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Date Posted: 09:09:47 06/12/09 Fri
You bring up an interesting point - however, that's so "out there" and not within a rhelm of reality at this point in time. I read your post, and tried to figure out what you are really saying - you asked..."Why is it assumed that when birth control tragically fails, that congratulations are in order. - Instead, we need to be able to talk freely and say "No, congratulations are not in order for this situation!" without being labelled in a negative way."
I respond, that when b/c fails, I would still offer congratulations - I still believe they are in order for such a situation. You may not be happy about it at first, but if you recieved love and support from friends and family, you would hopefully realize that it is a blessing, not a curse to have the privilege to carry a child.
I think our society is too short sighted - consider the impact 5 years - 10 years - 20 years down the road. Should you give birth, this child will grow up, and be your son/daughter - what have you said to them, their value, their worth? How would you feel if your birth mother said such things about you?
You also commented that "Instead of having to choose between the emotionally life-destroying choice of being parents when we don't want to be or aborting an unborn child, why can't the medical community work more extensively toward Fetal Adoption"
"Life Destroying" - ??!! I can't imagine such an attitude - but I do say that if you feel a child destorys your life, you should do something permanent to avoid having one - get a tubal ligation for goodness sakes.
I would also contend that transplanting a baby before full gestation would have just as much emotional impact as abortion. Not to mention, what kind of awful experimentation would be taking place to reach such a goal?
Anyhow, Westiny, I think you should maybe seek counseling and deal with the strong negative feelings you have about childbearing.
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