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Subject: Re: No Way Out!


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 11:56:19 01/18/08 Fri
In reply to: Lost Unicorn 's message, "No Way Out!" on 00:54:00 01/18/08 Fri

Dear Lost Unicorn,

Have you given any consideration to adoption? I know that many women at first say no way - but it is a very loving option for you to consider. Of course, it's not easy either- but think of how unselfish an act it is and that there is a loving couple praying right now for someone to choose that option so that they may have a child.

There are also many resources for financial help out there. Have you checked into that? Every pregnancy center in the US will have a list of resources available to you - look up a center near you at this site:

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

A "red flag" by your name would certainly be a VERY big factor in not going through with an abortion. I urge you to consider adoption for sure.

Stop beating yourself up too emotionally about all this. Things happen, we all make mistakes - but everything also happens for a reason - so trust that God allowed this in your life for many reasons and that you have some things to learn through it all, OK?

The best thing you can do is to get Still - listen to what God is saying to you - pray about what HE would want you to do.

Hang in there - it's all going to be OK.

Kris

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[> Subject: Re: No Way Out!


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Pat
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Date Posted: 16:00:11 01/18/08 Fri

Hi, Lost Unicorn! Love your name.

First of all, if you don't want an abortion, don't have one! In our experience, a woman doesn't stop the cycle of unplanned pregnancy until she carries a baby to term. There is an unconscious urge to replace the baby given up in abortion. You have already gone through this cycle once, and it looks like you're doing it again. And obviously, it's time to stop letting men take advantage of you, putting you at risk. Men who would put you at that kind of risk are only looking for one thing: pleasure. In your circumstances, you can do without that. Really! 15 minutes of pleasure isn't worth the risk. You deserve a man who will cherish you and your children, and such a man will never ask for it in the first place. Telling a man "no" is a really good test of his character. Wanting your body and nothing else means that he just wants to use you at your expense, nothing more. There is no real love or affection attached to it, no matter what he may TELL you.

Obviously, life isn't easy for you. But there is help available. Start by going to a crisis pregnancy agency. You can find one here: www.pregnancycenters.org (I was going to give you a clickable link, but voy.com isn't cooperating today.) They can help you with many of your resource problems. As for your medical problems, do some online research. There are good natural alternatives for some of these things.

Psychological stress and worry are heightened by your anxiety about this decision. Gestational diabetes can be treated naturally in the same way as other forms of diabetes. I don't know for sure that a given herb is safe for pregnancy, but by the time gestational diabetes becomes a problem, the baby's body is formed. I use Gymnema sylvestre for my heredity tendency for diabetes, and I can tell you that for me, at least, it is highly effective. I take one a day. As for sciatica, if I am not mistaken, that is a problem of the bones being out of joint. I recommend you find someone who knows how to do low velocity manipulation. They can put the joints back easily, and these treatments tend to last for weeks. Pregnancy tends to aggravate this situation for two reasons. The first is that it shifts the center of gravity of the body, and the other is that the joints loosen up in preparation for birth. Another technique that works for me with spinal dislocations (but not for everyone, but it won't hurt a thing to try) is to lie on your back on a firm surface (carpeted floor is fine). Place something under your head that will elevate it 6 to 8 inches from the floor, and another thing under your knees that elevates them the same amount. Place your hands on your bellybutton (or as close as you can come) and your elbows on the floor and totally relax. Hold this position for about 15 minutes. Then roll over onto all fours and get up.

Keep in touch! We will be here for you.


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