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Subject: Still doing it alone?


Author:
John
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Date Posted: 19:18:02 08/05/09 Wed
 There are a number of stories here where somebody who has an interest in enemas talks their spouse or friend into an enema. This spouse or friend usually has never had an enema before, but almost immediately decides they like it and becomes an "enemate". It doesn't matter whether for sex or health but enemas become a regular part of their relationship. I don't doubt that this does indeed happen sometimes, but I don't think it is the most common reaction. I would like to think the results I got were more normal.
I enjoyed my enema as long as I can remember. I didn't get a lot at home but those I did get were strangely pleasant so I soon learned to do it myself. When I got married I found out my wife never had an enema before they gave her a Fleet in the hospital before the birth of our first child. It took lots of sweet talking to convince her that was not a real enema and she might enjoy it my way. First she wanted to watch me do myself, then she gave me a few, and eventually agreed to let me give her one. She hated it. She said she could not understand how I thought something so unpleasant could be fun. I let her control the clamp and talked her into trying bigger and smaller volumes but eventually she refused to take any more enemas. For a while she would give me mine, but then that stopped too.
She knows I give myself enemas when I am home alone but says nothing about it. I don't ask her to participate anymore.
How many of you are in the same situation? Doing it alone because your partner does not enjoy it like you do?
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[> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
phil
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Date Posted: 20:38:19 08/05/09 Wed
John,

What solution(s) were you trying to give to your wife, in her enemas?

And, did she say whether it was cramps, or any other difficulty which made the experience unplesant?

[> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Glen
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Date Posted: 07:26:18 08/06/09 Thu
I Prefer to keep things private.
My enemas ARE solo, and I'm cool with that!
[> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Jeff
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Date Posted: 21:28:41 08/06/09 Thu
I had been interested in enemas since I was a kid and gave myself many of them over the years. I always had this fantasy that I was giving one to a girl. So when I got married I hinted to my new wife that an enema might be interesting. She said she had a few as a little girl but did not remember that as a pleasant experience. I tried to convince her that the circumstances have a lot to do with whether something is pleasant or not. She said she would think about it. Each time I brought it up the answer was always the same, “maybe someday, but not now”.
Some time later we were staying at a hotel on vacation. One evening we decided to stay in because it was cool and raining. My thoughts turned to the hot tub and an evening of bedroom fun. I was just about to suggest we head to the bedroom when she said she needed something from the drugstore and left. I thought, “Aw shit, she is getting her period”. I turned on the TV and settled in for what I thought would be a long boring night.
When she got back she headed for the bathroom without saying a word. A few minutes later she called me and asked me if I could help her with something. She was standing there in her bra and panties holding a brand new enema bag. She said, ”Do you have time to show me how this thing works?”
Over the next few months she would let me give her an enema and she gave me some too but I always had to beg first. It was apparent she did not get as much out of it as I did. Gradually they stopped and I have not asked her since.
[> Subject: Sorry Guys, but an enema is NOT sexy


Author:
Like Mine Alone
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Date Posted: 21:37:12 08/06/09 Thu
You guys seem to think that giving your girlfriend or wife an enema will drive her crazy with sexual desire. I don’t think so.
I am no stranger to a good enema but I use them for cleansing and health reasons. Way too uncomfortable and messy to be considered fun. Anybody who has done it often enough knows that sooner or later there will be an accident. The guys I know would not want me or anybody pooping on them or their bed. Just my opinion.
[> [> Subject: Re: Sorry Guys, but an enema is NOT sexy


Author:
enjoysit
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Date Posted: 17:34:42 08/07/09 Fri
I am usually put in the tub on my back with legs spread wide and told to relax. Thus the chance of an accident is minimal as I would have to clean up if there is a problem. Thus, I am good at holding until the required amount has been given.
[> [> Subject: Re: Sorry Guys, but an enema is NOT sexy


Author:
I can do it
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Date Posted: 14:02:15 08/08/09 Sat
I can understand how most people wouldn't like it, but some of us do. Like bondage and other fetishes, enemas are not mainstream but there apparently is more than a few of us.
An enema is intensly personal. The receiver is completely in the hands of the giver. And the results are not for those with a weak stomach.
[> [> Subject: Re: Sorry Guys, but an enema is NOT sexy


Author:
jim
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Date Posted: 12:39:09 08/30/09 Sun
Quite the contrary-if an enema is administered slowly and correctly, it can be very soothing, and yes, erotic. You need someone to show you.
[> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Lisa
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Date Posted: 13:57:33 08/07/09 Fri
Nothing wrong with doing it alone.
That is just one more option.
[> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Sam
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Date Posted: 17:46:38 08/07/09 Fri
I know the feeling. My ex wife gave herself enemas on very rare occasions, and would do it while I was out of the house. A few times when I was at home, she asked me to leave for a couple of hours so she could give herself a good cleaning out. I mean, I had to leave. I couldn't even come in the house.

She took enemas strictly for health reasons, mostly constipation problems, and never understood why I or anyone else could actually enjoy them. I never once got to give her one, even though I asked from time to time.

I am now divorced and have been dating a beautiful young woman in her mid 40s. She had never had an enema in her life, and I persuaded her to try it a few weeks ago. She took three enemas that one evening, and said that there was nothing to them, not as bad as she thought at first. She particularly liked the feeling of being cleaned out, but she hasn't found any sensual pleasure, yet. I've given her enemas on two occasions now, and hopefully will give her another one tonight. The two previous times I gave her three enemas in a series.

She has given them to me now, and says she enjoys doing it because it gives her control over me, and that she like what it does for me. Hopefully, in time, she will develop a sexual fondness for the enemas. That would be great!
[> [> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Ken
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Date Posted: 22:02:26 08/07/09 Fri
I know this question has been askrf and answered many times, but I am still having problems. I am mid 60s and take enemas alone. It has to do with the little amount of the enema solution I can get into me.
I had a BM yesterday, but had the urge to do a good clean out. I use a soda and salt solution and had the bag two feet above me. I could only take about pint and no more solution would would come out of the bag. So I expelled what I had taken and tried the rest of it. The rest of the soultion just stayed in the enema bag. I got up and hung it up another 6 inches higher.I laid back down on my back and it would only empty when I took the bag down and squeezed it. I can not take more than a pint and a half and rarely take one of the two quarts in the bag before I have to stop. I have stopped the flow, massaged my stomach breathed deep , panted like a dog, but to no avail.
Only one time in the last year, I was surprised that I could take amost all of the bag, which surprised me, and I can't figure out how that happened. I did get good results.
Perhaps if someone else administered the enema I might be able to take more and get a better enema out of it, but there is no one to do it.
Any constructive, worthwhile suggestions.
Thanks
[> [> [> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
To Ken
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Date Posted: 23:44:31 08/07/09 Fri
It's called "Old Age" honey. Welcome to the club.
[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Ken
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Date Posted: 02:28:09 08/08/09 Sat
I asked for constructive and worthwhile suggestions. I didn't get it in the above post.
I think I know for God's sake that I'm old, but it would be nice to hear from someone that can be more helpful.
ken
[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Davol
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Date Posted: 05:57:02 08/08/09 Sat
Ken, there can be lots of perfectly reasonable reasons. Are you sure the bag and hose are open? Hose twisted or kinked? Nozzle plugged? Some debris in the bag? Try draining the bag into the lavatory to make sure everything works. You could be the problem. How long has it been since a Dr. looked in there? The old hersey highway has to be clear.
[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Joel
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Date Posted: 13:03:36 08/14/09 Fri
Ken,

I am close to your age and have been taking enemas my entire life. In addition, I have over the years collected a small library of home medical/nursing books dating from about 1890 to 1960 (the so called "Golden Age" of enemas). In discussing enemas, most state (particularly those that are actual hospital nursing texts) that the amount of water to be given for a purgative enema, the type of enema that requires the most water, should be anywhere from one to three pints. So, what you consider your frustrating "limitation" is actually about the amount of water that is normally suggested. In my own usage of enemas, I rarely take fewer than four quarts of water before expelling. There are several reasons for this, one of which is that x-rays have shown that my colon is larger than normal, a situation which has been credited for my chronic constipation. Four quarts is about my physical limit and always produce complete purgation and marvelous cramps. For me, the deeply exhilarating physicality and sexual stimulation from an enema drive me to desire such a large amount of water. Those home medical books that are not true nursing texts, but are instead more along the lines of alternative (or quack) medical books are the only ones in which prescriptions for three and four-quart enemas are seen. In "Back to Eden", for example, Jethro Kloss advocates the use of just such an amount.

All this being said, my take on how much water a person uses is that it really doesn't matter. After all, one's preferences as to amount, type of equipment, or personal fantasies should not be made as part of a contest or challenge. If a pint of water moves you, physically and emotionally, I'd say you're doing the right thing for yourself.
[> [> [> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
redrub
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Date Posted: 16:13:43 10/08/09 Thu
Ken This is some thing that you could try, as this is the way that I like to take enemas. Place a plastic garbage on your bed, then a towel over that. Fill the enema bag and hang it so that it is just a little higher than your body. Insert the nozzle and open the clamp. Try to relax and and be prepared to wait for a long time for the enema to run in to you. It might take a few minutes or might take a half hour. But if you have the patience, just lay on your bed and wait, sooner or later the water will go in. Using too much pressure creates a problem as the valves in your rectum does not open, and that is the cause of the problem. If you wait until the rectum relaxes then you might find that a lot more water will drain in to you. Perhaps the whole bag will drain. So just try to relax, and after a while a little water will pass the valve in your rectum, then a little more and then a little more. After some time the valve in your rectum will let a whole lot more water enter your colon
That is my experience as I have the same problem too.
redrub
[> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Eric
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Date Posted: 15:31:30 08/13/09 Thu
I have a lady friend I've known for years and have tryed to convince her into have recreational sex with me for a long time. You know, "I made you feel good physically, you make me feel good physically" just as good friends. She says she likes me "as a friend" but needs to have an emotional connection before she'll have sex. Today just out of frustration, I don't know where it came from after again trying again to convince her to sleep with me, I blurted out, "Well can I talk you into coming over for some relaxing enemas. After an embarring minute or so she say that sounds like it would be fun. totally blew my mind!
We have a date tonite after work.
[> [> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
To Eric
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Date Posted: 15:52:47 08/13/09 Thu
Thank you for sharing that lovely story with all of us Eric.
[> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
to Ken
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Date Posted: 18:35:10 08/16/09 Sun
Davol covered quite a few possible problems. Will the enema flow out of the bag if you aim the nozzle into the sink or a tub? If not, and the bag is hung high enough, there is a blockage. Fix the blockage or buy a new bag.

Something else to consider, since you didn't say, but is the enema flowing into you but you simply can't hold more than a pint or so? If that's your problem, you are probably making the solution too strong. Try using plain tap water instead.
[> [> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
ken
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Date Posted: 00:49:24 08/17/09 Mon
Nothing is wrong with the bag, hose clamp, nozzle, or any part thereof. The flow is excellent, the bag is 2 feet high, and even 3 feet sometimes.The solution is plain tap water. I JUST CAN'T HOLD MUCH MORE than a pint to pint and a half. I'm very lucky to get almost a quart in before I have to stop and usually spill some before I get up from the back position on the floor to the toilet. It takes me three attempts to empty the1 3/4 qt.
I never could hold much even when I was a kid. Only rarely could I get a quart into me.
When I fill up the decending colin, that's it.
Here is what I think is the real problem. I'M TOO OLD!
I'm 70 and weigh 145 to 150 lbs. I give them to myself. On very rare ocassions when I have someone giving me the enema I MIGHT almost get a quart in, but that's all.
Thanks for the input
[> [> [> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
comment
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Date Posted: 21:32:33 09/22/09 Tue
No offense, but I don't find a woman taking a crap, to be even a little bit sexy. it's really disgusting. the mental image is the fat lady riding an elephant at the circus, and both of them dropping a load at the same time...not my thing guys 'an gals...sorry.
[> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Tom Bayley
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Date Posted: 07:14:56 09/24/09 Thu
Regarding Ken's problem with not being able to take more than a pint, try the following:- Use warm water with a small amount of salt added. Lie on your back, knees bent, with the nozzle inserted and the bag at 2'. If there is no flow, raise the bag a couple of feet until the flow starts and then drop back down to a level at which you are comfortable. Sometimes the nozzle will be blocked and raising the bag or moving the nozzle in and out will solve the problem. As others have said, the amount you can take can vary enormously.
[> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Barry
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Date Posted: 10:21:19 09/24/09 Thu
John's experience is my life to a T. I have been happily married for almost 20 years, but my wife is basically repulsed by enemas. Therefore, I have hid my obsession through the years by going to my mothers house to take enemas, or waiting for the family to be out of the house to give myself a shot. It sucks going solo.
[> [> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
phil
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Date Posted: 16:13:05 09/25/09 Fri
Barry, and others,

Enemas are neither shameful nor harmful. They are, perhaps, "ODD" to many people, but that doesn't mean they're not a legitimate, simple, and pleasurable activity, which sometimes has a sensual, and even sexual side to them.

Wives who are 'OPPOSED' to enema therapy just don't know that a good enema can be 'nutritive,' and therapeutic.

As the man in the house, you deserve the opportunity for plenty of quiet, bathroom time -- during which you can enjoy your enema administrations. What we have to remember is that it's MORE helpful than not, to use enemas, judiciously, and work toward educating those in opposition.

If you need help convincing your spouse about the value of enemas, write me directly.
[> Subject: Re: Still doing it alone?


Author:
Tom Bayley
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Date Posted: 13:27:51 09/25/09 Fri
Barry, join the gang!
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