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Date Posted: Wednesday, July 10, 2013, 05:01: am
Greg, I know your perspective is different from mine, but I think there is a great opportunity there for you, and I wish I had had a like one for me.
Both you and your friend received enemas for constipation I infer on a fairly regular basis during your youth. Now, however, it is not a matter of family expectation for each of you that you get an enema on some sort of regular basis. Instead, you get one from him when you feel you need one, and vice versa.
Further, you can tell each other how you want it done, and any particulars about the process that you want strengthened or eased. What one chooses need not be what the other chooses.
I think there is a potentially tremendous benefit for the two of you to discuss beyond the immediate procedure, a lot of the background for each of you. This would include when did each of you start getting enemas, why, and how frequently. What did you feel about it, over the time from your early youth to the present, including any embarrassments, discomfort, hating or accepting the prospect of getting the next enema, what privacy or lack thereof you had in evacuating. The reason I suggest this is that far from everyone gets enemas on a regular basis, and that you and your friend who did, can sort of freely process your thoughts and feelings about this.
I'd also say there is a bit of envy on my part for the situation you are in. Although in my case of extreme but infrequent childhood enemas (all but one for illness), I felt there were "perfect" kids who must have handled similar extreme enemas but felt there was nothing to them. In retrospect, I can think of at least one or two of these people or others later who looked like them, who I could have gotten to give me an enema, and if it could also be to give that person an enema, great, that would have had a tremendously positive effect in processing through psychological effects. I very definitely should have done it. Although the sources are different for you than for me, I very much envy the opportunity you have for expressing and processing your feelings with someone like your friend.
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