free to share this note with Gina if you want. I >think it could help you both to think about your >situation and try to work together responsibly. And if >you are still taking care of Lena from time to time, I >think you should consider moving toward the way her >mother and Gina discipline her, and not continue to be >a patsy she takes advantage of. > >Really good to hear from you again. Please post again >with updates and your comments on this note soon. >Denice

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