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Subject: Accept it, people change. This is a fact that we all have to accept it, not a particular "lesbian problem".

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Date Posted: 00:02:54 01/16/04 Fri
In reply to: ^sanbofan^ 's message, "An little summing up & questionaire for more problems prevailing" on 19:13:29 01/15/04 Thu

Dear ^sanbofan^,
Honestly, the problem is you like things to be CLEAR CUT and things are not often this way. As you have wrote yourself, people's preference might change as time goes.
I really don't think that it is a problem to have "variety" in sexual orientation and I don't see why people can not "switch" if they want to...
Accept it, people change. This is a fact that we all have to accept it, not a particular "lesbian problem".Identity is a complicated thing. If you want to have a so called "Pure" les group, join one or start one. Don't put down others who have different views with you. However, I do agree with you that it is important "to ensure your partner / targeted partner belongs to the same group as yours, unless either you don't mind / she doesn't mind."This is quite basic in any kind of relationship. BTW, Agreed with doggie ho completely. Love should not have boundaries or condition. If my partner loves someone else and find happiness with that person but still wants to stay with me, I can't see why I should condemn her or leave her for that. Love is a choice, not regulations or dos and don'ts.

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[> Subject: 戀愛的課題是廣泛的，不管是同性戀或異性戀者都會遇上的問題。發生在異性戀者身上的愛情觀，就會影響了下一代，但異性戀者也許在婚前的戀愛史一大堆，年青時候可以怎樣愛都可以，有些可能是一對十或一對二十也好，但到了想結婚的時候，有些人都會收心養性，最後只能選擇一個步入教堂，結婚生子，幸好我的父母都是其中表表者，假如我的父母在婚後，仍然抱著一對十的愛情觀，我可能會有好多媽媽或者好多爸爸，我想沒人會喜歡這麼多爸爸媽媽，所以我非謝感謝父母沒有這樣的愛情觀，讓他們的下一代感覺好受很多，當然一樣米養百樣人，在我朋友當中，有些真的有好多爸爸或媽媽，也許世事沒有對錯或絕對，但我只知道那些朋友為了父母的戀愛史帶來這麼多爸爸媽媽，在心裡是介懷和活得不快樂，異性戀者他們的愛情觀是牽涉了對下一代的責任。

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Date Posted: 05:25:29 01/16/04 Fri

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