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Date Posted: 12:27:33 11/13/08 Thu
In reply to:
Susan
's message, "loving someone with dyslexia" on 00:01:09 11/13/08 Thu
I had to reply to this post because I recognise your difficulty (or rather, your partner's difficulty) with communication. It's frustrating, I know, to be misread, especially when that someone seems to jump to negative interpretations a lot, and very hard when you can't talk properly about it because the other person finds it really hard to express themselves on a personal level. My partner has never been assessed for dyslexia though he evidently is dyslexic. I hadn't considered our communication "problems" to be due to dyslexia, though he had the same difficulties that your partner experiences in articulating feelings/misreading what he hears. I'm using the past tense here because we have now learnt to communicate much more effectively (most of the time anyway!) simply because over the years we have got to know eachother better. At the time I thought his communication style was due to lack of self-esteem, insecurity, a defense, as times were difficult. A lot of unconditional love given over time, plenty of intuition (to better know how he feels), plus happier times in general, has made the communication difference far less of an issue. It does, however, still happen occassionaly (which leads me to believe that it may just possibly be more than personal issues). When it does, I've learnt to be more helpful - by not getting upset about it, by not letting it become an issue. A smile and a hug works wonders.
Hope that's helpful.
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