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[> Subject: Re: Unplanned Pregnancy
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Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 08:34:05 03/07/07 Wed
Hi, Kris,
I was about your age when I became pregnant with my last child (we raised seven). I desperately didn't want to be pregnant, because I wasn't very healthy. But abortion was out of the question. I am SO glad God gave him to us; he has been a huge blessing to everyone. He plays classical guitar very well, and delighted me for hours with his music. He was the family member who was available to stay with his grandmother (who had been incredibly generous with us for many years) so she could have her dream of spending the rest of her life in her apartment. And he spent a year in Iraq on our behalf, helping to free the people from tyranny. He is married and they are expecting. I don't know what we would do without him!
Your child is a product of the love between you and your husband, and also a gift from God. Having an abortion could have terrible repercussions for all of you. Your other children will either find out or sense something isn't right, and it can lead to great insecurity or survivor guilt. Your chances of destroying your marriage are greater than keeping it intact. You run the risk of serious harm or even death. Abortion is not safe. And this child could be the one who will take care of you someday.
As for getting your life back, I understand, but please keep in mind that you can simplify your care of your baby, and you can also learn to include your baby in your plans in some cases, and do very well. You will get your life back regardless, in just a couple of years. And you can go ahead and get your tubes tied in the meantime, although if it is done wrong, it can cause problems. You are close to the age when fertility drops off drastically anyway. Be creative and think outside the box. I can't begin to tell you all the wonderful things I was able to do in spite of or BECAUSE of our having so many children. But here's the short list: I got a college degree (after we had four children, three of them preschoolers), cofounded a national civil rights group (which is still going strong), learned the law and learned how to operate in a courtroom in as competent a manner as any lawyer, learned to read 14 new languages, learned two new musical instruments, learned several new ways of expressing myself artistically, supervised the building of our home, maintained a herd of goats for a number of years, learned the ethnobotany of the Sonoran Desert, earned a black belt in taekwondo, and so forth. I would say offhand I had my life AND my children, and if I can do it, so can you! And now that our children are away from home, I am enjoying my life immensely; I have launched into a career as an artist, and I travel to do scenic and nature photography. And I design web sites, and spend a lot of time online talking to people. And I now have a second degree black belt.
Your baby is depending on you for your protection. Please protect your baby.
Hugs,
Pat
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