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Subject: Re: Need Advise!

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Pat

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Date Posted: 18:33:25 04/14/08 Mon
In reply to: veronica 's message, "Need Advise!" on 16:45:48 04/14/08 Mon

Hi, Veronica,

I'm just going to ask you, why are you even WITH this man? He's two-timing you, using you for personal gratification. You deserve better! I'd leave him immediately if I were you. And don't let him persuade you to harm yourself and your baby. Your baby doesn't deserve a father who thinks he or she should be torn apart and killed.

Please cancel your appointment. The mere fact he asked you to harm your baby means he isn't fit for you to have anything to do with. You don't want this abortion. Don't have it!

There's nothing confusing about this. You have bonded with him because that's what happens when you have sex with someone. But like I said, you deserve better. He's not fit for you. The sooner you break it off with him, the less pain you will have in the long run.

Telling your daughter and your family won't be easy. I think I'd tell everyone as little as you can get away with. Tell them you're pregnant and you will have the child. I don't see that you are under any obligation to talk about the "father".

Be strong. Don't cave into this man who wants to harm the two of you. Don't let him badger you either. Cut all ties with him. Don't talk to him. Don't have anything to do with him. Tell him that you are breaking it up, and you want nothing further to do with him. When he's no longer messing with your head, you will be able to think more clearly.

Please email Kris, and tell her to give me your email address. I'll email you so we can keep in touch. You are probably going to need some support. I want to provide that to you. Feel free to contact me any time. I don't come to this board that often, so I might miss your replies, and I don't want to do that.

Hugs,
Pat

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Pat
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Date Posted: 18:59:52 04/14/08 Mon

Veronica, it's me again. Voy wouldn't let me edit my message to you. :(

Here's what I'd tell your daughter. Tell her that the man abused you emotionally, and that's why you won't be together anymore. You can tell your family the same thing. You can also tell them you don't want to talk about the father of your child. You made a mistake, but now you are going to do the right thing.

I know you don't want him to leave you. But if you have an abortion, you won't want to stay with him, because he made you go against your convictions. I can't think of anything more abusive than demanding you do that.

Be careful. You don't know what he'll do. That's one reason I'd stay away from him. Tell him you don't want him in your life, so he has nothing to worry about.

Sorry I came on so strong, but I just feel that you need to take the bull by the horns here. I also wouldn't trust him around my daughter if I were in your position! Given the way he is acting, I wouldn't trust him as far as I could spit.

Like I said, having sex with someone causes bonding. That will be the hardest part. But you deserve someone who will cherish you and all your children, and you won't be free to meet that person as long as you are entangled with this loser.

Hugs,
Pat