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[> [> [> Subject: Additional thoughts to Claudia
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Author:
Fred4
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Date Posted: 08:28:34 07/15/09 Wed
I had some additional thoughts, Claudia, which may or may not make sense to you. If not, please excuse me.
I clearly am not medically trained, but can accept that there are medical bowel conditions that may require enemas to address.
My first thought though is to ask your son's doctor if there are any good solutions to his bowel problems that can be safely and satisfactorily addressed that eventually work away from the need for enemas. If there are, great; if not, then my comments below are offered (and maybe some still apply in the interim anyway).
First, it wouldn't be at all surprising if there were a sexual component, as well as medical one, from your or your husband's or both of your standpoints, for the enemas your husband gives you. Presumably his are as gentle to you as yours are to your son. You may or may not also give gentle enemas to your husband, again with perhaps a sexual component included. I say this is reasonable for enemas you get at any rate, because this is in exact opposite to what you had to endure as a child.
I'll suggest you get a separate enema bag for your son, and the reason will become apparent shortly. That is a negligible cost, so that shouldn't matter.
As your son approaches puberty (assuming he has to continue with period enemas), he will obviously notice the erection he gets which would be true for any male. It would be good if the doctor explained that to him as a normal event, and also that that's far from the only way he will get erections (in other words, as he enjoys them, as he invariably would, he won't think that the enema is the only way of getting them).
I would also think it would be good by then to have trained him in how to give himself enemas the same way you give them to him, slowly and gently, and stopping with any discomfort. As a person reaches puberty, he prefers to do things that are highly personal himself. Maybe you will continue to get involved in the timing, but eventually he would give himself the enema.
I happen to believe that people, even children, can read events perhaps more than adults realize. At some point in time, he may realize that your enemas not only have a medical but also a sexual component as well. When you, maybe later but maybe not, explain how they were undomfortably given to you as a child, unspokenly he may understand why your husband gives you gentle enemas from time to time now. You don't need to say anything further, just that you were the recipient of severe and not privately communicated enemas as a child yourself, a sharp contrast to what he gets from you.
It is far better though that if he thinks of it, he separates the bag from which his enemas come as being different from the bag from which you get your enemas from your husband. It may or may not occur to him that there is a sexual component to the latter; if it doesn't, fine. In any event, he should not have any objection that the equipment used on him is just for his use only.
These are some thoughts I have, which may or may not be something you want to consider. Best wishes in any event.
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