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Subject: Re: Terminated the pregnancy

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Kristen

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Date Posted: 08/14/09 12:57pm
In reply to: Shellie 's message, "Re: Terminated the pregnancy" on 08/14/09 12:28pm

Hi Shellie -

Thanks for responding to the post. I would just like to clear some things up regarding what I wrote yesterday. First I would like to thank you for approving the post in the first place. I know my views are not shared by most people on this board and I applaud you for allowing them to be shared anyway.

Second, I really want to be clear that I am absolutely not saying abortion is empowering and lacking in any physical or emotional pain. My experience was far from empowering and "pain-free." My intent in posting about my decision was to let other women who may come onto this board know that there is someone out there to talk to should they choose termination, and that termination may not necessarily be wrong in every case. Of course I have dealt with the entire spectrum of emotion from regret to anger to relief. For me though, this was still the right decision to make. I am still spending much of my days coming to terms with my decision, which I would have done even if I had chosen to carry out the pregnancy. Instead of dealing with the emotional pain of terminating a pregnancy, I would be dealing with the emotional pain of carrying a child I was in no way ready to have. I'm not sure I'm making sense, but I wanted to be very clear that I am absolutely NOT indifferent to the situation I'm in, and my pain goes far beyond just what I physically experienced.

I very much appreciate all the support your messages have contained, although we stand on opposite sides of the fence. I hope I have not shown disrespect in sharing my views here. I think I'm just asking for everyone to hesitate before jumping to conclusions about each poster's situation and mental state. Some of us make this decision from a very well-informed place, and have the emotional capacity to deal with grief in a healthy way. That's all I'm asking. Before jumping in with the facts and statistics and drug abuse, alcohol addiction and suicide rates, maybe try listening to the words of each poster first. A decision to terminate may not always be the decision that brings doom to everyone.

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