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Subject: Re: Need Advise!

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Pat

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Date Posted: 18:59:52 04/14/08 Mon
In reply to: veronica 's message, "Need Advise!" on 16:45:48 04/14/08 Mon

Veronica, it's me again. Voy wouldn't let me edit my message to you. :(

Here's what I'd tell your daughter. Tell her that the man abused you emotionally, and that's why you won't be together anymore. You can tell your family the same thing. You can also tell them you don't want to talk about the father of your child. You made a mistake, but now you are going to do the right thing.

I know you don't want him to leave you. But if you have an abortion, you won't want to stay with him, because he made you go against your convictions. I can't think of anything more abusive than demanding you do that.

Be careful. You don't know what he'll do. That's one reason I'd stay away from him. Tell him you don't want him in your life, so he has nothing to worry about.

Sorry I came on so strong, but I just feel that you need to take the bull by the horns here. I also wouldn't trust him around my daughter if I were in your position! Given the way he is acting, I wouldn't trust him as far as I could spit.

Like I said, having sex with someone causes bonding. That will be the hardest part. But you deserve someone who will cherish you and all your children, and you won't be free to meet that person as long as you are entangled with this loser.

Hugs,
Pat

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