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Date Posted: 09:17:17 08/21/17 Mon
Author: new TC submits paperwork
Subject: Many people will come here with horror stories about transfers, sadly; however, the most professional and courteous way to work this is to speak with the TC, explain the reasons for the transfer, keep it simple and don't bring emotional aspects into it.
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's message, "Changing schools" on 07:49:33 08/21/17 Mon
Like with anything in life that you leave, a job, a relationship, a school - whatever - you need to be upfront with the individuals involved. Look at it this way, would you leave your job without telling your employer? Would you drop a relationship and leave the other person hanging?
Keep the reasons why you feel a change is needed unemotional or personal. Keep professional about it - if you really feel a change is needed.
Being upfront and without dragging emotional/personal issues into it can also be helpful to the TC. After all, maybe the TC is unaware that you are not happy, the TC may be willing to put in changes to help things, but to leave without an explanation as to why causes misgivings and distrust by others.
Up and leaving without a word is partly why you will have the horror stories, because some have done that and let the new TC just file paperwork. Nor is it fair to drag every emotional or personal aspect into things, that also leaves a sour taste for many. Mostly it's not fair for your current TC to find out that you've left that way; upset or no information.
Many TCs are open to discussion about the need for a change or that they may have overlooked some things that may be important to you and your dancer. After all, you are a customer, and for many TCs, they do want to work with their families and dancers (happy dance family).
Be sure to thank the TC for the opportunity of being able to dance with the school and helping your dancer reach the point where he/she is current, because in all reality, the TC did help your dancer to some degree. It's called respect for their time with this school.
Then let it go. Don't get negative and move on to the new school.
And when you do leave, don't go around gossiping about this or that in the former school. No need, right? You've left and it doesn't apply to you any longer.
We have moved schools for various reasons over the years and the above really works the best. The key is to remain clear, concise, and mostly - positive. There is no need to be negative about leaving one school for another. It truly shows that you respect your current TC and you respect the art/sport.
Respect will go a long way in this small world of Irish Dance, trust me on that one.
The dark side of a transfer is that, unfortunately, there are some who will gossip about you and the move; true colors and emotions will come up with some as well - you already know who will be like that, because they are usually the negative influence that is present in any dance school. And that's because they really don't respect anyone else. There are some TCs who may be a little put off by your actions, and that is human nature, but if you really work at showing them respect for what they do, and that it was not about them, personally, they do come around.
Sadly, there are those "horror" stories of TCs snubbing people, etc. Some of that is urban legend. Irish dance is really a small world and it doesn't play well with other TCs. Further, those stories, usually have some other basis to them, too, and it's not really about being snubbed, but for some (the negative people), they would thing that if they aren't hugged and praised in public, they are being snubbed.
So, a word of advice, take any negative stories with a grain of salt, talk with your TC, keep your head high and keep positive and respectful.
All the best.
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